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Nafsi Yangu Changa Mpendwa: Mchoro wa Maisha Yako

Lengo si kukufanya uwe na fahamu. Lengo ni kuwa katika hali ile ya ajabu ya kuelimika, inayozaa thamani ya ndani ya nafsi, ambayo itafanya kuwa na fahamu kuwa jambo lisiloepukika.

Naona nianze na tangazo dogo… nalo ni kwamba nataka unitumie mchoro wako mwenyewe wa maisha yako ili niuchapishe kwenye blogu hii, ili wote wanufaike na kujifunza. Jisikie huru kutuma kwenye namba yangu ya WhatsApp kupitia kiungo hapa chini…

Unaweza kuzungumza, kuandika na kurekodi kwa lugha yako ya mama, lugha yako ya asili.

Tunapozuia hadithi zetu kwa lugha ya kigeni kama Kiingereza, tunazima sauti za wazee wengi ambao huenda hawawezi kuongea lugha hiyo ya kigeni tuliyolazimishwa kupitia ukoloni. Pia roho ya ujumbe na funzo la hadithi huenda lisinaswe kikamilifu tunapoongea kwa Kiingereza au lugha nyingine yoyote ya kigeni.

“Watu waliopoteza hadithi zao wamepoteza ramani ya njia.”

Afrika ina zaidi ya lugha 2,000, na ChatGPT na akili bandia (AI) nyingine zinazitambua 26 tu kati yake. Kwa hiyo, kama zinatambua lugha 26 tu, vipi kuhusu zilizobaki katika bara hili? Maana yake ni kwamba hadithi zetu hazisimuliwi kwa uhalisia wake. Jisikie huru kusimulia hadithi yako kwa lugha yako ya asili.

“Kama hujui kilichotokea KABLA yako, hutaelewa kinachotokea KARIBU nawe.” Hadithi si burudani tu. Hadithi hutuambia sisi ni nani.

Hutufundisha tulikotoka, tunachothamini, tulichovuka salama, na tunachoweza kuwa.

Watu wanapoisahau historia yao, huanza kutangatanga. Hupoteza kujiamini. Hupoteza mwelekeo. Huanza kuishi kulingana na maana za mafanikio zilizotolewa na watu wengine.

Lakini watu wanapokumbuka hadithi zao, hujikumbuka wenyewe.

Na wanapojikumbuka wenyewe, huipata njia yao tena.

Jifunze hadithi yako. Ilinde hadithi yako. Iendeleze hadithi yako kwa wengine.

Muda mrefu kabla ya vipaza sauti na Wi-Fi. Muda mrefu kabla ya makundi ya WhatsApp na mitandao ya kijamii. Muda mrefu kabla ya vitabu, mitambo ya kuchapa na podikasti — mababu zetu walikusanyika kuzunguka moto.

Wazia tu. Moto katikati. Wazee wameketi. Watoto wameketi chini miguuni mwao. Anga la usiku likiwa kubwa juu yao. Na katika nafasi iliyo kati ya miali ya moto na giza — hadithi.

Walipitisha hekima kupitia hadithi. Utamaduni kupitia hadithi. Utambulisho kupitia hadithi. Matumaini kupitia hadithi. Hadithi zilitufundisha sisi ni nani. Hadithi zilitukumbusha tulikotoka. Hadithi zilitusaidia kuwaza tunakoweza kwenda.

Mwanahistoria, msimulizi wa hadithi na mwanamuziki wa Afrika Magharibi (griot) alikuwepo kwa sababu jamii isiyo na hadithi yake ni jamii isiyo na roho. Griot hakuwa mburudishaji tu. Alikuwa kumbukumbu hai. Mlinzi wa nasaba, vita, uhamaji, miungano, na hekima. Kabla ya chochote kuandikwa, griot alikibeba — akikikariri, akikifanyia mazoezi, na kukipitisha kwa uangalifu wa mtu aliyeelewa kwamba kusahau ni aina ya kufa.

Mapokeo ya izibongo ya Wazulu na Waxhosa — mashairi ya sifa — yalitumikia kazi ileile takatifu. Kukariri shairi lako la sifa ilikuwa kujiweka katika wakati na katika jamii. Lilisema: Najua natoka wapi. Najua watu wangu walisimamia nini. Najua nguvu inayotiririka katika damu yangu.

Kama methali isemavyo, “Mtu hazikwi msituni na kusahaulika.” Hadithi yako ni muhimu. Inastahili kusimuliwa. Inastahili kukumbukwa. Na ni wajibu wako — si wa mtu mwingine — kuisimulia.

Simulia hadithi yako. Simulia hadithi ya bibi yako. Simulia hadithi ya jamii yako. Kwa sababu hadi simba ajifunze kuandika, kila hadithi itamtukuza mwindaji. Kwa muda mrefu mno, hadithi ya Afrika imesimuliwa na wale waliokuja kuichukulia vitu. Na mkoloni. Na mgunduzi. Na mwandishi wa habari aliyeshuka kwa saa arobaini na nane tu. Na mtengenezaji wa filamu aliyeonyesha njaa na vita tu. Na kitabu cha shule kilichoandikwa na mtu ambaye hakuwahi kukanyaga bara hili zuri la Afrika. Toleo lao la hadithi halikuwa hadithi kamili kamwe. Halikuwa hata hadithi ya kweli. Lilikuwa hadithi iliyoundwa kuhalalisha yaliyokuwa yakitufanyia.

Basi andika yako mwenyewe. Sema yako mwenyewe. Fundisha yako mwenyewe na ishi ukweli wako mwenyewe, kwa sababu hadithi tunazosimulia huunda maisha tunayoishi — na watoto wa Afrika wanastahili hadithi inayoanzia katika ukuu, si katika minyororo.

Kijana asiyehisi upendo wa kijiji ataichoma ili ahisi joto lake.

Lakini kabla sijaendelea zaidi — nataka unifanyie jambo moja.

Weka simu yako chini. Si kwenye paja lako. Si ikiwa imegeuzwa uso chini mezani. Si ikiwa imeegemezwa kwenye goti lako ukifikiri siwezi kuiona. Chini. Kabisa chini. Kwa sababu ninachotaka kusema kina thamani zaidi kuliko arifa yoyote iliyowasha skrini hiyo sasa hivi.

Na sisemi hivyo kama ombi. Nasema kama changamoto.

Naona baadhi yenu mkifanya ule utelezeshaji wa taratibu, wa kawaida. Simu inapotelea mfukoni kana kwamba hakuna kilichotokea. Nashukuru juhudi hiyo. Inahesabika.

Kwa sababu hiki ndicho nilichokiona. Tunaishi katika ulimwengu ambamo mtu anaweza kukaa chumbani chenye watu wengi — na akawa peke yake kabisa. Unaweza kuwepo kimwili na kuwa mbali kiakili maili elfu moja. Unaweza kuonekana upo hapa, ukitikisa kichwa kana kwamba unasikiliza, na usipokee neno hata moja lililosemwa. Tumeimudu sanaa ya kuwa mahali bila kuwepo kweli.

Kifaa kilicho mfukoni mwako ni hodari sana katika kukusaidia kutoweka. Na sitashindana nacho. Kwa hiyo nakuomba — kwa sasa tu — kiweke kando.

Kwa sababu nataka kukuambia jambo. Na nataka uulisikie kweli.

Niliwahi kumuuliza mwanafunzi mmoja simu yake iligharimu kiasi gani. Alifikiri kidogo na kusema — dola mia tano. Kwa kujiamini. Hata kwa fahari. Kana kwamba alifanya utafiti na kupata bei nzuri.

Nilimtazama na kumwambia: umesahau kusoma lebo ya bei.

Alinitazama kana kwamba nimesema jambo la ajabu kidogo. Ambalo, kweli — pengine nilifanya hivyo.

Lakini nilimaanisha.

Kwa sababu bei iliyobandikwa si bei halisi. Bei iliyobandikwa ni kile kinachogharimu duka. Bei yako — bei unayolipa wewe binafsi — ni kitu kingine kabisa.

Hivi ndivyo nilivyoikokotoa.

Mtu wa kawaida hutumia saa saba kwa siku akiangalia skrini. Si akifanya kazi. Si akibuni. Si akijenga kitu kitakachomzidi maishani. Ni kuangalia tu. Kutelezesha. Kutumia. Saa saba kwa siku ni saa arobaini na tisa kwa wiki. Hiyo ni karibu siku mbili kamili kila wiki zinazokabidhiwa kwa kifaa.

Siku mbili. Kila wiki. Zimepotea.

Na nataka kuwa muadilifu — baadhi ya muda huo kweli una manufaa. Ramani. Ujumbe. Utafiti. Naelewa. Lakini tuwe wakweli kwa kila mmoja. Sote tunajua saa hizo saba hazielekei huko. Saa hizo saba zinaelekea kwenye video ya sekunde kumi na tano ya paka akifanya jambo la kuvutia kidogo — kisha nyingine — kisha arobaini zaidi — na ghafla ni saa nane usiku na hujajifunza chochote isipokuwa kwamba paka, inaonekana, hawaheshimu nafasi ya mtu binafsi.

Sasa chukua saa hizo na ujiulize swali tofauti. Si nilitazama nini — bali ningeweza kufanya nini? Ningeweza kukuza ujuzi gani? Ningeweza kusoma kitabu gani, kuwa na mazungumzo gani, kutatua tatizo gani, kuwa toleo gani la nafsi yangu — katika saa zilezile kabisa?

Zidisha uwezo huo uliopotea kwa mwaka mzima. Kwa faida zinazoongezeka za maarifa, ujuzi, nidhamu, na uhusiano wa kibinadamu ambazo hukujenga — kwa sababu ulikuwa unatazama badala ya kutenda.

Na kwa maoni yangu — kwa makadirio ya chini — simu hiyo inakugharimu angalau dola elfu ishirini kwa mwaka. Si kuimiliki. Ni kuitazama. Kuimiliki ni nafuu. Kuitazama ndiko kunakokufilisi. Si katika akaunti yako ya benki — bali katika uwezo wako. Katika muda wako. Katika maisha ambayo ungeweza kuwa unayaishi.

Dola elfu ishirini kwa mwaka — kutazama tu.

Sasa, siwaambii mtupe simu zenu baharini. Ingawa nakiri — siku fulani — wazo hilo limepita akilini mwangu.

Sisimami hapa nikijifanya sina simu. Kutelezesha kidogo, burudani kidogo — hiyo ni ya kibinadamu. Hiyo ni sawa. Kupumzika si adui. Matumizi yasiyo na akili yaliyojificha kama mapumziko — huyo ndiye adui. Kuna tofauti kati ya kuchagua kupumzika na kuangukia kwenye vikengeusha-fikira. Moja hukurejeshea nguvu. Nyingine huiba kimyakimya huku ukitabasamu kwa skrini.

Lakini dola elfu ishirini? Hakuna yeyote katika chumba hiki anayepaswa kulipa bei hiyo ili akae tu.

Sasa — hili ndilo mfano ninalotaka ulitafakari.

Wazia wanafunzi wawili. Shule moja. Darasa moja. Mwalimu mmoja. Fursa zilezile zimewekwa mbele yao kama karata mezani. Ukiwatazama siku ya kwanza — huwezi kuwatofautisha.

Mwanafunzi A hurudi nyumbani kila jioni na kutumia saa tatu kwenye simu yake. Si saa tatu akifanya kitu na simu yake — ni kuwa tu juu yake. Reels, klipu, vivutio, drama, kelele. Saa tatu kila usiku, kila usiku, kwa miaka mitatu ya shule ya sekondari.

Sasa kabla hujamhukumu Mwanafunzi A — Mwanafunzi A hafanyi chochote ambacho mamilioni ya watu hawafanyi sasa hivi tunapoongea. Mwanafunzi A ni binadamu wa kawaida kabisa tu. Hakuna mhalifu katika hadithi hii. Ni lebo ya bei tu ambayo hakuna aliyeionyesha.

Mwanafunzi B hurudi nyumbani na kutumia saa moja kati ya hizo kusoma — chochote, kitu chochote, kinachovuta udadisi wake. Saa moja ya kujiwekea maarifa kwa makusudi. Kila usiku. Kwa miaka mitatu.

Sasa fanya hesabu pamoja nami.

Miaka mitatu. Saa moja kwa usiku. Saa mia tatu sitini na tano kwa mwaka.

Katika miaka mitatu, Mwanafunzi B ametumia zaidi ya saa elfu moja kujenga kitu ndani yake — maarifa, msamiati, mawazo, mtazamo, uwezo wa kufikiri kwa uwazi na kuongea vizuri — wakati Mwanafunzi A alitumia saa elfu moja hizohizo akiwatazama watu wengine wakiishi maisha yao kwenye skrini ya inchi nne.

Shule moja. Mwalimu mmoja. Mstari mmoja wa kuanzia.

Lakini hawamalizii mahali pamoja.

Na hapa ndipo sehemu inayopaswa kukufanya usijisikie vizuri kidogo: Mwanafunzi A si mvivu. Mwanafunzi A si mtu mbaya. Mwanafunzi A hafanyi hata kitu kinachohisi kuwa kibaya wakati huo — kwa sababu hakihisi kamwe. Kinahisi kama mapumziko. Kinahisi kama si kitu. Ndiyo maana kinagharimu sana.

Mwanafunzi A hakuacha tu kusoma lebo ya bei.

Kwa hiyo nitakuuliza mara moja tu zaidi.

Simu yako iko chini?

Vizuri. Wale ambao bado wanaificha — nawaona. Tutalishughulikia hilo baadaye.

Kwa sababu kinachofuata — kina thamani ya kila sekunde ya umakini wako.

Vuta pumzi.

Si pumzi ya adabu. Pumzi ya kweli. Jaza mapafu yako. Ishikilie. Iachie.

Sasa tazama huku na huku katika chumba hiki. Si simu yako. Si dari. Nyuso zinazokuzunguka. Tazama kweli. Kwa sababu siku moja — miaka ijayo — huenda usikumbuke kila neno lililosemwa katika chumba hiki leo. Huenda usikumbuke ni nani alisimama kwenye jukwaa hili. Lakini huenda ukakumbuka hisia. Wakati ambapo kitu fulani kilibadilika kimya ndani yako. Wakati ambapo wazo lilifika na likakataa kuondoka.

Nyakati hizo ni muhimu kuliko tunavyofahamu.

Na hili hapa ni jambo ningependa mtu angeniambia nilipokuwa na umri wako: karibu kila kitu maishani hutokea kwa mara ya kwanza — na kwa mara ya mwisho. Hatujui tu ni wakati gani ni upi.

Fikiria hilo.

Mara ya mwisho unapocheza mpira na marafiki wa utotoni kabla maisha hayajawavuta wote pande tofauti — hutajua kuwa ni mara ya mwisho. Utafikiri tu ni Jumanne alasiri. Mazungumzo ya mwisho ya kawaida na mtu unayempenda. Siku ya mwisho shuleni kabla kila kitu hakijabadilika. Kicheko cha mwisho kabla umbali haujamgeuza mtu huyo kuwa kumbukumbu.

Hujui ni wakati upi ni wa mwisho.

Mungu pekee ndiye anayejua hadithi yetu tangu mwanzo hadi mwisho. Tunapanga mipango. Tunasema nitafanya kesho. Tunasema siku moja. Tunasema baadaye. Lakini kesho ni zawadi ambayo hakuna aliyeketi katika chumba hiki aliyeahidiwa. Si mimi. Si wewe. Hakuna hata mmoja wetu.

Na sisemi hivyo kukutisha. Nasema kinyume kabisa.

Kwa sababu swali la kweli si je, nikiishiwa na muda? Swali la kweli ni — nifanye nini na muda nilio nao sasa hivi? Nitajitokeza vipi kikamilifu? Nitafinya vipi kila funzo kutoka kila mazungumzo, kila nafasi ya kujifunza, kila nafasi ya kujenga, kila nafasi ya kuwa kitu ninachojivunia?

Kwa sababu hakuna kitu — hakuna kitu — kinachodumu milele.

Kwa hiyo nilijiwekea kanuni. Na nataka kuishiriki nawe.

Dakika hii hasa isichukuliwe kama mechi ya kufuzu. Wala mfululizo wa majaribio. Wala mchujo. Wala raundi ya awali au hatua ya makundi. Dakika hii — sasa hivi — ni Fainali ya Kombe la Dunia kama ni mpira wa miguu. Ni Masters kama ni gofu. Ni Kombe la Dunia la Kriketi la ICC kama ni kriketi. Ni Kombe la Dunia la Raga kama ni raga. Ni Grand Slam kama ni tenisi. Ni Michezo ya Olimpiki kama ni riadha.

Mmepata hoja.

Chukulia kila dakika ya kila siku kama Fainali. Mchezo wa mwisho. Ule unaohesabika. Ule ambao hutaupata tena. Ucheze kana kwamba kila kitu kinaitegemea — kwa sababu kwa njia ya kimya, ya kweli, kinaitegemea. Si kwa sababu maisha yanapaswa kuhisi shinikizo. Bali kwa sababu yanapaswa kuhisi kuwa yana maana. Kwa sababu uko macho. Kwa sababu una shukrani. Kwa sababu unaelewa kwamba wakati huu hasa — chumba hiki, nyuso hizi, mazungumzo haya — hautatokea tena kwa namna hii hasa.

Basi tuufanye uhesabike.

Sasa — hili ndilo jambo kuhusu Fainali.

Hazitokei tu.

Hakuna anayeingia uwanjani katika Fainali ya Kombe la Dunia bila miaka ya maandalizi nyuma yake. Hakuna anayesimama kwenye jukwaa la washindi wa Olimpiki bila maelfu ya saa za kazi ya makusudi, ya nidhamu, isiyo na mvuto ambayo hakuna aliyewahi kuipiga picha wala kuipigia makofi. Fainali ni wakati unaoonekana. Lakini nyuma ya kila Fainali kuna usanifu usioonekana — muundo, mfumo, mpango — uliolifanya liwezekane.

Springboks hawakushinda Kombe la Dunia la Raga kwa kujitokeza siku hiyo na kutumaini mema. All Blacks hawakuwa All Blacks kwa kipaji pekee. Kila timu inayoinua kombe hufanya hivyo kwa sababu mtu fulani, mahali fulani, aliketi muda mrefu kabla ya mashindano kuanza na kuuliza swali mahususi sana:

Hasa tunajenga nini — na tutakijengaje?

Na swali hilo — swali hilo moja, lenye nguvu — ndilo ninalotaka kukuuliza leo.

Mchoro wa maisha yako ni upi?

Nataka kukuuliza swali, nalo ni — kuna nini katika mchoro wa maisha yako?

Hiki ndicho kipindi muhimu na cha maana zaidi katika maisha yako, kwa sababu unachofanya sasa na unachoamua sasa katika umri huu kinaweza kabisa kuamua maisha yako yataelekea upande gani. Na kila jengo linapojengwa — kwa kawaida kuna mhandisi wa usanifu anayechora mchoro. Na mchoro huo hutumika kama kielelezo, kama mwongozo, kama mfano kwa wale watakaojenga jengo. Na jengo halijengwi vizuri bila mchoro mzuri, imara na thabiti. Kila mmoja wenu yuko katika mchakato wa kujenga muundo wa maisha yenu. Na swali ni kama mna mchoro unaofaa, imara na thabiti.

Na iwe unalitambua au huli — tayari unajenga kitu. Sasa hivi. Kwa kila uchaguzi unaofanya, kila tabia unayoishikilia, kila mtu unayemruhusu aingie maishani mwako, kila asubuhi unapoamua jinsi ya kuitumia. Unaweka matofali. Swali si kama unajenga.

Swali ni: unajenga kwa kutumia mchoro gani?

Kwa sababu baadhi ya watu wanajenga kwa mchoro waliokabidhiwa na mtu mwingine — mchoro uliobuniwa kwa ajili ya maisha ya mtu mwingine, mwisho wa safari wa mtu mwingine, maana ya mafanikio ya mtu mwingine. Nao watafanya kazi kwa bidii, na watakuwa na shughuli nyingi, na siku moja watatazama juu na kugundua kwamba walijenga kitu kisichofaa. Walitumia maisha yao yote kucheza Fainali — lakini kwa timu isiyo yao. Katika uwanja usio wao. Katika mchezo ambao hawakuwahi kuuchagua.

Sitaki hilo kwako.

Kwa hiyo kama utanipa muda wako — na naahidi kuufanya uwe wa thamani — nataka kupendekeza kile ninachoamini kinapaswa kuwa katika mchoro wako. Si kama mtu aliyeelewa kila kitu. Bali kama mtu ambaye amekuwa barabarani kwa muda wa kutosha kujifunza mambo kadhaa kwa njia ngumu.

Yafikirie si kama mawazo matatu tofauti. Yafikirie kama nguzo tatu zinazoshikilia paa moja. Ondoa nguzo yoyote moja na jengo hudhoofika. Zishike zote tatu — na utakachojenga kitastahimili dhoruba yoyote.

Sura tatu. Barabara ilinifundisha…

Kwanza: Jiamini kwa kina kuhusu thamani yako mwenyewe.

Pili: Fuatilia ubora wa hali ya juu.

Tatu: Kumbuka Ubuntu.

Tuanze.

Sura ya Kwanza: Jiamini Kwa Kina Kuhusu Thamani Yako

Historia ni saa ambayo watu hutumia kujua wakati wao wa kisiasa na kiutamaduni. Pia ni dira ambayo watu hutumia kujipata kwenye ramani ya jiografia ya binadamu. Historia huwaambia watu walikokuwa na walivyokuwa, walipo na walivyo. Muhimu zaidi, historia huwaambia watu wanakopaswa kwenda bado na wanachopaswa kuwa bado. Uhusiano wa historia na watu ni uleule wa mama na mtoto wake. – Profesa John Henrik Clarke

Kosa kubwa zaidi lililotendwa dhidi ya watu wa Afrika lilikuwa kuharibu kujiamini kwako katika kumbukumbu yako ya kihistoria ya ulivyokuwa, ili usahau ulivyo na pia usahau unachoweza kuwa bado.

Huwezi kuwakandamiza watu wenye historia. Na watu wanapoelewa asili ya nafasi yao katika historia — hawatajiruhusu kukandamizwa. Ili kukukandamiza — watu lazima wakuondoe kwenye simulizi la heshima la historia. Lazima waharibu kujiamini kwako na kumbukumbu yako ya kihistoria. Kumbukumbu ya ulivyokuwa, ili upate kuchanganyikiwa kuhusu ulivyo, na kuchanganyikiwa zaidi kuhusu unachopaswa kuwa bado na unakopaswa kwenda.

Jinsi unavyotumia mawazo yako kuhusu nafsi yako ndivyo unavyohusiana na taswira yako kwenye kioo. Kwa hiyo kompyuta ya ubongo inasema kuna mwingine kama wewe, Yusuf — basi jinsi ninavyojihisi kuhusu mimi mwenyewe itaakisiwa katika jinsi ninavyohusiana na Mwafrika mwingine. Kama tunavyofanya mazoezi ili kuweka misuli yetu katika hali nzuri, sasa tutafanya mazoezi ili kuweka akili zetu katika hali nzuri kuhusu taswira yetu binafsi, dhana yetu binafsi na thamani yetu binafsi, ili tuweze kuwa wana na mabinti wenye ufanisi wa Afrika. Kwa sababu kama ninajifikiria vibaya — unadhani kompyuta ya ubongo wangu itafanya kazi kwa niaba yangu, kuboresha mafanikio na maendeleo yangu — HAPANA! Ubongo utasema — hujipendi — kwa nini nifanye kazi kwa niaba yako?

Tukijua kilichotokea jana, tunaweza kujadili leo kwa busara kwa sababu leo imejengwa juu ya jana. Na kesho imejengwa juu ya leo.

Mtoto asiyekumbatiwa na kijiji ataichoma ili ahisi joto lake – Methali ya Kiafrika

Uharibifu mwingi tunaouona katika jamii zetu — hasira, uzembe, kijana anayetupa mustakabali wake — kwa kweli si uharibifu. Angalia kwa makini. Ni kilio. Kilio cha kukata tamaa, kinachowaka, kinachosema: tafadhali mtu aniambie nina thamani.

Na kwa hiyo kabla hatujazungumza kuhusu ubora — kabla hatujazungumza kuhusu Ubuntu — kabla hatujazungumza kuhusu historia na urithi na unachoweza kujenga — lazima tuanzie hapa. Na hili. Na jambo muhimu zaidi nitakalosema leo.

Una thamani. Thamani ya kina, isiyo na masharti, isiyojadilika. Si kwa sababu ya ulichofanikisha. Si kwa sababu ya unavyoonekana. Si kwa sababu ya unakotoka au hali zako zilivyo. Ni kwa sababu tu uko hapa. Kwa sababu uko hai. Kwa sababu upo.

Na hakuna — hakuna — kilichowahi kusemwa au kufanywa na yeyote kukufanya ujisikie vinginevyo kilichokuwa ukweli.

Thamani ya nafsi ni kama heshima, kwa maana kwamba ni kitu ambacho kila mtu huzaliwa nacho, hakiwezi kuchukuliwa kutoka kwako, wala kupewa, kinatakiwa tu kisipotezwe.

Sasa hapa ndipo inapovutia, kwa sababu kujua thamani yako ni jambo moja. Lakini kuelewa thamani hiyo inatoka wapi — hilo ni jambo tofauti kabisa. Na wengi wetu hatujawahi kufundishwa sehemu hiyo ya pili ipasavyo.

Hadithi ya Mbuyu

Mbuyu huitwa Mti wa Uhai kote Afrika. Huishi maelfu ya miaka. Huhifadhi maji katika shina lake — wakati mwingine maelfu ya lita — ili katika msimu mkavu zaidi, kila kitu kingine kinaponyauka, mbuyu hubaki umejaa. Wanyama huuendea. Jamii hukaa kivulini mwake. Hutoa hata wakati ardhi haitoi chochote. Na siri ya mbuyu haionekani. Iko chini ya ardhi — mfumo wa mizizi mkubwa na wa kina kiasi kwamba hakuna ukame unaoweza kuufikia. Mti huo hunusurika si kwa sababu ya unavyoonekana juu ya ardhi. Hunusurika kwa sababu ya ulivyoingia chini kwa kina.

Thamani yako ni kama mti huo. Na huu ndio ukweli ambao ulimwengu unaokuzunguka — pamoja na kupenda kwake mwonekano, pesa, wafuasi wa mitandao ya kijamii, mavazi, vyeo, na umaarufu — hautakuambia kamwe.

Thamani yako ya kweli si kile kinachoonekana. Ni kina cha mizizi yako.

Majani yanaweza kuanguka. Misimu hubadilika. Unachomiliki leo kinaweza kutoweka kesho. Lakini mizizi — mizizi ya tabia, ya utambulisho, ya historia, ya utamaduni, ya kujua wewe ni nani na unatoka wapi — hiyo hubaki. Hiyo ndiyo inayokushikilia wima wakati kila kitu juu ya ardhi kinatetemeka.

Na hii ndiyo sababu ninachotaka kusema sasa ni cha muhimu sana. Kwa sababu wengi wetu — bila kosa letu — hatukupewa mizizi yetu. Haikupandwa ndani yetu. Haikufundishwa. Katika baadhi ya matukio, iliondolewa kwa makusudi. Na mtu asiye na mizizi si lazima aanguke mara moja. Anaweza kuonekana mrefu. Anaweza kuonekana wa kuvutia. Lakini yuko upepo mmoja mkali tu kutoka kuanguka.

Lakini — na hii ndiyo sehemu inayouma zaidi — wengi wetu hatuamini hili. Si kweli. Si katika nyakati za utulivu ulimwengu usipotazama na tuko peke yetu na mawazo yetu wenyewe. Kwa sababu hatukufundishwa kuliamini. Tulifundishwa kitu kingine kabisa.

Toni Morrison alilielewa hili. Aliandika: “Kujikomboa ilikuwa jambo moja. Kudai umiliki wa nafsi hiyo iliyokombolewa ilikuwa jambo lingine.”

Mambo mawili tofauti. Kuondoa mnyororo ni hatua moja. Lakini kujifunza wewe ni nani baada ya mnyororo kuondoka — kuamua mwenyewe una thamani gani, unastahili nini, una uwezo wa nini — hiyo ni safari tofauti na ya kina zaidi. Na ni safari ambayo wengi wetu bado hatujaianza kikamilifu.

Sasa nataka kukuuliza swali lililo chini ya haya yote.

Hadithi yako huanzia wapi?

Kwa sababu kuna methali ya kina ya Kiigbo isemayo: “Ukitaka kujua mwisho, tazama mwanzo.” Mahali unapoanzia huunda unakoelekea. Hadithi unayoanza nayo — kuhusu wewe ni nani, unatoka wapi, watu wako wamefanikisha nini — kimyakimya huamua mwelekeo wa maisha yako yote. Iwapo utafikia mambo makubwa au utatosheka na madogo. Iwapo utaingia vyumbani kwa kichwa juu au macho chini. Iwapo utaona sura yako kama kitu cha kuonea aibu au cha kusherehekea.

Na hili hapa jambo lingine — jambo ambalo mwanazuoni mmoja wa Kiafrika alilieleza kwa maneno ya moja kwa moja zaidi nilivyowahi kusikia: “Wageni na watu wa nje hawawezi kukufundisha mbinu unazoweza kutumia kuwanyang’anya nguvu zao.” Wale wanaonufaika na ujinga wako hawatakupa zana za kuwa huru kweli. Kila jamii ya watu lazima ijifunze historia yake yenyewe, nguvu zake, utambulisho wake — si kama ilivyokabidhiwa na wale waliokuwa na sababu za kuidharau, bali kama ilivyokuwa kweli.

Methali ya Kiguinea inasema: “Maarifa ni kama bustani — kama hayakulimwa, hayawezi kuvunwa.” Utambulisho wako, thamani yako, uelewa wako wa wewe ni nani — hivi si vya moja kwa moja. Vinahitaji kazi. Vinahitaji kulimwa. Vinahitaji ujasiri wa kuchimba, kuuliza, kujifunza mambo ambayo hukuwahi kufundishwa darasani.

Na hadi ufanye kazi hiyo — hadi urudi mwanzo wa hadithi yako na uanze kutoka mahali sahihi — daima utakuwa unajenga hisia yako ya nafsi juu ya msingi wa mtu mwingine.

Marcus Garvey alisema waziwazi: “Ngozi yangu si alama ya aibu bali ni alama ya uzuri.”

Si kuomba msamaha. Si kanusho. Ni tamko.

Na yule mwanazuoni aliyesema kwamba tumefanya kosa kubwa kwa kupunguza utambulisho wa Kiafrika kuwa rangi ya ngozi pekee — alikuwa akielekeza kwenye kitu cha ndani zaidi. Alisema: jina sahihi la watu lazima lihusiane daima na ardhi, utamaduni, na historia. Kwa sababu ngozi yako inaeleza unavyoonekana. Haikuambii wewe ni nani. Wewe ni nani hutoka katika historia yako. Lugha yako. Mababu zako. Ustaarabu wako. Maadili yako. Hadithi yako.

Na hadithi yako — toleo la kweli, kamili, lisilohaririwa — ni ya ajabu. Ni mojawapo ya hadithi kuu zaidi katika historia ya binadamu. Wengi wenu hamjawahi tu kuambiwa vizuri.

Hali za leo hazibainishi uwezekano wa kesho. Na mizizi unayoigundua — au kuigundua upya — leo itaamua urefu utakaoweza kusimama kesho.

Basi turudi mwanzo.

Tuanze kutoka mahali sahihi.

Na tujenge thamani yetu juu ya msingi ambao hakuna dhoruba, hakuna uongo, hakuna mfumo, na hakuna chumba kilichojaa shaka kinachoweza kutunyang’anya.

Niruhusu nikuulize jambo.

Umewahi kuingia chumbani na mara moja ukahisi kwamba hukuwa mwenzao hapo?

Kama kwamba kila mtu mwingine alipata taarifa na wewe hukupata. Kama kwamba wote walikuwa wakiongea lugha ambayo hukuwahi kufundishwa. Kama kwamba kwa namna fulani, bila mtu yeyote kusema neno hata moja, chumba kilikuwa kimeshaamua kuwa wewe ni mdogo kuliko waliokuwemo.

Nataka uinue mkono wako kama umewahi kuhisi hivyo.

Uushikilie juu kwa sekunde. Tazama huku na huku. Kwa sababu hauko peke yako katika chumba hiki. Na hukuwahi kuwa peke yako katika hisia hiyo. Lakini hiki ndicho ninachohitaji uelewe kabla hatujaendelea zaidi — hisia hiyo ilikudanganya. Imekuwa ikikudanganya siku zote. Na leo, tutazungumza kwa nini.

Dkt. Martin Luther King Jr. aliwahi kusema: “Usimruhusu yeyote akufanye uhisi kwamba wewe si kitu.”

Na Wayoruba — mmoja wa watu wakuu wa Afrika Magharibi — wana methali inayosema: “Mjusi aliyeruka kutoka mti mrefu wa Iroko alisema atajisifu mwenyewe kama hakuna mwingine atakayemsifu.”

Fikiria mjusi huyo kwa muda. Aliruka. Hakuna aliyepiga makofi. Hakuna aliyeona. Hakuna aliyekimbia kumpongeza. Kwa hiyo aligeuka na kusema — unajua nini, naona nilichofanya hivi punde, na kilikuwa cha ajabu. Nitajisherehekea mwenyewe.

Mjusi huyo alielewa kitu ambacho wengi wetu hutumia miaka kujaribu kujifunza: thamani yako haiamuliwi na makofi. Inaamuliwa na wewe.

Una thamani katika nafasi unayoishika. Huhitaji kuistahili haki ya kuwa hapa. Huhitaji kuthibitisha kuwepo kwako kwa mtu yeyote. Unaweza kufurahia maisha yako bila kujieleza kwa ulimwengu. Na safari ya kuamini kweli hilo — safari ya kujipenda — huanzia ndani. Daima huanzia ndani. Haijalishi ulimwengu wa nje unasema nini kukuhusu, safari huanzia ndani. Na inaendelea na uponyaji. Na kujifunza. Na kustawi. Siku moja kwa wakati.

Thamani ya nafsi si hisia unayoingojea. Ni uamuzi. Uamuzi wa kila siku wa kujitokeza kikamilifu na kwa uaminifu — hata wakati chumba kinahisi kama hakikujengwa kwa ajili yako.

Lakini hapa lazima niwe mkweli nawe.

Kufanya uamuzi huo ni vigumu kuliko inavyosikika. Kwa sababu tunaishi katika wakati mgumu. Kuishi katika enzi hii kunakuja na mikinzano mingi — kwa sababu wengi wetu tumebeba mawazo ndani yetu ambayo hatukuyachagua. Mawazo yaliyowekwa pale kabla hatujafikia umri wa kuyahoji. Mambo tuliyoambiwa kuhusu sisi ni nani, tunafananaje, tunatoka wapi, na tuna thamani gani — nasi tukayafyonza kama maji, bila kutambua kuwa tulikuwa tunakunywa sumu.

Na kabla hujaamua kweli thamani yako, lazima uwe mkweli kuhusu hili. Lazima uwe jasiri vya kutosha kutazama kilicho ndani yako na kuuliza: je, nilichagua hiki? Au nilikabidhiwa?

Kuna ukweli unaosema: “Kuzaliwa kwa hekima kunahusishwa na kujua ujinga wako.”

Kwa maneno mengine — jambo la busara zaidi unaloweza kufanya ni kukubali usichokijua.

Fikiria kijana wa Kixhosa anayeingia ulwaluko — jando la kimila la kuingia uanaume. Haingii katika mchakato huo kama mtaalamu. Anaingia kama mwanafunzi. Kila kitu cha kawaida kinaondolewa. Anaketi mbele ya wazee wake, mnyenyekevu, mtupu, wazi. Na wazee humimina hekima ndani yake — lakini kwa sababu tu yuko tayari kukubali kuwa bado hanayo.

Huwezi kujaza kikombe ambacho tayari kimejaa.

Fikiria msichana mdogo aliyeketi miguuni mwa bibi yake, akijifunza kusuka, akijifunza nyimbo za watu wake, akijifunza ni mimea ipi nyuma ya boma huponya homa na ipi huponya moyo uliovunjika. Hafiki akiwa anajua. Anafika akiuliza. Na katika kuuliza huko — katika tendo hilo la unyenyekevu, la ujasiri la kusema sijui, tafadhali nifundishe — hekima huzaliwa.

Hivi ndivyo mababu zetu walivyoelewa. Hii ndiyo sababu waliwaheshimu wazee. Si kwa sababu ya umri tu — bali kwa sababu mzee alikuwa ametumia maisha yake yote kugeuza ujinga kuwa uelewa. Mzee alijua ni kiasi gani asichokijua. Na kujua huko ndiko kulikuwa nguvu yake kuu.

Wengi wetu hatujui historia yetu wenyewe.

Na nataka kusema hili wazi: hilo si kosa letu. Lakini kubaki katika ujinga huo — huo ungekuwa uchaguzi wetu.

Kwa sababu tulichofundishwa shuleni halikuwa hadithi kamili. Hata kidogo. Darasa la kikoloni lilitupa toleo mahususi sana la historia — toleo lililoanza hadithi yetu katika minyororo, katika kushindwa, katika maana ya mtu mwingine ya sisi ni nani. Liliruka kila kitu kilichotangulia. Na kilichotangulia kilikuwa cha ajabu.

Lakini hili linafanya jambo hili kuuma zaidi. Haikuwa ajali tu kwamba hatukufundishwa historia yetu. Ilikuwa mbinu ya makusudi. Kwa sababu ukiweza kuwafanya watu wajichukie — ukiweza kuwafanya watazame taswira yao wenyewe na wahisi kinyaa badala ya fahari — huhitaji minyororo tena. Umefanya kitu chenye nguvu zaidi. Umewageuza dhidi ya wenzao.

Fikiria hilo. Nikikufundisha kujichukia — kujichukia kweli — basi unapomtazama mtu anayefanana nawe, anayeshiriki sura zako, ngozi yako, nywele zako, damu yako — humwoni ndugu. Humwoni dada. Unaona kile ulichofundishwa kukidharau. Na vurugu inayofuata si ya bahati nasibu. Ni matokeo ya kimantiki ya elimu potofu. Tumefundishwa kupigana sisi kwa sisi ili tusisimame pamoja. Kwa sababu njia pekee ambayo wachache wanaweza kudhibiti wengi ni kwa kugawanya na kutawala. Na toleo lenye ufanisi zaidi la kugawanya na kutawala halitokei vitani. Linatokea akilini.

Marcus Mosiah Garvey alisema waziwazi: watu wasio na maarifa ya historia yao, utamaduni wao, na nafsi yao ni kama mti usio na mizizi. Na mti usio na mizizi hauwezi kusimama. Hauwezi kukua. Hauwezi kunusurika dhoruba yoyote. Huanguka tu — si kwa sababu ulikuwa dhaifu, bali kwa sababu ulikatwa kutoka chanzo chake.

Na hili ndilo kosa lililotendwa dhidi yetu — na nataka usikie hili wazi — halikuwa kosa la waliyotufanyia tu. Lilikuwa kosa la waliyotuficha. Kosa la kuacha pamoja na kosa la kutenda. Hawakututesa tu. Walituibia maarifa ya nafsi zetu. Maarifa ambayo yangetufanya tujipende. Tupendane. Tusimame pamoja badala ya kurarua kila mmoja.

Hadithi yako huanzia wapi?

Kwa sababu huu ndio ukweli — na hili ni muhimu, kwa hiyo kaa nami: unapoanzia historia yako ndipo utakapoishia. Kama historia pekee ya Kiafrika unayoijua inaanzia mwaka 1619, utumwa ulipoanza, basi hisia yako ya wewe ni nani pia inaanzia katika minyororo. Katika mateso. Katika hadithi ya mtu mwingine kuhusu thamani yako. Na uwezekano mkubwa — bila hata kutambua — utapita maishani ukibeba mahali hapo pa kuanzia katika mifupa yako.

Lakini vipi kama ungeanzia mahali pengine?

Vipi kama ungeanzia miaka 4,700 iliyopita — wakati mikono ya Kiafrika ilipokuwa ikijenga piramidi? Wakati akili za Kiafrika zilipokuwa zikikokotoa hisabati ambayo ulimwengu mwingine ulikuwa haujaiwaza bado? Wakati wafalme wa Kiafrika walipokuwa wakiagiza usanifu wa majengo ulio sahihi kiasi kwamba wahandisi wa kisasa bado wanaujifunza na kutikisa vichwa?

Kila kitu kinabadilika unapoanzia hapo. Unakuwa huru. Kwa sababu mahali pa kuanzia pa historia yako ndipo pa kuanzia pa utambulisho wako. Na mahali pa kuanzia pa utambulisho wako huunda mkondo mzima wa maisha yako.

Hii si hamasa tu. Huu ni mkakati.

Niruhusu nikueleze historia hiyo inaonekanaje kwa kweli. Kwa sababu baadhi yenu mmeambiwa kidogo mno kiasi kwamba nitakachosema kinaweza kuhisiwa kuwa kisichoaminika.

Wanasaikolojia waliiita Mgongano wa Kifikra (cognitive dissonance) — ni usumbufu wa kisaikolojia unaohisi pale vitendo, mitazamo, au imani zako zinapogongana. Mvutano huu wa kiakili — mara nyingi huhisiwa kama msongo wa mawazo au hatia — huusukuma ubongo kuhalalisha mgogoro huo bila kujua au kubadilisha imani ili kurejesha upatanifu wa akili.

Na hilo ndilo hasa Malcolm X alilotuonya kuhusu. Alisema: “Lazima uwe mwangalifu sana unapomwonyesha ukweli Mwafrika ambaye hajawahi kusikia ukweli kuhusu yeye mwenyewe. Mwafrika amepandikizwa mawazo potofu kiasi kwamba anaweza kuukataa ukweli anapousikia kwa mara ya kwanza.”

Na James Baldwin — mmoja wa waandishi waaminifu zaidi kuwahi kuishi — alisema jambo ambalo nataka ulibebe. Alisema: “Ilichukua miaka mingi ya kutapika uchafu wote niliofundishwa kunihusu, na niliouamini nusu, kabla sijaweza kutembea juu ya Dunia kana kwamba nina haki ya kuwa hapa.”

Miaka. Ya kusahau kwa makusudi hadithi ya uongo kuhusu nafsi yake. Kabla hajaweza kusimama tu juu ya ardhi na kuhisi anastahili kuwa hapo.

Kwa sababu hili ndilo jambo ambalo hawataki ulijue. Hili ndilo Marcus Garvey alikuwa akituonya kuhusu aliposema: “Jikomboeni kutoka utumwa wa kiakili. Hakuna ila sisi wenyewe tunaoweza kuzikomboa akili zetu.”

Minyororo ya kimwili ilivunjwa zamani. Lakini utumwa wa kiakili? Utumwa wa kiakili bado uko hai kabisa. Na ni wa hila. Hauonekani kama mnyororo. Hauhisiwi kama gereza. Unahisiwa kama kawaida. Unahisiwa kama ndivyo mambo yalivyo tu. Unahisiwa kama — bila shaka nataka ngozi nyepesi. Bila shaka naninyoosha nywele zangu kwa usaili wa kazi. Bila shaka naona aibu kuongea lugha yangu ya mama katika mazingira rasmi. Bila shaka najua historia ya Ulaya zaidi kuliko yangu mwenyewe.

Hiyo ndiyo ngome. Na jambo hatari zaidi kuhusu ngome hii ni kwamba humshawishi aliye ndani yake kwamba hakuna kuta. Au mbaya zaidi — kwamba kuta ziko pale kwa manufaa yake mwenyewe.

Steve Biko — mmoja wa wafikiri muhimu zaidi ambao bara hili limewahi kuzaa — alisema jambo ambalo linapaswa kumsimamisha kila mmoja wetu. Alisema: “Silaha yenye nguvu zaidi mikononi mwa mkandamizaji ni akili ya anayekandamizwa.”

Fikiria hilo linamaanisha nini. Silaha yenye nguvu zaidi si bunduki. Si sheria. Si mpaka uliochorwa kwenye ramani. Ni wazo. Imani. Mnong’ono wa kimya, unaoendelea ndani ya akili ya mtu mwenyewe unaosema — wewe ni mdogo. Hustahili zaidi. Jua mahali pako. Kaa mdogo.

Mnong’ono huo ukipandwa kwa kina cha kutosha — ukifanywa uhisike kama sauti yako mwenyewe, hitimisho lako mwenyewe, tathmini yako ya kweli ya nafsi yako — basi hakuna minyororo inayohitajika. Mfungwa hufunga mlango wake mwenyewe. Na jambo la kutisha zaidi kuhusu aina hiyo ya kifungo ni kwamba hakionekani kama gereza. Kinaonekana kama kawaida. Kinahisiwa kama ndivyo mambo yalivyo tu.

Kwa hiyo nakuomba ubaki wazi. Hata kama nitakachosema kitakushangaza.

Kabla Ulaya haijawa na miji — kabla miji mikuu mikubwa ya Ulaya haijakuwepo — kulikuwa na Kemet. Misri ya Kale. Na neno Kemet, katika lugha asilia ya watu wake, linamaanisha Nchi Nyeusi. Haikuitwa hivyo kwa udongo wake pekee. Iliitwa hivyo kwa watu wake. Weusi. Wenye melanini. Waafrika.

Mafarao wa Misri ya Kale hawakuwa wale watu weupe, wenye ngozi nyepesi ambao Hollywood imekuwa ikiwaonyesha kwenye skrini kwa miongo kadhaa. Tazama sanamu halisi. Tazama michongo. Tazama maandishi ya hieroglifu — yaliyochongwa kwenye mawe maelfu ya miaka kabla ya yeyote kujaribu kuandika upya hadithi. Pua pana. Midomo minene. Nywele zilizojikunja kwa nguvu. Ngozi ya kahawia iliyokolea. Hivi havikuwa vitu vya bahati nasibu. Hizi zilikuwa sura za wafalme na malkia, wasanifu majengo na wanajimu, wanahisabati na madaktari.

Hizi zilikuwa sura zenu.

Na mabaki ya kale hayadanganyi. Wanaakiolojia walipata masega ya meno mapana katika makaburi ya Misri ya Kale — si masega membamba, yenye meno madogo yaliyobuniwa kwa nywele nyororo, bali masega mapana, yaliyotengenezwa kwa uangalifu mahususi kwa nywele nene, zilizojikunja kwa nguvu, za Kiafrika. Aina ya nywele inayokaa kichwani mwako kama taji. Aina ya nywele ambazo baadhi yenu mmeambiwa mzifiche, mzilainishe, au mziombee msamaha. Walipata siagi ya shea, mafuta ya mbono, na maandalizi mengine ya asili yaliyotumika kulainisha na kusherehekea ngozi na nywele za Kiafrika. Walipata nywele za kusuka, rasta, na mitindo ya kusokota kwenye vichwa vya wafalme na watu wa kawaida — mitindo ileile ambayo wanawake na wanaume Weusi bado wanavaa leo. Mitindo ileile ambayo ulimwengu sasa unaikopa, unaisajili hataza, na kuiita ya mtindo — ukisahau kwamba nyanya zenu walikuwa wakiivaa maelfu ya miaka kabla haijawa ya mtindo.

Walipata vifaa vya upasuaji vilivyotangulia tiba ya Ulaya kwa maelfu ya miaka. Ushahidi wa upasuaji wa ubongo, utabibu wa meno, famasia. Hesabu za usanifu majengo zilizo za hali ya juu kiasi kwamba wahandisi wa kisasa bado wanazisoma kwa mshangao. Piramidi Kuu ya Giza ilikuwa jengo refu zaidi duniani kwa karibu miaka elfu nne. Ilijengwa na mikono ya Kiafrika. Ilibuniwa na akili za Kiafrika. Iliagizwa na wafalme wa Kiafrika.

Huo ndio urithi wako.

Magofu ya Zimbabwe — mawe yaliyokaa pamoja kwa usahihi kiasi kwamba huwezi kuteleza karatasi kati ya matofali, na hawakutumia chokaa.

Himaya ya Mali chini ya Mansa Musa — mtu tajiri zaidi katika historia yote iliyorekodiwa ya binadamu.

Timbuktu — Mji wa kale wa elimu, nyumbani kwa Chuo Kikuu cha Sankore, ambapo makumi ya maelfu ya wasomi walisoma sheria, hisabati, unajimu, na theolojia karne nyingi kabla vyuo vikuu vingi vya Ulaya havijakuwepo.

Na hili hapa jambo ambalo watu wengi — hata Waafrika wengi — hawajawahi kuambiwa.

Waafrika walitawala Uhispania kwa miaka 774. Kuanzia 711 BK hadi 1485 BK. Karibu karne nane. Na katika kipindi hicho, hawakuteka ardhi tu — walijenga ustaarabu. Walileta mfumo wa vyuo vikuu Ulaya. Walijenga Chuo Kikuu cha Salamanca nchini Uhispania — chuo kikuu cha kwanza na kongwe zaidi katika ulimwengu wa Magharibi. Na chuo hicho kilifuata mfano wa Chuo Kikuu cha Jenne katika Ghana ya kale, ambacho nacho kilifuata mfano wa Chuo Kikuu cha Sankore huko Timbuktu. Mapokeo ya kiakili ya Kiafrika yakitiririka kutoka kizazi kimoja hadi kingine, kutoka bara moja hadi jingine, yakijenga mifumo ya maarifa ambayo Ulaya baadaye ingedai kuwa yake. Walileta kuoga Ulaya. Usafi wa msingi. Sabuni. Maji ya bomba katika majengo. Mambo ambayo Ulaya ya zama za kati haikuwa nayo — na ambayo Waafrika waliyaleta. Kama huniamini, soma The Moors in Spain cha Stanley Lane-Poole, kilichoandikwa mwaka 1887. Au Alejandro Makaziza kuhusu mada hiyohiyo. Ushahidi upo. Haukufichwa kamwe kutoka kwa watu waliotaka kuutafuta.

Ufalme wa Benin ulizalisha sanaa za shaba zilizosanifiwa kwa ustadi mkubwa kiasi kwamba wagunduzi wa Ulaya walipoziona kwa mara ya kwanza, walikataa kuamini kwamba Waafrika ndio walizitengeneza.

Walikosea.

Afrika haikuwa bara lililokuwa likisubiri kugunduliwa. Afrika lilikuwa bara ambalo tayari lilikuwa limefika. Tayari lilikuwa limejenga. Tayari lilikuwa limeufundisha ulimwengu.

Sasa niseme kwa uwazi kabisa — hakuna tena somo la historia, ni mimi tu nikiongea nawe moja kwa moja.

Ukiangalia taswira ya Mwafrika leo — taswira ambayo wengi wetu tunaibeba tunapojitazama kwenye kioo — taswira hiyo haikuundwa na sisi. Iliundwa kwa ajili yetu. Ilijengwa katika karne nyingi za elimu potofu ya makusudi. Na matokeo yake ni kwamba wengi wetu tumekua bila heshima yenye afya kwa nafsi zetu. Bila upendo wa kina, wenye mizizi, kwa tulivyo. Na huu ndio ukweli wenye maumivu unaofuata kutoka hapo: kama hatuna heshima kwa nafsi zetu, hatuwezi kutarajia mtu mwingine atuoneshe heshima. Heshima hutiririka kutoka ndani kwenda nje. Huwezi kudai kutoka kwa wengine usichokijenga kwanza ndani yako. Na huwezi kujenga heshima kwa kitu usichokijua. Hilo ndilo kosa — maarifa ya nafsi yaliibiwa kutoka kwetu ili tusijipende. Ili tusipendane. Ili tubaki tumegawanyika, tunadhibitika kwa urahisi, na tunaongozeka kwa urahisi.

Lakini hilo linaishia leo. Kwako. Katika chumba hiki.

Usinyooshe mkono kuelekea krimu ya kung’arisha ngozi.

Nina uzito. Usifanye hivyo. Kwa sababu melanini katika ngozi yako si kasoro. Ni sifa. Ni ya zamani. Ina nguvu. Ni rangi ileile iliyowalinda mababu zako walipokuwa wakijenga ustaarabu ambao ulimwengu bado hauwezi kuufafanua kikamilifu. Ngozi yako nyeusi si tatizo la kutatuliwa. Ni ushahidi wa watu waliojengwa kustawi.

Usichome nywele zako ziwe nyooka ili uonekane kama mtu mwingine. Nywele zako zilizojikunja, zako zilizosokotana, rasta zako — si zisizo za kitaalamu. Si chafu. Ni nywele zilezile zilizokaa vichwani mwa mafarao. Nywele zilezile ambazo malkia wa Kiafrika walizipamba kwa dhahabu. Nywele zilezile zilizohitaji masega yale ya meno mapana katika makaburi ya Kemet. Nywele zilezile zilizonusurika kila jaribio la kukufanya uziaibikie.

Wewe si nakala ya kiwango cha urembo cha mtu mwingine. Wewe ni asili.

Huo ndio uzito uliowekwa juu ya mabega ya Waafrika. Uzito ambao hatukuuchagua. Hadithi ambayo hatukuiandika. Lakini ambayo tumekuwa tukiibeba — katika krimu zetu za kung’arisha ngozi, katika nywele zetu zilizonyooshwa kwa kemikali, katika lafudhi zetu za kigeni, katika aibu yetu kuhusu lugha zetu za mama, katika kila wakati tulipojitazama kwenye kioo na kuhisi aibu kwa kilichotutazama nyuma.

Uzito huo unaisha wakati unapoamua kuwa unaisha.

Na hii ndiyo sababu — hii ndiyo sababu — ambayo tunachowafundisha watoto wetu ni muhimu zaidi kuliko karibu kila kitu kingine tutakachowahi kufanya kama watu wazima. Kama tunataka kuboresha maisha ya watoto wetu, mojawapo ya mambo muhimu zaidi tunayoweza kufanya ni kuwafundisha maarifa ya nafsi zao. Kama wazazi, walezi, walimu, wazee — lazima tuendelee kuwajengea upendo na fahari ya kuwa Mwafrika. Lazima tuwafundishe historia yao. Tuwaonyeshe mizizi yao ili wakue wakiwa na upendo wa kweli kwa walivyo. Ili wapate usalama ndani yao wenyewe. Bila kuhisi duni. Lakini pia bila kuhisi wakuu kwa uongo. Wawe tu na kujiamini. Wenye uhakika. Wanaoweza kusema ukweli bila hofu. Bila kupinda wasipolazimika. Bila kujifanya. Wakiwatazama watu machoni na kuongea kwa uaminifu.

Kwa sababu usipomfundisha mtoto yeye ni nani, hatajua afanye nini na maisha yake. Hatajua jinsi ya kuweka malengo yanayomfaa. Hatajua ana uwezo wa nini. Atatumia maisha yake yote akijenga kuelekea maana ya mafanikio ya mtu mwingine — akifukuzia toleo la nafsi yake lililobuniwa na watu ambao hawakuwahi kuwa na maslahi yake moyoni.

Utambulisho si pambo. Utambulisho ni msingi. Na maisha yaliyojengwa bila msingi daima yako upepo mmoja mkali tu kutoka kuanguka.

Kwa hiyo nataka kukuhimiza — kwa dharura, si kwa hasira — ujifunze historia yako. Si kuanzia utumwa ulipoanzia. Si kuanzia ukoloni ulipoanzia. Nenda nyuma zaidi. Nenda Kemet. Nenda Kush. Nenda Mali. Nenda Great Zimbabwe. Nenda Timbuktu. Nenda Uhispania ya Wamoor. Soma Cheikh Anta Diop, John Henrik Clarke, Ivan Van Sertima, Chancellor Williams, Dkt. Yosef Ben-Jochannan, Stanley Lane-Poole. Kwa sababu watu wasiojua historia yao ni kama mti usio na mizizi — mrefu vya kutosha kuonekana wa kuvutia, lakini upepo mmoja mkali tu kutoka kuanguka.

Unawahitaji watu wako. Na watu wako wanakuhitaji ujue wewe ni nani.

Kwa sababu thamani ya nafsi bila tabia njema ni kiburi tu. Lakini thamani ya nafsi pamoja na tabia njema — pamoja na maarifa, pamoja na historia, pamoja na kusudi — hiyo ni utu wa heshima (somebodiness). Na kama msemo unavyosema: ganda la kauri halijui thamani yake hadi livaliwe na mtu sahihi. Jua thamani yako kabla ulimwengu haujajaribu kuipangia. Ijue kwa kina sana, kikamilifu sana, kiasi kwamba hakuna chumba, hakuna kioo, hakuna tasnia, hakuna mpaka, hakuna uongo uliosimuliwa kwa vizazi vingi unaoweza kuikuondolea.

Wewe si mtu binafsi tu anayejenga maisha. Wewe ni Mwafrika. Mrithi wa hadithi kuu zaidi ambayo haijawahi kusimuliwa kikamilifu. Mbebaji wa ustaarabu uliokataa kufutwa. Sehemu ya watu ambao — watakapokumbuka wao ni nani hatimaye — watautikisa ulimwengu mzima.

Na kukumbuka kunaanzia hapa. Katika chumba hiki. Na wewe.

Kunaanza na ujasiri wa kusema: Sikujua vya kutosha. Lakini ninachagua kujua sasa.

Kabla hujajenga mustakabali, lazima ujue thamani yako. Na kabla hujajua thamani yako, lazima ujue wewe ni nani.

Baldwin alifika. Baada ya miaka ya kusahau, alifika. Hatimaye alisimama juu ya ardhi kana kwamba ana haki ya kuwa hapo. Na wewe pia utafika. Kwa sababu kusahau si mwisho wa safari — ni mlango. Na upande wa pili wa mlango huo si maarifa tu.

Ni uhuru.

Uhuru wa kujua unatoka wapi. Uhuru wa kusimama kikamilifu katika ulivyo. Uhuru wa kuingia katika chumba chochote duniani — si kama kuomba msamaha, si kama swali, si kama mtu anayesubiri aambiwe anastahili kuwepo.

Bali kama kuwasili.

Na kujielewa kweli — historia yako, sura zako, urithi wako, thamani yako — si tendo la kujigundua tu.

Ni maana ya maisha yenyewe.

Uwazi wenye maumivu ni bora kuliko matumaini yaliyochanganyikiwa na kulegea. Yaliyopita hayaamui mustakabali wako, na kushindwa kunakodhaniwa hakukufafanui. Ili kusonga mbele, lazima uchague chaguo lisilofurahisha tena na tena na tena. Haiwi rahisi zaidi, lakini tunakuwa wenye nguvu zaidi na wastahimilivu zaidi.

Linda mazingira yako. Linda mzunguko wako wa watu. Linda akili yako. Kwa sababu hupandi hadi kiwango cha ndoto zako — unaanguka hadi kiwango cha mazingira yako. Mizizi ikiwa ya kina, hakuna sababu ya kuogopa upepo. Kaa macho. Kuwa makini na nani na nini kinakuzunguka. Usikae katika kampuni ya watu wanaofifisha mwanga wako. Kwa sababu — kama wazee wasemavyo — bangili moja haiwezi kulia.

Matokeo makubwa ni zao la vitendo vikubwa. Vitendo vikubwa ni zao la imani kubwa. Kama imani zako hazikutumikii, au mbaya zaidi, zinafanya kazi dhidi yako, utapata ugumu kupata matokeo unayoyataka maishani mwako.

Sura ya Pili: Fuatilia Ubora wa Hali ya Juu

“Utakapogundua unachotaka kuwa maishani, kifanye kana kwamba Mungu Mwenyezi amekuita wakati huu hasa katika historia kukifanya. Na usikusudie tu kufanya kazi nzuri ambayo yeyote anaweza kuifanya, kusudia kufanya kazi nzuri na kuifanya vizuri kiasi kwamba walio hai, waliokufa na wasiozaliwa wasingeweza kuifanya vizuri zaidi.” – Dkt. Martin Luther King.

Pili, katika mchoro wa maisha yako, lazima uwe na kanuni ya msingi ya kuazimia kufikia ubora katika nyanja zako mbalimbali za juhudi.

Hata hivyo, ubora si ajali. Si cheo kinachopewa wenye bahati au wenye vipaji vya asili — ni njia, iliyochaguliwa kwa makusudi na kutembewa kila siku. Kila jina ambalo historia inalikumbuka kwa ukuu — iwe ni kwenye turubai, kwenye uwanja wa riadha, jukwaani, au kwenye jukwaa la mihadhara — lilifuata barabara ileile, hata kama hawakuwahi kuiita kwa jina. Barabara hiyo ina alama tano. Zijue, zitembee, na utagundua kwamba ubora huacha kuwa lengo la mbali na badala yake huwa umbo la maisha yako ya kila siku.

1. Jijue wewe ni nani.

Ubora huanza si kwa kuiga, bali kwa kujitathmini kwa uaminifu asili yako mwenyewe — vipaji vyako, tabia yako, kitu mahususi ulichojengwa kukifanya. Ben Enwonwu alilielewa hili mapema. Badala ya kuiga tu mapokeo ya sanaa ya Ulaya, aliunganisha mitazamo ya Kiyoruba na Kiigbo na mbinu za kisasa, akizalisha michoro na sanamu — kama Anyanwu yake maarufu — ambazo zingeweza kutoka tu kwa mtu aliyejua hasa anaona ulimwengu kwa macho ya nani. Hakuchora kama bingwa wa Ulaya. Alichora kama Ben Enwonwu, kwa sababu ndivyo alivyojijua kuwa.

Kujijua ndio msingi ambao kila hoja nyingine inategemea. Huwezi kuwa toleo bora la nafsi yako kama hujui kwanza “nafsi yako” ni nini hasa — silika zako, wito wako, kitu kinachohisi kuwa kidogo kama chaguo na zaidi kama utambulisho.

2. Kuwa toleo bora zaidi la wewe ulivyo.

Ukishajua asili yako, kazi huwa kuiboresha bila kuchoka — si kufukuzia mchoro wa mtu mwingine. Eliud Kipchoge ndiye mfano wazi zaidi wa kisasa wa hili. Hakujaribu kuwa mwanariadha wa mbio fupi, mchezaji mpira, au chochote kingine zaidi ya mkimbiaji wa marathoni. Alichukua utambulisho huo mmoja na kuufuatilia kwa ari ya pekee kiasi kwamba akawa binadamu wa kwanza kukimbia marathoni kwa chini ya saa mbili, na anashikilia rekodi ya dunia ya marathoni kwa nidhamu thabiti kiasi kwamba wanariadha wenzake na makocha mara nyingi huieleza kama ya kimonaki. Yeye si mkimbiaji bora zaidi duniani katika kila umbali — alikuwa toleo bora zaidi linalowezekana la hasa alivyo.

Hii ndiyo tofauti kati ya kuiga na ustadi: kuiga hunakili ubora wa mtu mwingine; ustadi huuzamisha ubora wako mwenyewe.

3. Tumia vipaji vyako kuwatumikia wengine.

Kipaji kinachomtumikia mwenyewe tu hakijakamilika. Miriam Makeba alitumia sauti yake si kuburudisha tu bali kubeba ukweli wa ubaguzi wa rangi (apartheid) kwa ulimwengu uliohitaji kuusikia — na kuwa, kwa vitendo, wimbo wa kimataifa wa harakati za ukombozi wa Afrika Kusini. Muziki wake haukutenganishika na kusudi lake. Vivyo hivyo, Kwame Nkrumah alichukua vipaji vyake vya kiakili — elimu yake, maono yake ya kisiasa, uelewa wake wa mifumo ya kikoloni — na kuvitumia si kwa tamaa binafsi tu, bali kuiongoza Ghana kuwa taifa la kwanza la Afrika kusini mwa Sahara kupata uhuru, na kupanda mbegu ya Pan-Africanism ambayo ingeunda mawazo ya kisiasa ya bara kwa vizazi.

Wote wawili hutukumbusha kwamba matumizi ya juu zaidi ya kipaji si kukusanya, bali kuchangia. Sauti isiyosikika na yeyote ina faida gani, au maono yasiyomtumikia mtu isipokuwa wewe mwenyewe?

4. Penda mchakato.

Ubora mara chache huwa wakati mmoja wa ushindi — ni maelfu ya nyakati zisizo na mvuto, zinazorudiwa kwa kujitolea. Fela Kuti hakujikwaa kwenye Afrobeat kwa bahati. Alitumia miaka kuunganisha highlife, jazz, na funk, akijaribu bila kuchoka midundo, lugha, na ujumbe wa kisiasa hadi aina mpya kabisa ya muziki ilipoibuka — iliyochukua urithi wa muziki wa Afrika na kuupa sauti ya kimataifa. Hugh Masekela alitembea barabara kama hiyo na tarumbeta, akiboresha sauti yake kwa miongo ya uhamishoni, ushirikiano, na maonyesho, akipeleka jazz ya Afrika Kusini kwenye majukwaa ya kimataifa si kwa bahati moja nzuri bali kwa maisha yote ya kujitolea kwa mazoezi.

Hakuna kati yao aliyefika papo hapo. Wote wawili walipenda kazi ya kila siku — mazoezi, jaribio lililoshindwa, marekebisho madogo — muda mrefu kabla ulimwengu haujawaita wakuu.

5. Usiache kamwe kuboresha.

Hata ustadi una njia zaidi mbele yake. Ngũgĩ wa Thiong’o alikuwa tayari amepata mafanikio ya kimataifa ya fasihi akiandika kwa Kiingereza alipofanya uamuzi wa kimsingi wa kuandika kwa Kikuyu badala yake — tendo la makusudi la kudai tena lugha za Kiafrika katika fasihi na kupinga mshiko wa kikoloni juu ya jinsi hadithi za Kiafrika zinavyosimuliwa. Ingekuwa rahisi kupumzika juu ya sifa zake. Alichagua, badala yake, kuendelea kukua. Chinua Achebe alifuata njia sambamba: Things Fall Apart pekee ingeimarisha urithi wake, ikibadilisha jinsi ulimwengu unavyosoma hadithi za Kiafrika na kupinga karne za simulizi potofu za kikoloni. Hata hivyo aliendelea kuandika — riwaya, insha, uhakiki — akikataa kuruhusu kazi moja bora kuwa neno la mwisho.

Mfano wao uko wazi: ubora si kilele unachofikia na kupandisha bendera. Ni mwelekeo unaoendelea kuutembea, hata baada ya ulimwengu kukuita mkuu.

Kuna nukuu isemayo “Kama mtu anaweza kuandika kitabu bora, kuhubiri mahubiri bora, au kutengeneza mtego bora wa panya kuliko jirani yake, hata kama anajenga nyumba yake msituni, ulimwengu utatengeneza njia iliyopigwa hadi mlangoni pake” – ikimaanisha kwamba ukiumba au kufanya kitu kwa ubora wa kipekee, watu watakutafuta na kuunga mkono kazi yako, bila kujali kikwazo au kizuizi chochote kinachokuzunguka.

Kama bahati yako ni kuwa mfagiaji wa barabara, fagia barabara kama Ngũgĩ wa Thiong’o alivyoandika riwaya na tamthilia, akichagua kuandika kwa Kikuyu kudai tena lugha za Kiafrika katika fasihi.

Fagia barabara kama Fela Kuti alivyotunga na kuimba Afrobeat, akiunganisha jazz, funk, na highlife kuwa kitu kipya kabisa.

Fagia barabara kama Chinua Achebe alivyoandika riwaya, akibadilisha jinsi ulimwengu unavyosoma hadithi za Kiafrika kupitia Things Fall Apart.

Fagia barabara kama Miriam Makeba alivyoimba ukweli mbele ya nguvu, sauti yake ikiwa wimbo wa harakati dhidi ya apartheid.

Fagia barabara kama Hugh Masekela alivyopiga tarumbeta, akipeleka jazz ya Afrika Kusini kwenye majukwaa ya ulimwengu mzima.

Fagia barabara kama Kwame Nkrumah alivyoota Pan-Africanism, akiiongoza Ghana kuwa taifa la kwanza la Afrika kusini mwa Sahara kupata uhuru.

Fagia barabara kama Ben Enwonwu alivyochora na kuchonga, akinasa sanaa ya kisasa ya Kiafrika kwenye turubai na katika shaba.

Fagia barabara kama Eliud Kipchoge alivyokimbia marathoni, akiwa mtu wa kwanza kukimbia moja kwa chini ya saa mbili na kushikilia rekodi ya dunia kwa nidhamu ambayo wengi huiita karibu ya kimonaki.

Fagia barabara vizuri kiasi kwamba majeshi yote ya mbinguni na duniani yatalazimika kusimama na kusema hapa aliishi mfagiaji mkuu wa barabara aliyefagia kazi yake vizuri.

Kama huwezi kuwa msonobari juu ya kilima, kuwa kichaka bondeni, lakini kuwa kichaka kidogo bora zaidi kando ya kijito. Kuwa kichaka kama huwezi kuwa mti. Kama huwezi kuwa barabara kuu, basi kuwa njia ndogo tu. Kama huwezi kuwa jua kuwa nyota; si kwa ukubwa mnashinda au mnashindwa – kuwa bora zaidi wa chochote ulicho.

Ubora ni kuleta kilicho bora zaidi kwako katika kila chumba, kila kazi, na kila fursa ambayo maisha yanaweka mbele yako.

Rudia hilo kwa muda wa kutosha na ubora huacha kuwa ajali.

Unakuwa sehemu ya wewe ulivyo.

Sura ya Tatu: Kumbuka Ubuntu

Neno la Kiafrika, neno linalobeba hekima zaidi kuliko vitabu vingi vya falsafa — ni Ubuntu.

Mimi ni kwa sababu sisi tuko.

Lisema polepole. Acha litulie. Kwa sababu si kauli mbiu tu. Si hashtag. Si bango la hamasa kwenye ukuta wa chumba cha mikutano. Ubuntu ni falsafa kamili ya kuwepo. Inasema: Siwi binadamu kamili nikiwa peke yangu. Ubinadamu wangu huamshwa, huimarishwa, na hukamilishwa kupitia uhusiano wangu na binadamu wengine. Sijakamilika bila wewe. Na wewe hujakamilika bila mimi. Tunafanyana kuwa halisi.

Waswahili hutukumbusha: “Mkono mmoja haulei mwana.” Fikiria nukuu hiyo inasema nini. Tendo la msingi zaidi la utunzaji — kulea mtoto — haliwezi kufanywa na mtu mmoja peke yake. Si mama mmoja. Si baba mmoja. Si familia moja. Linahitaji jamii. Linahitaji majirani wanaotambua. Wazee wanaoshauri. Marafiki wanaojitokeza wakati sahihi na neno sahihi. Kijiji si kielelezo tu. Kijiji ni mkakati wa kuishi.

Na bado mahali fulani njiani katika usasa, wengi wetu tuliuziwa hadithi tofauti. Hadithi ya mtu aliyejitengeneza mwenyewe. Mwerevu pekee. Mtu asiyemhitaji yeyote, asiyedaiwa na yeyote, na anayepanda kwa nguvu zake mwenyewe tu. Ni hadithi ya kuvutia. Pia ni — na nasema hili kwa uangalifu — uongo.

Kwa sababu hakuna kitu kama mtu aliyejitengeneza mwenyewe. Kuna tu mtu aliyesahau kuwahesabu watu waliomsaidia.

Fikiria mapokeo ya Harambee nchini Kenya. Neno lenyewe — harambee — linamaanisha tuvute pamoja wote. Si programu ya serikali. Ni desturi ya kiutamaduni ya zamani kuliko serikali yoyote. Mtu katika jamii anapohitaji kujenga nyumba, kulipa ada ya shule, kuzika mpendwa, au kuanzisha biashara — jamii hukusanyika. Kila mtu huchangia anachoweza. Wengine huleta pesa. Wengine huleta nguvu kazi. Wengine huleta chakula. Wengine huleta uwepo wao. Lakini hakuna anayesimama kando. Hakuna anayesema: hilo si tatizo langu. Kwa sababu katika jamii iliyojengwa juu ya Ubuntu, tatizo lako ni tatizo langu. Ndoto yako imeunganishwa na ndoto yangu. Kupanda kwako kunaniinua.

Hiyo si udhaifu. Hiyo ni ujanja wa kipekee.

Kama methali nyingine inavyosema, “Ukitaka kwenda haraka, nenda peke yako. Ukitaka kwenda mbali, nendeni pamoja.”

Na Afrika inahitaji kwenda mbali.

Kuna methali ya Kiafrika isemayo: “Mtoto asiyekumbatiwa na kijiji ataichoma ili ahisi joto lake.”

Fikiria hilo…

Mtoto asiyekumbatiwa na kijiji — ataichoma — ili ahisi joto lake.

Hiyo si kauli kuhusu uharibifu. Hiyo ni kauli kuhusu njaa. Kuhusu hitaji la msingi zaidi la binadamu lililopo — hitaji la kuonekana. Kukubaliwa. Kuambiwa: unastahili kuwa hapa. Unajali. Una thamani.

Hitaji hilo likikosa kutimizwa — vijana wanapokua wakihisi hawaonekani, wamekataliwa, au wameambiwa kwa njia elfu za kimyakimya kwamba ni wadogo — hawakubali tu. Hutenda kwa fujo. Hutafuta umakini kwa njia za kuumiza. Hupiga kelele kwa sababu ukimya ulihisi kama kutoweka. Hushika vitu vinavyowadhuru kwa sababu hakuna kitu cha kuwathibitisha kilichowekwa mikononi mwao kwanza.

Mwafrika alitoka katika jamii ya kijumuiya, Mzungu alitoka katika jamii ya ubinafsi.

“Mvua haimnyeshei paa moja tu.” — Methali ya Kikameruni

Maana Hakuna anayeishi peke yake kabisa. Mambo yanayomwathiri mtu mmoja hatimaye huwaathiri wengine pia. Furaha huenea. Maumivu huenea. Mafanikio huenea. Matatizo huenea.

Methali hii hutukumbusha kwamba sote tumeunganishwa. Mwanajamii mmoja anapoteseka, jamii nzima hudhoofika. Mtu mmoja anapofanikiwa, kila mtu hunufaika.

Ubuntu hufundisha kwamba maisha yetu yameunganishwa pamoja kama nyuzi katika kitambaa kimoja.

“Umoja ni nguvu, utengano ni udhaifu.” — Methali ya Kiswahili

Maana Umoja ni nguvu. Mgawanyiko ni udhaifu.

Katika historia yote, makundi yenye nguvu mara nyingi yamefanikiwa kwa sababu yalifanya kazi pamoja. Vivyo hivyo, jamii mara nyingi zimeshindwa kwa sababu ziliruhusu kugawanyika.

Ubuntu hutukumbusha kwamba nguvu yetu kuu hutoka katika ushirikiano badala ya ushindani.

“Jamii ni kama mkusanyiko wa vijiti.” — Methali ya Kiafrika

Maana Kijiti kimoja kinavunjika kwa urahisi. Mkusanyiko wa vijiti ni mgumu zaidi kuuvunja.

Watu mmoja mmoja wanaweza kuwa dhaifu peke yao, lakini pamoja wanakuwa wastahimilivu.

Ubuntu hutufundisha kwamba tunalindana kupitia mshikamano.

“Mti mmoja hauwezi kutengeneza msitu.” — Methali ya Kiafrika

Maana Haijalishi mtu ana kipaji, akili, au bidii kiasi gani, hawezi kufanya kila kitu peke yake.

Kila mafanikio makubwa hutegemea michango ya watu wengi.

Ubuntu hufundisha unyenyekevu. Hutukumbusha kwamba tunahitajiana.

“Utando wa buibui ukiungana, unaweza kumzuia simba.” — Methali ya Kiethiopia

Maana Mmoja mmoja, utando wa buibui ni dhaifu. Simba anaweza kuupasua bila juhudi.

Lakini maelfu ya utando yanapofumwa pamoja, huwa na nguvu ya kushangaza.

Funzo ni kwamba hata watu wanaoonekana dhaifu mmoja mmoja wanaweza kuwa na nguvu wanapoungana kwa kusudi moja.

“Nyumba iliyojengwa na mikono mingi haitaanguka kamwe.” — Methali ya Kiafrika

Maana Kinachojengwa kwa pamoja huwa na nguvu zaidi ya kinachojengwa peke yako.

Mikono mingi huleta ujuzi, mitazamo, na nguvu tofauti. Jamii huleta uthabiti.

Ubuntu hufundisha kwamba mafanikio ya kudumu mara chache huwa ya mtu mmoja.

Ujumbe mkuu wa Ubuntu Wewe ni muhimu, lakini hujatengana.

Mafanikio yako yameunganishwa na mafanikio ya wengine.

Ubinadamu wako umeunganishwa na ubinadamu wa wengine.

Hadithi yako ni sehemu ya hadithi kubwa zaidi.

Na mtu mwenye nguvu zaidi si yule anayesimama juu ya kila mtu mwingine, bali yule anayeelewa kwamba “Mimi ni kwa sababu sisi tuko.”

Somo Kubwa la Methali za Ubuntu

  • Tumeunganishwa (Mvua haimnyeshei paa moja tu.)
  • Tunakuwa sisi wenyewe kupitia wengine (Mtu ni mtu kupitia watu wengine.)
  • Umoja huzaa nguvu (Umoja ni nguvu.)
  • Jamii hutulinda (Mkusanyiko wa vijiti hauvunjiki kwa urahisi.)
  • Hakuna anayefanikiwa peke yake (Mti mmoja hauwezi kutengeneza msitu.)
  • Juhudi za pamoja huzidisha nguvu (Utando wa buibui unaweza kumzuia simba.)
  • Kinachojengwa na mikono mingi hudumu (Nyumba iliyojengwa na mikono mingi haitaanguka kamwe.)

Na kumbuka: “Mti mmoja hauwezi kutengeneza msitu.”

Mti mmoja katika uwanja wazi ni mzuri. Lakini pia ni hatarini. Upepo ambao msitu hauuhisi sana unaweza kuung’oa mti huo mmoja kabisa. Msitu hunusurika si kwa sababu miti yake ina nguvu zaidi mmoja mmoja — bali kwa sababu mizizi yake inasukwa pamoja chini ya ardhi, ikiimarishana bila kuonekana, ikishiriki maji na virutubisho, ikishikilia ardhi pamoja dhidi ya dhoruba.

Hivyo ndivyo jamii inavyofanya. Hivyo ndivyo Ubuntu unavyofanya. Mizizi inasukwa pamoja pale ambapo hakuna anayeona — na dhoruba inapokuja, tunashikana mahali.

Tunahitajiana. Tunaponyana. Tunajengana.

Ubuntu unamaanisha kwamba ushindi wako ni ushindi wangu. Mwanafunzi wa shule hii anapokuwa daktari na kurudi kuitumikia jamii hii — huo si ushindi wake peke yake. Huo ni ushindi wa kila mwalimu aliyebaki kuchelewa. Kila mzazi aliyejitolea. Kila mwanafunzi mwenzake aliyemtia moyo. Kila mzee aliyeomba. Mafanikio yake ni tunda la mti ambao mikono mingi iliupanda.

Barabara ilinifundisha kwamba hakuna anayefanikiwa peke yake.

Mgeni anakuwa rafiki. Kijiji kinakuwa darasa. Pikipiki iliyoharibika inakuwa mwaliko wa neema. Kuvuka mpaka kunakuwa ukumbusho kwamba mistari iliyo kati yetu ilichorwa na mtu mwingine — na kwamba chini ya mistari hiyo, sisi ni watu wamoja, tukiponya majeraha yaleyale, tukiota ndoto zilezile, tukijenga kuelekea alfajiri ileile.

Kwa sababu hujengi maisha tu. Unajenga daraja. Daraja kati ya ulikotoka na unakoelekea. Daraja kati ya Afrika ya zamani na Afrika ya baadaye. Daraja kati ya mzee aliyebeba maarifa na mtoto anayehitaji kuyapokea. Daraja kati ya mafanikio yako na uwezekano wa mtu mwingine.

Jenga daraja hilo vizuri. Lijenge imara. Lijenge pana vya kutosha kwa wengine kuvuka.

Na Ubuntu unamaanisha kwamba maumivu yako si yako peke yako. Ndugu yako anapohangaika — dada yako anapozama katika ukimya — kijana aliye kwenye kona ya barabara anapojikatia tamaa — hilo si tatizo la kibinafsi. Hilo ni jeraha la jamii. Na majeraha ya jamii huponywa kwa utunzaji wa jamii.

Katika mapokeo ya Waacholi wa kaskazini mwa Uganda, kuna desturi iitwayo gomo tong — kupinda mkuki. Wakati mgogoro ulipoikumba jamii, wakati vurugu ilipoleta majeraha kati ya familia na koo yaliyoonekana kutoweza kuponywa — jamii ilikusanyika. Si kutafuta lawama. Si kuadhibu. Bali kurejesha. Kupinda mkuki — silaha ya vurugu — kuwa umbo jipya. Kugeuza uharibifu kuwa upatanisho. Kwa sababu Ubuntu unasema: Siwezi kuwa mzima kabisa wakati wewe umevunjika. Uponyaji wako ni sehemu ya ukamilifu wangu.

Ndiyo maana jamii ni muhimu. Ndiyo maana ushauri na uelekezi ni muhimu. Ndiyo maana huruma ni muhimu.

Fikiria washauri walioumba viongozi wakuu wa bara hili. Nelson Mandela na Walter Sisulu — Sisulu aliyeona kitu cha ajabu kwa Mandela kijana kabla Mandela mwenyewe hajakiona ndani yake, aliyemwongoza, kumpinga, na kutembea kando yake kupitia miongo ya mapambano. Patrice Lumumba na jamii ya wafikiri wa Pan-Africanism waliokunoa maono ya kila mmoja. Wangari Maathai kijana na maprofesa waliokataa kukata tamaa kwake, waliomsukuma zaidi ya alivyodhani anaweza kufika.

Hakuna jitu linalosimama peke yake. Kila jitu lina mtu — au watu wengi — waliomwamini kabla ulimwengu haujamwamini.

Kwa hiyo kuwa mtu huyo kwa ajili ya mtu mwingine. Kuwa Walter Sisulu katika hadithi ya mtu fulani. Kuwa bibi ambaye miguuni mwake kiongozi wa baadaye huketi. Kuwa mwalimu anayesema — naona kitu ndani yako ambacho huwezi kukiona bado ndani yako mwenyewe.

Kama wazee wasemavyo, “Mtoto anayebebwa mgongoni huona zaidi kuliko anayetembea peke yake.” Mtoto aliye mgongoni huona mbali zaidi — si kwa sababu ni mrefu zaidi, bali kwa sababu mtu alichagua kumbeba. Mtu alichagua kumwinua. Mtu alisema: bado hujafika mahali ambapo unaweza kutembea ardhi hii peke yako, basi acha nikubebe hadi uweze. Acha nikukopeshe urefu wangu. Acha nishiriki mtazamo wangu.

Huo ni ushauri na uelekezi. Hiyo ni jamii. Hiyo ni Ubuntu kwa vitendo.

Kwa hiyo kuikomboa akili yako kunamaanisha kuelewa haya yote. Kunamaanisha kuitazama ramani ya Afrika si kwa macho ya mwaka 1884, bali kwa macho ya maelfu ya miaka ya ustaarabu wa Kiafrika. Kwame Nkrumah alisema: “Mimi si Mwafrika kwa sababu nilizaliwa Afrika, bali kwa sababu Afrika ilizaliwa ndani yangu.” Julius Nyerere alisema: “Maendeleo ya Afrika yanahitaji umoja wa Afrika.” Na Wamisri wa Kale — mababu zenu wa Kemet — walijenga ustaarabu wao wote kuzunguka dhana iitwayo Ma’at. Ukweli. Haki. Usawa. Upatanifu. Si kwa mtu mmoja. Si kwa kabila moja. Kwa wote.

Hiyo ndiyo Afrika tunayoidai tena.

Kumbuka Tulivyokuwa

Moja ya makosa makubwa zaidi yaliyofanywa kuhusu Afrika ilikuwa imani kwamba bara hilo lilihitaji kugawanywa katika mataifa-nchi bandia. Mipaka hii haikuundwa na Waafrika. Ilichorwa na watu wa nje mwishoni mwa karne ya kumi na tisa, mara nyingi bila kujali watu waliokuwa tayari wanaishi huko.

Kabla ya 1884, hakukuwa na mistari iliyonyooka kote Afrika. Hakukuwa na mipaka bandia iliyokata vijiji na familia na tamaduni. Kulikuwa na falme na njia za biashara na uhamaji na watu ambao waliishi pamoja, walijenga pamoja, na walipendana kote bara hili kwa maelfu ya miaka. Kisha mataifa kumi na manne ya Ulaya yakaketi katika chumba huko Berlin — hakuna Mwafrika hata mmoja chumbani, hata mmoja — na kugawanya bara zima kati yao. Nchi arobaini zilichorwa kwa miezi michache. Mistari iliyokata Wamasai, Waewe, Wabakongo, Wasomali, Watuareg, Wahimba — ikigawanya familia na tamaduni na utambulisho kwa kalamu ya mchora ramani.

Na kisha sehemu ya ujanja zaidi: walitufanya tupigane sisi kwa sisi kwa sababu ya mipaka waliyochora. Kwa sababu Afrika iliyogawanyika haiwezi kupinga nguvu zilizoigawanya. Kila wakati taifa la Kiafrika linapoenda vitani na jirani yake kwa mzozo wa mpaka — hiyo ni kalamu ya kigeni bado inamwaga damu. Kila wakati tunaposema mimi ni Mkenya, si Mtanzania kana kwamba mipaka hiyo inatufafanua — tunakariri mistari ambayo haikuwa yetu kamwe.

Siku zote tulikuwa watu mmoja. Walitushawishi tu kwamba tulikuwa wengi.

Kusudi lilikuwa rahisi: gawanya na tawala.

Hata hivyo njia ya jadi ya Kiafrika ilikuwa tofauti sana. Waafrika walistawi katika kile tunachoweza kukiita mataifa ya kimaeneo na himaya — jamii kubwa za kisiasa ambamo makabila mengi, lugha, tamaduni, na dini ziliishi bega kwa bega. Watu walifanya biashara pamoja, walijifunza kutoka kwa wenzao, walioana kati ya jamii, na kujenga ustaarabu uliodumu karne nyingi.

Historia yetu haikuwa kamwe historia ya kutengana. Ilikuwa historia ya muunganiko.

Uhusiano wa familia, ukoo na kijiji. Hakukuwa na mtu binafsi wa Kiafrika kama ilivyo leo ambapo unaweza kusema mimi ni mtu binafsi nafanya mambo yangu. Usingeweza kupata aina hiyo ya mtu binafsi. Jamii ya Kiafrika ilifanywa kwa namna ambayo hawakuweza kupata watu pekee wanaoishi peke yao. Watu wote waliambatanishwa na familia. Mfano mwanamke akiwa mjane, aidha alirudi kwa familia yake mwenyewe au kwa familia ya mumewe. Kila mtu aliambatanishwa kwa namna fulani na mtu katika muundo wa mti wa familia. Kwa hiyo, jamii nyingi za Kiafrika zilianzia kwa msingi wa jumuiya. Mtu alihusiana na familia yake ya karibu, kisha na ukoo, kisha na kijiji, kisha na dola. Kwa hiyo kila mtu alikuwa na mchanganyiko wa familia alizoambatanishwa nazo. Ndiyo maana hakukuwa na rekodi nyingi za historia ya kesi za nidhamu kwa watoto kwa sababu kila mtu alikuwa anawajibika kwa mwanafamilia fulani katika daraja la familia. Katika jamii hizi hakukuwa na neno la gereza kwa sababu hakuna aliyewahi kwenda kwenye gereza. Hakukuwa na neno la kituo cha yatima kwa sababu hakuna aliyewahi kumtupa mtoto yeyote. Hakukuwa na neno la nyumba za wazee kwa sababu hakuna aliyewahi kumtupa babu na bibi. Muundo wa familia ulijengwa juu ya maadili haya – hakukuwa na neno la ukahaba kwa sababu wazo hilo halikuwazika – ukitazama muundo wa familia – mwanamke asipoolewa kufikia umri fulani – familia mbili zilikutana kuona nini kinaweza kufanywa. Na walimpata mwanamume anayefaa kwake kama hakuweza kujipatia mwenyewe. Taja safari ya Mansa Musa kwenda Maka kwa Hija. Hii ilikuwa kabla ya kubuniwa kwa mapenzi ya kimahaba katika ndoa. Tulipopokea wazo la Magharibi la mapenzi ya kimahaba – ndipo matatizo yalipoanza kwa sababu ndoa ya Kiafrika ilijengwa juu ya heshima na kuleta familia pamoja na wakati mwingine kuleta vijiji pamoja…..Na ilikuwa kwa muundo huu wa familia na mwendelezo ndiyo ulikuwa msingi wa ustaarabu mkuu wa Afrika ya kale. Waafrika walipoanza kuiga mfumo wa familia wa Magharibi, uliharibu mshikamano wa familia ya Kiafrika na nguvu ya utamaduni, mila, maadili ya Kiafrika na kuanguka kwa himaya na ustaarabu mkuu.

Ndoa za kifalme/kiukoo (dynastic) – ilikuwa kawaida kwamba mababu zetu walipopata wenzi, walifanya hivyo kulingana na mazingatio ya kiutendaji. Wanandoa waliundwa si na watu wenyewe bali na jamii pana, familia, wazee na mahakama ya kijiji. Hizo zilikuwa ndoa za kiukoo. Ndoa ilitumika kama zana ya kuhifadhi, kuimarisha, na kutuliza ukoo wa familia, pia ndoa ilitumika kuimarisha miungano, kulinda mwendelezo wa ukoo, kulipa madeni ya zamani, na kudumisha maelewano ya kijamii. Wazee walitenda karibu kama “wanadiplomasia wa familia,” na maamuzi ya ndoa mara chache yaliachiwa vijana wawili peke yao — yalichukuliwa kama maamuzi yaliyoathiri ukoo mzima. Wanandoa walikuwa pamoja kwa sababu zisizohusiana na kuendana kihisia. Kulikuwa na machozi mengi, kulikuwa na huzuni, kulikuwa na upweke – haikuonekana kujalisha kwa sababu mahusiano hayakuwa ya kibinafsi na yalitumikia lengo kubwa zaidi.

  • Miungano ya ukoo hadi ukoo (si ufalme hadi ufalme tu) – Kuoa katika ukoo huo kuliimarisha muungano katika ngazi ya kaya.
  • Ndoa za kati ya vijiji kujenga mitandao ya biashara na usalama – Familia katika kijiji cha wakulima ingeweza kutafuta mwenzi kutoka kijiji karibu na mto, msitu, au njia ya biashara — ikiunda uhusiano wa wakwe ulioipa familia zote mbili ufikiaji wa rasilimali (samaki, chumvi, ardhi ya malisho) na njia salama wakati wa kusafiri.
  • Ndoa ya kurithi mjane (levirate) — kama mfano wa Waluo – Mume alipofariki, mjane wake angeweza kuolewa na ndugu au jamaa wa karibu wa kiume wa marehemu. Hii haikuhusu mapenzi — ilimweka mwanamke na watoto wake ndani ya ukoo wa familia, ilihakikisha watoto bado wanalelewa na kutunzwa na ukoo huohuo, na kuzuia mali, ardhi, au jina la familia kupita kwa watu wa nje.
  • Ndoa ya dada (sororate) – Mke akifariki au kuwa tasa, familia yake ingeweza kutoa dada kuolewa na mume badala yake — tena, kuhifadhi muungano kati ya familia hizo mbili badala ya kuuvunja.
  • Ndoa kama suluhisho la deni au kulipiana fadhila – Katika baadhi ya jamii, ndoa ilitumika kulipa deni la shukrani kati ya familia — kwa mfano, kama familia moja ilisaidia nyingine wakati wa njaa au mgogoro, ndoa miaka baadaye ingeweza “kulipa” rasmi kifungo hicho na kuunganisha familia hizo kwa kudumu.
  • Kuoanisha kwa rika na jando – Katika jamii zenye mifumo ya rika (kama miongoni mwa Wamasai au Wakikuyu), watu waliopitia jando pamoja mara nyingi waliolewa ndani ya mitandao iliyofungamana na rika hilohilo, ikiimarisha uaminifu miongoni mwa wenzao ambao baadaye wangeongoza jamii pamoja.

Ndoa za kimahaba – Kulitokea mabadiliko makubwa baada ya ukoloni wa Afrika na kupokelewa kwa mila za Magharibi katika mtindo wa maisha wa Afrika. Ulikuwa mapinduzi ya hisia ambayo sasa tunaijua kama urumi (romanticism). Na mojawapo ya misingi mikuu ya urumi ni kwamba kila mtu aachiwe kuamua mwenzi wake mwenyewe, kwa mienendo ya moyo wake mwenyewe. Waachiwe kuamua wenyewe. Ni wazo zuri, wazo la kuachilia sana, linapaswa kuwa na maana nyingi. Na tumekuwa katika enzi hii ya kimahaba kwa karne moja hivi iliyopita. Na tuseme wazi — imekuwa maafa. Hatuna furaha zaidi sasa katika utamaduni wa kimahaba kuliko tulivyokuwa katika utamaduni wa ndoa za kiukoo, ambapo ndoa zilifanywa kwa sababu za kiukoo. Kwa nini, kwa sababu tumeshindwa kwa pamoja kuzingatia kwa dhamira ya kutosha ugumu ambao wanandoa hukutana nao wanapochaguana kulingana na mienendo ya moyo. Mapenzi yanaelezwa kama hisia maalum, si mawazo, si hisia ya kanuni zinazoweza kuonekana kwa akili, bali hisia. Lazima uongozwe na hisia zako. Wanandoa huongozwa na hisia badala ya akili. Akili ni adui katika mtazamo wa kimahaba wa mahusiano ya furaha ya kweli. Nawauliza ndugu na dada zangu wapendwa – je, ni kweli si ya kimahaba kama tunafafanua urumi kama kutafuta uhusiano unaowezekana kufanya kazi? Je, si ya kimahaba kuzungumzia pesa? Je, si ya kimahaba kufikiria kwa kina na kwa muda mrefu kuhusu mifumo ya utotoni ya ukuaji wa kisaikolojia? Je, ni kinyume cha kimahaba kutumia muda mwingi kufikiria kuhusu familia na marafiki na kuendana katika kiwango hicho?

Kuishi katika utamaduni wa kimahaba kunamaanisha kuunda uhusiano kwa silika, kwamba kila mtu ana mwenzi wa roho, kwamba utamtambua mwenzi wako wa roho kwa hisia maalum ya kupendeza. Kwamba hupaswi kuombwa ueleze hisia hiyo. Unapaswa kuifuata tu na kutoroka au kuhamia pamoja na kuanza kuzaa watoto kama ndivyo inavyokushika.

Kuridhika kwa maisha ya mtu huamuliwa hadi karibu asilimia 70 na ubora wa mahusiano yake binafsi. Mgeni kutoka sayari nyingine akitembelea dunia na kusikia takwimu hiyo angefikiri – wazi kwamba wakazi wa dunia – kwa kuzingatia nafasi kubwa ya mapenzi, wangetumia asilimia 70 ya pesa zao na asilimia 70 ya muda wao wa elimu kutafuta jinsi biashara hii ya mapenzi inavyofanya kazi. Lakini badala yake wanaiacha kwa bahati kwa sababu tunaishi katika utamaduni wa kimahaba.

Sababu na Matokeo ya Urumi (Romanticism)

  • Hisia ya mtu binafsi inachukua nafasi ya kufanya maamuzi ya pamoja → inadhoofisha tabia ya kuweka mapendeleo binafsi chini ya malengo ya kikundi, ambayo Pan-Africanism inaitegemea.
  • Ndoa haitumiki tena kujenga miungano → miungano ya kati ya koo, kati ya vijiji, na ya biashara/usalama ambayo ndoa ilikuwa ikiunda inaacha kuundwa.
  • Urumi uliingizwa pamoja na ukoloni → kuuhifadhi kunamaanisha kuhifadhi kitu kilichoingizwa wakati wa ukoloni badala ya kudai tena mifumo ya asili.
  • Wazee wanaondolewa kama “wanadiplomasia wa familia” → inadhoofisha taasisi iliyosambaza kumbukumbu ya pamoja na mshikamano kati ya makundi kwa vizazi.
  • Kutokuwa na utulivu katika ngazi ya familia kutokana na wanandoa wasio na furaha wa kimahaba → huenea nje kudhoofisha kitengo cha msingi cha kijamii ambacho mradi wowote mkubwa wa kisiasa unakihitaji.
  • Ndoa inayoshikiliwa na hisia pekee, bila kiunzi cha nje → hisia hufifia, kiunzi hakikuwepo kamwe, kwa hiyo viwango vya talaka vinapanda.
  • Malezi yanakuwa ya mtu binafsi badala ya kuungwa mkono na jamaa → uhusiano wa kimahaba unapovunjika, hakuna wavu wa usalama wa familia pana unaomnasa mtoto, na kusababisha malezi ya mzazi mmoja.
  • Kaya zilizovunjika na mwongozo dhaifu wa wazee → mkazo wa kiuchumi na uhamishaji usio thabiti wa maadili kati ya vizazi kwa vijana.
  • Hisia kama sababu pekee ya kuingia katika uhusiano → hisia pia inakuwa sababu pekee ya kuuacha au kuvunja kanuni zake, kwa kuwa uwajibikaji kwa akili/familia/jamii ulikataliwa tangu mwanzo.

Fikiria ustaarabu mkuu wa Kiafrika uliopanda na kustawi muda mrefu kabla ya mipaka ya kikoloni kuwepo kwa sababu ya muundo wa familia ya Kiafrika.

Afrika Kaskazini na Kaskazini-Mashariki

  • Misri ya Kale (Kemet) — takriban 3100 KK – 30 KK. Mojawapo ya ustaarabu wa kale zaidi duniani, maarufu kwa piramidi zake, hisabati, tiba, uhandisi, na lugha iliyoandikwa.
  • Ufalme wa Kush (Nubia) — takriban 1070 KK – 350 BK. Ulikuwa katika Sudan ya sasa. Watawala wa Kush waliiteka Misri na kuanzisha Nasaba ya Ishirini na Tano ya Misri. Pia walijenga piramidi nyingi zaidi kuliko Misri yenyewe.
  • Ustaarabu wa Carthage — takriban 814 KK – 146 KK. Ulikuwa Tunisia ya sasa, Carthage ikawa mojawapo ya nguvu kuu za biashara na za majini za ulimwengu wa kale.
  • Himaya ya Aksum (Axum) — takriban 100 BK – 940 BK. Ilikuwa na kitovu katika Ethiopia na Eritrea ya sasa. Aksum ilikuwa mojawapo ya falme zenye nguvu zaidi za enzi yake na iliunganisha Afrika na mitandao ya biashara iliyonyoosha hadi Arabia, India, na kwingineko.

Afrika Magharibi

  • Himaya ya Ghana (Wagadou) — takriban 300 BK – 1200 BK. Himaya tajiri ya biashara iliyodhibiti njia muhimu za dhahabu na chumvi kote Afrika Magharibi.
  • Himaya ya Mali — takriban 1230 BK – 1600 BK. Nyumbani kwa Mansa Musa maarufu. Wakati wa enzi yake ya dhahabu, Timbuktu ikawa mojawapo ya vituo vikuu vya dunia vya usomi, elimu, na biashara.
  • Himaya ya Songhai — takriban 1464 BK – 1591 BK. Mojawapo ya himaya kubwa zaidi katika historia ya Afrika, inayojulikana kwa nguvu zake za kijeshi, utawala, na taasisi za elimu.
  • Ufalme wa Benin (Himaya) — takriban 1180 BK – 1897 BK. Maarufu kwa serikali yake ya hali ya juu na sanamu za ajabu za shaba zilizowashangaza wageni wa Ulaya.
  • Ufalme wa Kongo — takriban 1390 BK – 1914 BK. Ufalme wenye nguvu wa Afrika ya Kati wenye taasisi za kisiasa za hali ya juu na mitandao mipana ya biashara.

Afrika ya Kusini

  • Ustaarabu wa Great Zimbabwe — takriban 1100 BK – 1450 BK. Wajenzi wa mji mzuri wa mawe wa Great Zimbabwe, mojawapo ya mafanikio makubwa ya usanifu wa majengo wa Afrika.
  • Himaya ya Mutapa — takriban 1430 BK – 1760 BK. Mrithi wa Great Zimbabwe na nguvu kuu ya kikanda iliyodhibiti biashara na rasilimali asilia kote Afrika ya Kusini.

Tunapojifunza ustaarabu huu, muundo unajitokeza. Waafrika hawakuwa wageni kwa utofauti. Tayari tulikuwa tumeimudu sanaa ya kuleta pamoja watu tofauti chini ya mifumo ya kawaida ya kisiasa. Hatukuhitaji watu wa nje watufundishe jinsi ya kuishi pamoja.

Janga ni kwamba mipaka iliyowekwa juu ya Afrika ilihimiza mgawanyiko pale ambapo hapo awali kulikuwa na muunganiko. Ilituhimiza kujiona hasa kama raia wa nchi ndogo badala ya wanachama wa familia kubwa ya Kiafrika.

Lakini Ubuntu hutukumbusha ukweli wa ndani zaidi:

“Mtu ni mtu kupitia watu wengine.”

Mustakabali wetu hautajengwa kwa kuta. Utajengwa kwa madaraja.

Mababu zetu walituachia somo lenye nguvu. Misri ilidumu miaka elfu tatu. Kush ilidumu zaidi ya miaka elfu moja. Ghana, Mali, Songhai, Benin, Kongo, Aksum, Great Zimbabwe, na nyingine nyingi zilipanda na kustawi kwa sababu watu walijifunza kuishi, kufanya biashara, kujenga, na kuota ndoto pamoja.

Changamoto mbele ya kizazi chetu si kubuni umoja. Ni kuukumbuka.

Kwa sababu mto unaosahau chanzo chake utakauka.

Na chanzo cha Afrika hakikuwa mgawanyiko kamwe.

Kilikuwa Ubuntu. Kilikuwa jamii. Kilikuwa hatima ya pamoja.

Tunapokumbuka ukweli huo, tunafanya zaidi ya kuheshimu yaliyopita.

Tunaanza kujenga mustakabali wetu.

Afrika haingojei mwokozi anayeshuka kutoka mahali fulani na majibu yaliyoundwa mahali fulani kwa matatizo ambayo hawajawahi kuyaishi. Afrika inakungojea wewe. Mwanamke kijana katika chumba hiki anayeamua leo kwamba jamii yake inastahili huduma bora za afya — na kuwa daktari anayezitoa. Kijana wa kiume anayeamua kwamba watoto wake watajua historia yao — na kuwa mwalimu, mwandishi, msimulizi wa hadithi anayehakikisha wanajua. Mjasiriamali, mhandisi, msanii, mwanaharakati, mkulima, mtengenezaji programu, mganga — nyote, mkichagua leo kuwa kikamilifu, kwa ubora, bila kuomba msamaha, nafsi zenu wenyewe.

Kama methali isemavyo, “Mdundo wa ngoma hubadilika, lakini ngoma inaendelea.”

Mdundo unabadilika. Ulimwengu unabadilika. Teknolojia inabadilika. Mipaka inahama. Vizazi vinapita. Lakini ngoma — ngoma ya kale, isiyoweza kubadilishwa ya watu wanaojua wao ni nani, wanaopenda wanakotoka, na wanaokataa kuacha kujenga — ngoma hiyo inaendelea. Imenusurika utumwa. Imenusurika ukoloni. Imenusurika kila jaribio la kutufanya tusahau. Na itaendelea — kupitia wewe, kwa sababu yako, maadamu unachagua kuendelea kucheza.

Kwa hiyo endelea kucheza. Endelea kujenga. Endelea kuwa.

Hadithi ya Vijiko Virefu

Mzee mmoja alionyeshwa vyumba viwili na mwongozaji. Katika chumba cha kwanza, kundi la watu liliketi kuzunguka karamu ya fahari — milima ya chakula, tajiri na yenye harufu nzuri. Lakini kila mtu alipewa kijiko chenye mpini mrefu kiasi kwamba haijalishi jinsi walivyojipinda na kujinyoosha, hawakuweza kufikisha chakula kinywani mwao wenyewe. Kwa hiyo walikaa — wana njaa, wamekasirika, wamezungukwa na utele — kila mmoja akizidi kukonda mbele ya wingi. Chumba kilijaa kelele. Mabishano. Lawama. Malalamiko. Hakuna aliyekuwa akila.

Katika chumba cha pili, karamu ileile. Vijiko virefu visivyowezekana vilevile. Lakini kitu kilikuwa tofauti. Hapa, chumba kilikuwa na joto. Kicheko kilipita ndani yake kama upepo mwanana. Na kila mtu alishiba — kwa sababu kila mtu alikuwa akitumia kijiko chake kirefu kumlisha mtu aliyeketi mbele yake. Na mtu huyo alikuwa akimlisha yeye kwa kumrudishia.

Mzee alimgeukia mwongozaji na kuuliza: “Tofauti kati ya vyumba hivi viwili ni nini?”

Mwongozaji alisema: “Katika chumba cha kwanza, walisahau Ubuntu. Katika chumba cha pili, waliukumbuka na kuutenda.”

Hii si hadithi kuhusu chakula tu. Ni hadithi kuhusu kila rasilimali, kila kipaji, kila zawadi uliyopewa. Kijiko chako ni kirefu kwa sababu. Kilibuniwa kumfikia mtu mwingine. Unapoelewa hilo — unapoacha kujaribu kujilisha mwenyewe tu — kila mtu hula.

Huwezi kujilisha kwa kijiko chenye mpini mrefu. Lakini unaweza kumlisha mtu mwingine daima. Na wao wanaweza kukulisha. Hiyo ndiyo njia pekee ambayo karamu inafanya kazi.

Jamii zinapoungana katika uzi wa mshikamano na ushirikiano wa pamoja, nguvu ya bara huongezeka mara nyingi. Ni kupitia azimio hili la pamoja ndipo watu wetu watagusa viwango vipya vya maendeleo.

NINAPOJIANDAA KUMALIZA…

Kila mtu anasubiri hali kamilifu ili aanze; hawatambui kuanza ndiyo hali kamilifu.

“Wakia moja ya mazoezi ina thamani ya maneno elfu.”

Hii inarejelewa katika mapokeo ya hekima ya Kiafrika yanayopendelea vitendo kuliko maneno. Afrika haihitaji kizazi kingine kinachozungumzia mabadiliko tu. Inahitaji kizazi kinachokuwa mabadiliko. Kujifunza historia yako ni muhimu. Kujipenda ni muhimu. Kuamini Ubuntu ni muhimu. Lakini mawazo haya yana maana tu kama yanaunda jinsi unavyoishi. Maarifa bila vitendo hayabadilishi chochote. Kama wazee wengi wa Kiafrika wangesema, mtu hahukumiwi kwa anachoahidi kufanya bali kwa anachofanya kweli. Acha kuzungumzia maisha unayoyataka. Anza kujenga.

Kabla sijaenda — nataka kukuachia maswali matatu.

Na sitaki unijibu mimi. Nataka ujijibu mwenyewe, kwa uaminifu, katika nafasi ya kimya ndani yako ambapo hakuna anayetazama na hakuna anayeigiza.

Swali la kwanza.

Kama kila mtu katika chumba hiki angenakili tabia zako za kila siku leo — Afrika kwa ujumla ingeendelea au ingeanguka?

Fikiria hilo. Si kama swali la hukumu. Bali kama swali la uwajibikaji. Kwa sababu sisi si watu binafsi waliotengana tunaofanya chaguzi zilizotengana. Sisi ni jamii. Na jamii huundwa na tabia za kila siku zilizokusanyika za watu walio ndani yake. Asubuhi yako. Nidhamu yako. Uhusiano wako na simu yako. Uhusiano wako na vitabu vyako. Uhusiano wako na neno lako — je, unalitimiza? Uhusiano wako na muda wako — je, unauheshimu? Kama chumba kizima kingefanya unachofanya kila siku — tungeishia wapi?

Swali la pili.

Kama toleo lako la miaka mitano iliyopita lingeingia hapa sasa hivi — lingevutiwa au lingehuzunika?

Je, wewe mdogo huyo angeangalia ulipo, ulichokuwa, jinsi unavyotumia muda wako, unachojenga — na kuhisi fahari? Au angehisi hali ya kukata tamaa nzito, ya kimya? Si kwa sababu umeshindwa. Bali kwa sababu ulitosheka. Kwa sababu ulicheza kidogo. Kwa sababu uliruhusu ndoto ipungue ili iendane na hofu.

Unamdai toleo hilo la mdogo wako jibu la uaminifu.

Na unalidai toleo lako la baadaye jibu bora zaidi.

Swali la tatu.

Na hili — hili ndilo zito zaidi kati ya matatu.

Nataka ufikirie tangazo lako la msiba (obituary).

Si lile litakaloandikwa. Lile linalopaswa kuandikwa — kama ungeishi kila siku kuanzia sasa hadi pumzi yako ya mwisho katika ukamilifu kabisa wa unachoweza kuwa.

Liandike akilini mwako sasa hivi.

Maisha yaliyoguswa. Shirika lililojengwa. Kijana huko Kigoma aliyepata mwelekeo wake kwa sababu ya kitu ulichochagua kukifadhili. Mwanamke huko Mtwara aliyeeleza hadithi yake hatimaye kwa sababu uliunda nafasi ya hilo. Jamii isiyoteleza katika vurugu kwa sababu mtu fulani — kwa sababu yako — aliamua kwamba amani inastahili kuwekewa uwekezaji kabla moto haujaanza.

Sasa — liweke tangazo hilo chini.

Na chukua lile linaloandikwa sasa.

Lile linaloandikwa na chaguzi zako halisi za kila siku. Vipaumbele vyako halisi. Mikutano unayoihudhuria na ile unayoikwepa. Hatari unazozikumbatia na zile unazoziahirisha hadi robo mwaka ijayo, mwaka ujao, muongo ujao.

Je, ni matangazo yaleyale?

Au kuna pengo?

Kwa sababu pengo hilo — nafasi hiyo kati ya unayeishi kama leo na unayeweza kuwa kikamilifu — pengo hilo lina jina.

Linaitwa maisha ambayo hayajaishiwa (unlived life).

Na maisha yasiyoishiwa hayatoweki kimya kimya. Hukusanyika. Huwa majuto. Huwa kitu usichoweza kukitaja lakini unakihisi kila unapokuwa peke yako na mwaminifu na nafsi yako saa nane usiku.

Siko hapa leo kuongeza majuto yako.

Niko hapa kukupa fursa ya kuziba pengo hilo.

Nimepanda kupitia vumbi na mvua ya bara hili.

Nimeketi na vijana wasio na chochote — hakuna kazi, hakuna mwelekeo, hakuna aliyewaamini — na kutazama macho yao yakibadilika mtu alipowatazama hatimaye na kusema: hadithi yako ni muhimu.

Nimeketi na wanawake walionyamazishwa kwa muda mrefu kiasi kwamba walisahau sauti yao wenyewe ilikuwaje — na kuwatazama wakiipata tena, neno kwa neno, katika duara la watu waliokataa kuangalia pembeni.

Nimeona kinachotokea binadamu anapopewa ruhusa ya kusema ukweli kuhusu yeye ni nani na amekuwa wapi.

Husimama wima zaidi.

Hutembea tofauti.

Huanza kuamini kwamba kinachofuata kinaweza kuwa tofauti na kilichotangulia.

Hicho ndicho Mfululizo wa Nafsi Yangu Changa (My Younger Self Series) hufanya.

Si katika chumba cha mikutano. Si katika ripoti. Si katika slaidi ya PowerPoint.

Barabarani. Katika jamii. Uso kwa uso. Hadithi kwa hadithi. Maisha kwa maisha.

Kwa hiyo hiki ndicho ninachojua.

Afrika haikosi rasilimali. Afrika haikosi akili. Afrika haikosi ujasiri.

Kile ambacho Afrika wakati mwingine hukosa — ni watu wanaokataa kuruhusu pengo kati ya tangazo lao la msiba linalowezekana na lile halisi kuzidi kupanuka.

Kuwa mtu huyo.

Chagua tangazo la msiba linalostahili kuandikwa.

Hitimisho la Mwisho

Hadithi ya Afrika haikuanza na utumwa.

Hadithi ya Afrika haikuanza na ukoloni.

Hadithi ya Afrika haikuanza na mipaka iliyochorwa na wageni.

Hadithi yetu ilianza na wajenzi, wafikiri, wagunduzi, wasomi, wavumbuzi, wafalme, malkia, wakulima, wafanyabiashara, na waotaji ndoto.

Na sasa sura inayofuata inasubiri kuandikwa. Si na watu wa nje. Si na serikali. Si na vitabu vya historia. Na wewe.

Kwa hiyo kumbuka thamani yako. Fuatilia ubora. Ishi Ubuntu. Kisha, kwa ujasiri, chukua hatua ya kwanza.

Kwa sababu siri ya kusonga mbele ni kuanza. Na ulimwengu bado unaisubiri Afrika ikumbuke jinsi ilivyo kuu kweli.

Jiamini kwa kina kuhusu thamani yako. Fuatilia ubora bila kuomba msamaha. Kumbuka Ubuntu — kwa sababu wewe ni kwa sababu sisi tuko, na sisi tuko kwa sababu wewe uko.

Kanuni 9 za Ubuntu

Mazoezi Tisa ya Kila Siku ya Kujijenga na Kuijenga Afrika

Kanuni ya Ubuntu 1: Jijue Kabla Ulimwengu Haujakufafanua

Ahadi ya Kila Siku

Nitajifunza kwa makusudi historia yangu, utamaduni, lugha, mila, na ukoo wangu ili utambulisho wangu ujengwe juu ya ukweli badala ya dhana potofu au taarifa za uongo.

Mazoezi

  • Jifunze historia ya Afrika kila wiki.
  • Jifunze lugha yako ya mama.
  • Sherehekea utambulisho wako wa Kiafrika.
  • Kataa kila uongo unaopunguza thamani yako.
  • Wafundishe vijana wanakotoka.

Swali

“Je, naishi kulingana na hadithi yangu mwenyewe au ya mtu mwingine?”

Kanuni ya Ubuntu 2: Linda Akili Yako Kama Hazina Yako Kuu

Ahadi ya Kila Siku

Nitalinda kwa uangalifu kile ninachoruhusu kiingie akilini mwangu kwa sababu kila wazo hatimaye huwa tabia, na kila tabia huwa mustakabali wangu.

Mazoezi

  • Soma zaidi kuliko unavyotelezesha.
  • Punguza mitandao ya kijamii isiyo ya lazima.
  • Jizungushe na wafikiri chanya.
  • Fikiri kabla ya kukubali maoni maarufu.
  • Lisha akili yako hekima kila siku.

Swali

“Je, hili linaimarisha akili yangu au linaidhoofisha?”

Kanuni ya Ubuntu 3: Dhibiti Muda Wako Kabla Muda Haujakudhibiti

Ahadi ya Kila Siku

Nitachukulia kila saa kama uwekezaji badala ya kitu cha kupoteza.

Mazoezi

  • Anza kila siku kwa kusudi.
  • Badilisha vikengeusha-fikira kwa kujifunza.
  • Maliza kazi muhimu kabla ya burudani.
  • Chukulia leo kama fainali ya ubingwa.
  • Jenga ujuzi kila siku.

Swali

“Je, nimewekeza leo au nimeitumia tu?”

Kanuni ya Ubuntu 4: Fuatilia Ubora Katika Kila Unachofanya

Ahadi ya Kila Siku

Sitatosheka kamwe na “inatosha” wakati ninaweza kuwa bora zaidi.

Mazoezi

  • Boresha jambo moja dogo kila siku.
  • Kubali ukosoaji wa uaminifu.
  • Rudia hadi kazi iwe ya ubora.
  • Jifunze kutokana na makosa badala ya kuyaogopa.
  • Maliza kila kazi kwa fahari.

Swali

“Je, nimetoa kilicho bora zaidi kwangu leo?”

Kanuni ya Ubuntu 5: Jijenge Kabla Hujajaribu Kuujenga Ulimwengu

Ahadi ya Kila Siku

Nitaimarisha tabia yangu kabla ya kufukuzia mafanikio.

Mazoezi

  • Kuza nidhamu.
  • Timiza ahadi zako.
  • Jenga tabia zenye afya.
  • Wajibika kwa chaguzi zako.
  • Kuwa mtu ambaye watu wanaweza kumwamini.

Swali

“Je, ninakuwa mtu ambaye mustakabali wangu unamhitaji?”

Kanuni ya Ubuntu 6: Geuza Maarifa Kuwa Huduma

Ahadi ya Kila Siku

Kila ninachojifunza lazima kiboreshe maisha ya mtu mwingine.

Mazoezi

  • Shiriki maarifa yako.
  • Washauri vijana.
  • Tatua matatizo katika jamii yako.
  • Toa ujuzi wako kwa kujitolea.
  • Jiulize kila siku, “Nani ananufaika kwa sababu ninaishi?”

Swali

“Nani ni bora zaidi leo kwa sababu yangu?”

Kanuni ya Ubuntu 7: Chagua Jamii Badala ya Ubinafsi

Ahadi ya Kila Siku

Nitajenga watu badala ya kushindana nao.

Mazoezi

  • Watie wengine moyo.
  • Sherehekea mafanikio ya wengine.
  • Omba msaada unapohitaji.
  • Toa msaada bila kuombwa.
  • Jenga urafiki imara unaotegemea uaminifu.

Swali

“Je, ninaifanya jamii yangu kuwa na nguvu zaidi?”

Kanuni ya Ubuntu 8: Kuwa Daraja Kati ya Vizazi

Ahadi ya Kila Siku

Nitapokea hekima kutoka kwa wazee wangu na kuipitisha kwa wale wanaokuja baada yangu.

Mazoezi

  • Wasikilize watu wazee.
  • Rekodi hadithi za familia.
  • Hifadhi mila za Kiafrika.
  • Wafundishe watoto historia yao.
  • Kuwa mshauri.

Swali

“Hekima gani itadumu kwa sababu niliishi?”

Kanuni ya Ubuntu 9: Iache Afrika Bora Kuliko Ulivyoikuta

Ahadi ya Kila Siku

Maisha yangu lazima yawe mchango, si hadithi ya mafanikio tu.

Mazoezi

  • Tatua matatizo ya mahali ulipo.
  • Jenga taasisi.
  • Linda mazingira.
  • Unga mkono biashara za Kiafrika.
  • Unda fursa kwa vizazi vijavyo.
  • Ishi kwa swali moja rahisi:

“Kama kila Mwafrika angeishi hasa kama ninavyoishi leo, Afrika ingekuwa na nguvu zaidi au dhaifu zaidi?”

Kama jibu ni dhaifu zaidi —

badilisha tabia zako.

Kama jibu ni yenye nguvu zaidi —

endelea kujenga.

Ahadi ya Ubuntu

Nitajua mimi ni nani kabla sijaamua naelekea wapi. Nitailinda akili yangu, kwa sababu kila mustakabali huanza na wazo. Nitafuatilia ubora katika kila kazi, haijalishi ni ndogo kiasi gani. Nitauheshimu muda wangu kama rasilimali yangu kuu ya kidunia. Nitakumbuka kwamba thamani yangu haiwezi kupewa wala kuchukuliwa. Nitaishi Ubuntu, nikijua kwamba nakuwa binadamu kamili kupitia wengine. Nitatumia vipaji vyangu kuitumikia jamii yangu. Nitachagua umoja badala ya mgawanyiko na ushirikiano badala ya ubinafsi. Nitaacha urithi utakaofanya kizazi kijacho kuwa na nguvu zaidi kuliko changu.

Tukishajipata kwenye ramani ya jiografia ya binadamu, lazima tuwaambie watoto wetu – wao ni nani. Lazima tuwaambie watoto wetu dhamira yao inapaswa kuwa nini. Na aina ya urithi wanaopaswa kuuacha kwa ulimwengu mzima lakini wanaanzia na nafsi zao katika ubinafsi wa lazima wa kuishi – jijali wewe kwanza kisha tafuta kioo hicho na ujue ni nani anayekutazama. Na yule anayekutazama – tumia neno SISI, SISI tutaubadilisha ulimwengu. Na kama tuliupa ulimwengu ubinadamu wa kwanza, tutaupa ulimwengu ubinadamu unaofuata. Na kuhusu kujiandaa kwa kazi – tuko tayari kuifanya sasa hivi. Dkt. John Henrik Clarke.

Hii ni hadithi kulingana na Ustadh Yusuf – ya kwako ni ipi?

My Younger Self Series – Sirito

Your story is not defined by the struggles you face today, but by the courage you show while overcoming them

The Journey of Patience, Hard Work and Resilience.

Dear Younger Self,

I know the road ahead will not always be easy, but I want you to remember one thing: your beginnings do not determine your destination.

I was born and raised in a remote village in Western Kenya, in a humble family where survival was a daily struggle. My parents were peasant farmers who worked tirelessly to provide for us, even when resources were limited. Life taught me from an early age that nothing comes easily, and every opportunity must be valued.

Growing up, I carried dreams bigger than my circumstances. Through determination and sacrifice, I managed to pursue my education and studied Automotive Engineering. It was a journey filled with challenges, but I believed that education would open doors to a better future.

However, after completing my studies, I discovered that having skills and qualifications does not always guarantee opportunities. In Kenya, limited employment opportunities pushed me to choose self-employment and create my own path. The journey of entrepreneurship came with many challenges — lack of capital, limited opportunities, uncertainty, and moments when giving up seemed easier than moving forward.

But every challenge carried a lesson. I learned that success is not built overnight. It requires patience, commitment, courage, and hard work. I learned that sometimes the journey may be slower than expected, but every step forward matters.

To my younger self, I would say:

Do not be ashamed of where you come from. A humble beginning can produce a strong character. Keep learning, keep believing, and never allow challenges to convince you that your dreams are impossible.

Life will test your patience, but those tests will shape your strength. Work hard, remain focused, and trust the process.

With love and gratitude,
Your future self,
Leonard Sirito

My Younger Self Series – Dan

Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.

I was born and raised in a small village in the western part of Kenya, in a family that was trying to survive with very little. Even though we were considered middle class, life never felt easy. Every day came with its own struggles.

My father was a forester, but he lived a life that pulled him away from us. He was polygamous and often lost in alcohol. We were the second family, and many times it felt like we did not exist in his world. Days would pass without seeing him. When he wasn’t at work, he was in drinking places or with the other family.

As a child, I didn’t fully understand it—but I felt it. The absence. The silence. The questions that had no answers.

But in the middle of all that, there was one person who never left—our mother.

She was our strength, our hope, and our provider. Every morning, she would wake up early, carry her vegetables, and walk to the nearest market just to earn enough for us to eat. Sometimes it wasn’t enough, but she never gave up. She stood by us when everything else felt uncertain.

Watching her struggle and still choose us every day changed me.

There were moments of doubt, moments of pain, moments when life felt unfair—but I held on. I got the opportunity to go to school, and I chose to fight for a different future. I pursued electrical installation, not just as a course, but as a way out, as a promise to myself that my story would not end in struggle.

Through everything, I learned that: Hard work is not optional—it is necessary.

Patience is painful, but it builds strength.

And even when life feels divided, you must build yourself whole.

Growing up in a polygamous family was not easy. It came with pain, confusion, and many challenges. But it also gave me resilience. It forced me to grow faster, to think deeper, and to become stronger than my circumstances.

Today, I carry not just my dreams—but my mother’s sacrifices, my struggles, and the lessons that shaped me.

This is not just my story.

This is my foundation.

With love and gratitude,
Your future self,
Dan Mchonje

My Younger Self Series – Kibet

The secret to getting ahead is getting started

I grew up in a remote village in the western part of Kenya. As the firstborn son in my family, I carried many responsibilities from a young age. My parents were middle-class peasant farmers, and we depended entirely on farming for our survival. Being the firstborn, I had to take care of my younger siblings. As they often say, firstborns are like second parents—and from my experience, that is very true.

Growing up with such responsibilities taught me a lot. I learned how to lead by example, to sacrifice, and to embrace hard work and dedication. I had to step up because my parents were always busy working on the farm.

Despite these challenges, I still attended the local village school, where I acquired my basic education from lower primary all the way to Form Four. However, life became more difficult when my parents separated while I was in Class 8. From that point on, we remained with our father, and the responsibilities increased even more. We had to work extra hard to support ourselves.

Due to the weight of these responsibilities, I did not perform well in my Form Four exams. However, I did not give up. After completing secondary school, I joined the National Youth Service (NYS), which later sponsored me to pursue a certificate course in Electrical Engineering. I successfully completed my training.

Although I did not secure a job afterward, I chose to return to farming—the same activity that had always sustained my family. I believed it would continue to provide for us, and it has remained a reliable source of survival.

Today, I am grateful for the little I have. I have learned that life is a journey that requires resilience, hard work, dedication, and self-discipline.

With love and gratitude,
Your future self,
Shadron Kibet

My Younger Self Series – James

My Dear Younger Self,

This is a story of pain, survival, resilience, and hope. A story that reminds every young man and woman that difficult beginnings do not mean a hopeless future.

Raised by a single mother in Kangemi, life was marked by hardship from the very beginning. Survival depended on casual jobs, long days, and constant sacrifice to provide for four children.

Education became difficult to sustain, and after a road accident in Kangemi, schooling came to an early end at Class 6. What should have been the season of learning turned into a season of struggle.

While others moved forward, life seemed to stand still. Dreams felt delayed, opportunities felt distant, and the future looked uncertain.

But difficult beginnings do not decide final outcomes.

In 2014, during a funeral wake in the neighbourhood, an opportunity to help came through delivering death announcements to churches within the community. It was a small task, done out of goodwill and service.

The work was done with seriousness, discipline, and reliability. Messages were delivered on time, and trust began to grow within the community.

Most of the work was voluntary. Sometimes a small token of appreciation was given, but many times nothing was received.

Still, consistency continued.

With time, people began to recognize dependability and commitment. Then one person offered simple but life-changing advice: start charging for the service.

That small advice became the beginning of change.

What looked like a minor task became an income source. What looked like wasted years became preparation. What looked like hardship became training for responsibility and resilience.

Lesson

Never despise humble beginnings.

Never assume delay means denial.

Never believe struggle means the end.

Character built in hard seasons often creates success in later seasons.

One day, the pain of today can become the hope of someone else tomorrow.

With love, pride and gratitude,
Your future self,
James Mburu Wambui

My Younger Self Series – Sarah

Dear Younger Me,

I remember it like it was yesterday. Just after high school, at barely 18 years old, life handed me responsibilities bigger than I could imagine. My father entrusted me with his secondary school, expecting me to run it like a professional. I had no experience, no resources, only determination and a heart full of dreams.

In January, my dad gave me a crash course. He showed me the ropes of marketing, reception, teaching, managing staff, and handling students. Then, just a week later, he left for work elsewhere, leaving me in full control. I was alone at the helm, a teenager managing a whole school.

But life had lessons ready for me. The teacher I trusted in the office? Turned out he had other plans. He lured students away to another school for personal gain. Even the relative my dad had left in charge the previous year had done the same. January began with an empty school and a lot of work ahead. Parents came with inquiries, only to be misled. By February, most students had gone elsewhere. It hurt, but I learned quickly: you must stand firm, trust cautiously, and act decisively. My dad helped me remove that teacher, and slowly, we began rebuilding.

We started with only 18 students in Forms 1–4. I had barely any clothes to wear. I owned just one or two pairs of shoes and lived in humble conditions. But my father reminded me, “Don’t let your problems show.” Those words became my armor. Every role fell on me—I was teacher, principal, receptionist, cook, security, manager—all at once. I taught two subjects across all forms. I also did home schooling for a pregnant girl. Additionally, I worked tirelessly to keep the school running.

Marketing became my second life. From April to December, we knocked on doors, went to churches, villages, and towns, spreading the word about our school. Slowly, students returned. By January the next year, we had 50 students. The following years, 100, 150, 200, and eventually 250 students. Growth brought more classrooms, dorms, and even boarding facilities. Maasai families came with full trust. They paid fees for the year upfront. This allowed us to invest in the school—labs, libraries, halls, and eventually electricity.

Discipline, order, and excellence became non-negotiable. Classes were punctual, dorms and classrooms clean, staff accountable. Trips were carefully organized, always with the students’ growth and experience in mind—whether to theaters, children’s homes, or educational excursions. My heart was always in their development.

I even had the honor of attending high-profile meetings with DEO, DO, KNEC, and other officials. I was always the youngest principal in the room, but I earned respect through diligence and integrity.

Saturday boiled eggs and Sunday matumbo became school traditions. Prize-giving days were events I poured my heart into, celebrating students, teachers, and staff alike. Our students shone on GBS TV programs, proudly showcasing the fruits of our labor.

Eventually, the day came when I felt my mission was complete. I left the school, knowing I had transformed it from near-empty classrooms to a thriving institution. My father begged me to stay, but I knew it was time to carve my own path. That was how Kerry Designs Africa was born—out of vision, discipline, hard work, and faith.

Dear Younger Me, remember this: challenges are opportunities in disguise. Responsibility shapes character. Faith combined with effort always brings results. No matter how heavy the burden, your courage, creativity, and perseverance will carry you farther than you imagine.

With love and gratitude,
Your future self,
Sarah K. John

My Younger Self Series – Ustadh Yusuf

50 Life Hacks For My Dear Younger Self

“Your future is not ahead of you, it’s trapped within you.” — Myles Munroe

What are the ultimate life hacks and strategies that really pay off?

Here are 50 of my best life hacks and strategies that have served me well.

To put it another way, my Future Self thanks me for them.

These life hacks are the culmination of life experience, insight from mentors, personal development training, trial and error, and several hundred books.

I’ve also combined my life hacks with some powerful quotes to add an element of timeless wisdom.  I’ve also targeted strategies that can help you at different stages in life, whether you are just starting out, or you’ve been around the block.

If you feel you’ve lost your way, several of these life hacks and strategies will help you get back on path.  If you internalize these life hacks for your Future Self and put at least a few into action, you’ll give yourself an immediate and instant source of advantage.

As you explore the list, find three life hacks you can use right now to ignite a breakthrough or two, and take your life, and your Future Self, to the next level.

#1. Never Stop Learning

Learn from everyone and everything.

Be like a kid in the candy store and learn from everybody around you.

Everybody you know has their unique gifts.   Learn from them, even if it means learning how NOT to do something.   Also, people like to share what they’re good at, so eat it up.

Never be above learning, and learn from every one you can.  Don’t let your ego get in the way, no matter how smart you are.

Focus on building your portable equity.  Your day is filled with learning opportunities if you are open to them.

You can teach an old dog new tricks. If you stay open.  If you keep trying new things.

You’re growing or dying.  There’s no in-between.

Never close your mind.  Stay open to new worlds and new possibilities.

#2. Invest in Yourself

This one will pay you back every time.

You are your best investment, and you take you with you wherever you go.

As Robin Sharma says, “Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. It will not only improve your life; it will improve the lives of all those around you.”

It’s too easy when you finish school and start a job to say, “I’m done with learning.”   If you want to keep earning, you have to keep learning.

#3. Drive from Your “WHY”

Every day you make a choice about how you show up in this world – at work, in your business, in life.   Have a cause that drives you and a belief that inspires you.

We fall short when we focus on what we do, and not what we stand for.

Life’s short.  Then you die.

Make it matter.

Your purpose is power and it’s fuel for your passion,

Drive from your purpose.

But where do you find it?

Look inside.

Find the answer to the question, “Why do you do what you do?”

Peel away at an onion until you get to the inner core.  Find your fire inside.  That’s where your strength to move mountains comes from, and your purpose is the torch that lights the way for others to help you in your cause.

#4. Decide Who You Are

Define yourself.

Don’t let others define you or what you’re capable of.

My favorite answer to “Who are you?” is from Scott Adams:

“You are what you learn.”

#5. Decide Who You Want To Be

In the Last Lecture, Randy Pausch asks us to decide if you’re Tigger or Eeyore

Own your choice and live it like you mean it.

One day when I was running around the different halls within the campus – rushing to get to class on time, one of my mentors stopped me and asked, “How do you want others to experience you?”

Not like a chicken with its head cut off.

More like James Bond and on top of the situation.

How do you want others to experience you?   How do YOU want to experience you?

Start from there, and drive from that.

You’ll immediately start creating more of the experiences that you want, and less of those that you don’t.

#6. Live YOUR Life

Who’s life do you want to live?  The one your parents or your friends want for you?  Or, the one that fairy tales taught you?  Or the life that the media tells you?

It’s your life.  Live it on your terms.

Don’t live other people’s lives.  Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses.   Do what makes you happy.  Know what you want, and what you need.   Don’t let other people’s expectations for you rule your life, or limit the life that you want to lead.

People pleasing wears you out, unless you find a way to please yourself first.

#7. Live Your Life from the Inside Out

Start from the inside.

Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world.

We get what we project, and the world reflects back at us.

Here are a few words of wisdom from Earl Nightingale:

“It’s so easy to forget ultimate in the rush and hurry of daily life, especially for young people. So often, we’re merely responders, so to speak, simply reacting to stimuli, to rewards and punishments, to emergencies, to pains and fears, to demands of other people, to superficialities. It takes a specific, conscious effort, at least at first, to turn one’s attention to intrinsic things and values. Perhaps seeking actual physical aloneness. Perhaps exposing one’s self to great music, to good people, to natural beauty, and so forth. Only after practice do these strategies become easy and automatic so that one can be living totally immersed in his or her river.”

Immerse yourself in your river.

#8. Live Your Values

“Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth.” — Henry David Thoreau

The key to The Good Life is spending more time in your values.

To live your values, you need to know your values.

When you know your values, you simply need to connect what you do each day back to your values.

The smart way is to connect what you do at work to your values.  For example, if you like to learn, then use each day as a learning opportunity, or a chance to master your craft.  Or, if you value excellence, then raise the bar.   Or, if you value beauty, then do more beautiful things and produce more works of art.

#9. Drive from Your Life Style

For so many people, life makes more sense when they find a job where they can spend more time in their values and matches what they want their life style to be.

If you don’t like to travel, then don’t choose a job that requires a lot of travel.

If you don’t want to work crazy hours, then don’t choose a job where a crazy schedule comes with the territory and is the nature of the beast.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of chasing the idea that the grass is greener, or that the glory of the job is worth it, or that climbing the ladder will make life so much better.

Then reality hits.

Going up the ladder, doesn’t necessarily mean spending more time doing what you love.   Going up the ladder, doesn’t mean life gets better or easier.  In fact, it often means more sacrifice and more responsibility that you might not want at this point in your life.   Worse, it might mean you spend a lot less time doing what you love and spending a lot less time in your strengths.

Be careful what you wish for, because you just might get it.

#10. Be Yourself

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”  — Bernard M. Baruch

Besides the fact that everybody else is taken, you’re the best person for the job.

But don’t “just be yourself.”   Really, bring out yourself.

Know what you bring to the table and how to flex what you’ve got.

Share your unique gifts with the world, by spending more time in your strengths.   Do more of YOUR art.

Live your values.  Know YOUR wants and needs.

Stay true to you.

The more authentic you are, the stronger you’ll be in everything you do.

#11. Know Thyself

“He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.”  — Lao Tzu

To be yourself, you need to know yourself, and what you’re capable of.  And, limitations, and opportunities for growth, too.

The more you know yourself, the more you grow yourself, and the more you can bring out your best.  And, the more you know yourself, the more you can also understand and appreciate others, and deal with differences.   This will help you connect better and build better bridges.

So you think you know yourself?

Let’s take a quick check …

Do you know WHY you do what you do?  Do you have your short-list handy of your top values that shape your priorities in life?  Can you name your top 5 strengths?  Do you know your preferred learning styles?  Do you know your preferred thinking styles?  Do you know how you like to deal with conflict and your preferred conflict management style?  Do you know your NLP meta-programs that you use to drive your mind?  Do you know your personality and work environment type that shape your career path?

#12. Be Your Own Best Friend

“You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.” — Diane Von Furstenberg

If there’s one person to have in your corner, it’s you.

Be your best coach, not your worst critic.

You take you with you wherever you go, so it’s worth figuring out how to lift yourself up, not beat yourself up, and how to have a strong sense of self-worth.

The more compassionate you are with yourself, the more compassionate you’ll be with others, and you get what you give.

If you don’t think your worth it, here’s new for you …What separates the people that have a strong sense of love and belonging from those that don’t?

They think they’re worth it.  That’s it.

The choice is yours.

#13. Seek Simplicity

Simplify.

It’s way easy to make things more complex than they need to be.

Seek simplicity.

Simplicity is the key to sustainability.

Drive towards it.

If you keep things simple, you can better adapt to change.   You can also focus more on what’s important without getting lost in distractions and weeds.

#14. Measure Your Life by the People Whose Lives You Touch

“Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes.” that’s the number of minutes in a year … “525,600 minutes – how do you measure, measure a year? … In daylights, in sunsets, in midnights, in cups of coffee. … In inches, in miles, in laughter, in strife. In 525,600 minutes – how do you measure a year in the life?”

How do you measure your life?

You don’t measure it in mansions or yachts.

And, you don’t need to climb a mountain to find the truth.

You can measure your life by the people whose lives you touch.

#15. Embrace the Challenge

You know the saying, “Easy come, easy go.”

And, “Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”

Do the tough stuff.  Embrace the effort.  It’s how you grow.

You’ll often look back and you’ll be proud of yourself for all those moments and all those times where you leaned in to your challenges, and gave it all you got.

For so many things in life, you’ll need to remind yourself the following:

It’s not easy.  But, it’s worth it.

#16. Never Give Up

“If you’re going through Hell, keep going.” – Winston Churchill

Giving up is easy.

Don’t.

Keep getting up to bat.

Never shut down for good.

It’s not how hard you fall.  It’s how high you bounce.

When you fall, get up again.  As the saying goes, “Fall seven times, stand up eight.”

#17. Focus on What You Control, and Let the Rest Go

Every time life feels out of control, remind yourself to focus on what you control.

And, let the rest go.

When you act on what you control, you build momentum.

More importantly, when you exercise the things within your control, you remind yourself that you are powerful and resourceful.

#18. Take Action

“Life is like a game of chess.  To win you have to make a move.” — Allan Rufus, The Master’s Sacred Knowledge

As Tony Robbins reminds us, “It’s not knowing what to do, it’s doing what you know.”

Our power is our ability to act.  Exercise it.  Life’s not static.  Lead a life of action.

Taking action helps you deal with change.  A lot of success in life is about reducing the gap between knowing what to do, and actually doing what you know.   Taking action keeps you from wallowing in misery, and it helps build momentum.

If you’re worried that you missed the boat, remind yourself of this timeless Chinese proverb:

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.”

#19. Ruthless Focus, Relentless Execution

Voltaire said, “No problem can withstand the assault of sustained thinking.”

It’s true.

Likewise, no challenge can withstand our sustained action.

When it comes to making things happen on a consistent basis, no single strategy has served me better than extreme focus and relentless execution.

Act on your best idea, in some small way.  Over time, with sustained focus, relentless thinking, and little actions, you compound your effort into greater results.

Keep in mind, that sometimes the best way to get great results is to take massive action.

In the words of Dan Brown, “Everything is possible. The impossible just takes longer.”

#20. Choose Your Response

“All change happens with a choice.” — Tony Robbins

Don’t let other people push your buttons.

Expand the space between the stimulus and the response.

Stephen Covey said it best:

“In the space between stimulus (what happens) and how we respond, lies our freedom to choose. Ultimately, this power to choose is what defines us as human beings. We may have limited choices but we can always choose. We can choose our thoughts, emotions, moods, our words, our actions; we can choose our values and live by principles. It is the choice of acting or being acted upon.”

As one of my mentors puts it, “You are the sum of your decisions.”

Exercise your choices.

When it comes to making big change and making big choices, put yourself into a position where failure is not an option. Tony Robbins shares this advice:

“If you want to take the island – burn the friggin’ boats!”.

#21. Enjoy the Journey and the Destination

““Life is like skiing.  Just like skiing, the goal is not to get to the bottom of the hill. It’s to have a bunch of good runs before the sun sets.” – Seth Godin

It’s one thing to focus on your destination.

It’s another to enjoy the journey as you go.

Do both.

Find a way to make the journey worth it.

Sometimes, you won’t actually reach your destination.   You’ll want to look back and know that you made your journey worth it, you stopped to smell the flowers along the way, and if you had to do it all over again, there’s a good chance you’d do it the same way.

#22. Be Here Now

“Where are you? …. HERE.  What time is it? … NOW.  What are you? … THIS MOMENT.” – Peaceful Warrior

Be here now.   Your choices are in the moment.

You can choose what you focus on.   You choose whether to worry or take. action.

Now is a great time to act.

Right here, right now, you can think the thoughts that serve you.

Throughout the day, you’ll have learning opportunities and leadership moments.

In the moments throughout the day, you can connect what you do and how you do it back to your values.

In this moment, do you know what you want, what you think, and what you feel?

#23. Cultivate an Attitude of Gratitude

“Happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have.” —Schachtel

Acknowledgement and appreciation are the most powerful rewards on Earth.

You can cultivate your attitude of gratitude by being thankful for the good choices you make during your day.  Acknowledge and appreciate when you make the tough call, do the right thing, or take the high road.

Tony Robbins starts his day from a place of strength by reminding himself what he’s grateful for.

Whenever you can’t find a way to be grateful for what you’ve got, remind yourself how things can always be worse, and if you look for examples, you’ll find plenty.  There is always somebody worse off than you.

#24. Create a Feedback Loop

“Feedback is the breakfast of champions.” —  Ken Blanchard

The fastest way to improve with skill is to get a feedback loop that gives you data to learn and improve from.

Find ways to build learning loops, where you can iterate on something, and get a little better each time.

If you’re not getting the insight you need, fast enough, or relevant enough, then tighten your loop.

#25. Form a Personal Board of Directors

Find people in your life that you trust to give you deep feedback on ways to improve.

They may even know you better than you know yourself.

Find the people and friends who are willing to offer you insight and guidance on how to bring out your best.

#26. Give Your Best Where You’ve Got Your Best to Give

Spend more time in your strengths.

It’s one thing to play to your strengths when you get the chance.

It’s another thing to deliberately find ways to spend a lot more time in your strengths.

John Wooden’s secret to a happy life was peace of mind.  His secret to peace of mind was giving his best, every chance he got.

#27. Stay Hands-On

Use it or lose it.

Don’t be afraid to roll up your sleeves and dive in. It’s part of learning.

You learn more by doing, and that you’re never above any job.  And he would add that the more you know about the job at all levels, the more capable you are as you go up.

#28. Surround Yourself with Catalysts

Robin Hood had his Merry Men.

Build your wolf pack.

Some people we know, just happen to bring out our best.

Somehow, when you’re around them, you smile a little more.  You feel a little stronger.  You walk a little taller. You shine a little brighter.

They are your catalysts.

Surround yourself with the people that lift you.

#29. Embrace Change

“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” — Charles Darwin

Change is a constant in our lives.

If we embrace it, we can use it as an opportunity to let go of what’s not working, and carry forward what is.   We can also use it to reinvent ourselves.

#30. Anticipate It

“The best way to predict the future is to create it.” — Peter F. Drucker

Be what’s next.

Think ahead.    Anticipate.

A lot of the same things happen every day, every week, every month, every year.   Watch for the patterns.  Make them work for you.

You’d be surprised how many things we think are random can be traced back to a simple flow of events that weren’t random at all.

When you get in the habit of looking head, you set the stage to help yourself prepare for changes that may come your way, long before they start to show up.

#31. Age or Mature Like a Fine Cheese

Some people let time wear them down.

Others put time on their side.  They get better with age.

Imagine if you got just a little better each day, how quickly that adds up over time.

Imagine you a year from now, better in so many ways, through better choices, better habits, and better thoughts.

#32. Seek Progress, Not Perfection

“The perfect is the enemy of good.” – Voltaire

Perfection is a great way to paralyze yourself.

Improvement over time beats seeking perfection out of the gate.

Think of perfection as a journey, not a destination, and enjoy the journey as you go.

#33. Add More Life to Your Years

“And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” — Abraham Lincoln

Life’s short.

You can try to add more years to your life, but first add more life to your years.

Otherwise, what’s the point.

#34. Raise Your Frustration Tolerance

Imagine if you found out that your frustration tolerance level was the main thing holding you back from enjoying life a little more each day?

Think of all the little thing that bug you each day.

Maybe it’s the traffic.  Maybe it’s people you know.

Maybe it’s a lot of little things throughout your day, that all seem to rub you the wrong way.

Imagine if you suddenly raised your frustration tolerance, and all the little things that bugged you no longer pushed your buttons?

This is one of those big choices in life that affects you every day.

#35. Take One Step Back to Take Two Steps Forward

I remember the pain of learning to type.  I thought my two-finger method was fine.  I hadn’t realized how much faster I could be.

But getting there was painful.

Speed didn’t come easy.  It was like taking a step back.  Eventually, taking the step back paid off, and now I get the benefit on a daily basis.

A lot of things you learn can be like that.  Learning is awkward.

But the results are worth it, if you stick with it.

#36. Change the Things that Aren’t Working for You

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” — Albert Einstein

As Tony Robbins reminds us, “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”

If things aren’t working for you, change them.

Change yourself first.  The fastest person you can change in any situation is you.   If you’re not getting the results you want, try changing yourself first.

Change your rules.  It’s easy to create a bunch of rules for yourself that make success impossible, or always out of reach.

Change your environment.   As Deepak Chopra , “You can’t make positive choices for the rest of your life without an environment that makes those choices easy, natural, and enjoyable.”

Change your relationships.  As W. Clement Stone says, “Be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them.”

Change your metaphors for life.  Is your life a comedy?  A tragedy?  A sitcom?  An epic adventure? A dance?

Change how you represent things.  Change what they mean to you.  When you change how you represent things, you change how you experience them.

#37. Ask Better Questions

If you want better answers in life, ask better questions.

What are some better questions you can start asking yourself?

Exactly.

#38. Keep Reinventing Yourself

Life’s not static.  Neither are you.  Embrace your changes and make them work for you.

Life is a continuous process of reinvention.

Sometimes, it means becoming more of who you are.  Sometimes, it means becoming more of who you were born to be.   Other times, it means choosing more of who you want to be.

#39. Do More of What You Love

One of the best questions a mentor once asked me was:

“What do you want to spend more time doing?”

I had been so wrapped up in figuring out my career moves that I lost sight of the basics.   After thinking it over, I got clarity around the things I liked to do the most.   This made choosing my next moves a lot easier, because I now knew what I wanted to fill my day with.

Figure out what you want to spend more time doing.

Then, find a way to do more of it.

#40. Model the Best

“If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.” – Isaac Newton

You can start from scratch or you can start from examples. By starting from examples, you can “Stand on the shoulders of giants” and leapfrog ahead. More importantly, you can use the examples to model from and inspire and guide yourself with skill. They will help you avoid dead ends and glass ceilings.

You can always choose to ignore what other people have done. But that should be an explicit decision. One of the best ways to speed up success is to build on the patterns and practices that work.

Success always leaves clues.

You can learn from the success of others to tune and prune your own success path.

#41. Use Mentors as the Short-Cuts

Mentors are the ultimate short-cut.

Find mentors who have “been there, done that.”   They can shave years off your journey and help you avoid dead ends.

The best mentors will know how to tailor their experience and insight in a way that helps you play to your strengths and accelerate your success.

#42. Break the Loop

Our little loops can make us or break us.

Whether it’s an action or a thought, if it doesn’t serve you, break the loop.  Don’t dig the ruts deeper.

When the loop starts, catch yourself and choose whether you need to start, stop, or continue something.

It’s easier said than done, but awareness it the first step.

#43. Build Better Habits

As the saying goes, “First, you make habits, and then your habits make you.”

Your routines and rituals can serve you well.   Your daily little actions add up over time for the compound effect.

Do something once or twice and it’s a one off.  Do it three times, and you might be on to something.  Do it for 21 days in a row, and it just might stick.

Be careful in your little choices.   The thoughts you think, the things you drink, the stuff you eat, and the little things you do.  Habits can be insidious and act like a slippery slope.

#44. Do the Opposite

Sometimes the best thing you can do is to “do the opposite” of what you’d normally do, to periodically surprise people and have them see you in a new way.

It’s easy in life to fall into routines that don’t serve us.

The fastest way to change our game is to rattle our own cage and shake things up.

If you’re always late, try being early.

If you’re always slow, try changing your pace.

If you’re always fast, then try slowing down.

If you’re the person that always says, “No” to things, try saying more “Yes.”

If you always find what’s wrong with things, try finding what’s right.

If you lack your confidence, try strutting more of your stuff.

Doing the opposite of what you normally do, might lead to your next best breakthrough.

Worst case, you’ll learn more about you, you’ll learn more about balance, and you’ll put more options under your belt for how you show up or how you respond in life.

#45. Find Your Arena for Your Best Results

For 45 minutes, a violinist played his heart out in a subway station.   During that time, thousands of people walked by.   No applause.  No recognition.

Two days earlier, that same violinist, Joshua Bell, one of the world’s best musicians, sold out at a theater in Boston where the seats average $100.

In the one arena, nobody appreciated his performance.  Nobody expected the world’s best musician to be performing right there in front of them in a subway station.

Change the arena, and suddenly Bell’s world-class performance is recognized and rewarded.

As my one mentor put it to me, “Never measure your worth by the attention of people who are not paying attention.”

Sometimes you have to change your container.

You might be the world’s worst boxer, but the club’s best bouncer.

Maybe you’re a lousy novelist, but the word’s best children’s author.

Maybe you’re a second-rate teacher, but one of the world’s best entrepreneurs.

The ugly duckling wasn’t so ugly when he found out he was actually a Swan.

Don’t be a fish out of water.

When you’re in your element, it’s night and day.

#46. Root Yourself in Your Mission, Not Your Position

Jobs change.

Missions are durable.

If you lose your job, you can find other ways to live your mission.

For example, if my mission was to help people live healthier lives, but if, for whatever reason, I couldn’t be a doctor, I would find other ways.

#47. Live Without Regrets

Go for it.

“It is not the things we do in life that we regret on our death bed. It is the things we do not. Find your passion and follow it.” — Randy Pausch

“Did I live, did I love, did I matter?” – Brendan Burchard

“Our lives are defined by opportunities, even the ones we miss.” — F. Scott Fitzgerald

“You get this one moment to regret all the things you said you’d do but never did, and then it’s over.  You die or you live.  If you live, the look in your eyes is never the same.” — Gabrielle Bouliane.

#48. Take the High Road

Don’t get sucked into other people’s drama.  Don’t get sucked into your own drama.  Don’t spiral down into name calling, and blaming.

Step away from it.

Seek higher ground.

Don’t get pulled down, or stoop to their level.

#49. Be Your Own CEO

Apply business skills to life.

Business can teach us a lot.  The most important thing they can teach us is how to be sustainable.  You can use the same tools that create a strong, sustainable business, to create a strong, sustainable life.

If you know your vision, mission, and values, you have a strong foundation.  Strategy skills teach us how to make the most of what we’ve got in terms of time and resources.   We can innovate in our lives to do things better, faster, cheaper, much the same way we innovate in business.   We can also reflect on and improve our performance in more objective ways, much the way a business does.

#50. Treat Work as Your Ultimate Form of Self-Expression

Work is a great place to show up how you want to be.

It’s your chance to make your soul sing.

It can be your ultimate dojo for personal development and your arena for your best results.

If you want to be an artist, do more art on the job.

You’re an individual with a unique set of strengths, weaknesses, and experiences. Maybe only your closest friends know your true strengths.

Maybe you don’t show your strengths at work.

Why not? No matter what the task is, you can leave your mark.

When you live your values on the job and you give your best where you have your best to give, you are operating at a higher level.

Your Habits Predict Your Future

Well, that’s my roundup of 50 of my best life hacks.  I hope they serve you well.

I’d like to leave you with a quote from William Arthur Ward:

“Our words reveal our thoughts; our manners mirror our self-esteem; our actions reflect our character; our habits predict the future.”

My Younger Self Series – Simiyu

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better,”

My name is Job Simiyu, and this is the story of my younger self and the journey that has shaped who I am today.

I was born on 3rd September 2003 in a small village called Menu, in Bungoma County, Kenya. I grew up as the only son of Patrick Simiyu and Agnes Khaemba, surrounded by eight sisters. Being the only boy in a large family placed responsibility on me from a very young age. Even as a child, I understood that much was expected of me.

My father was, and still is, a peasant farmer who depended on small-scale farming to provide for our family. Life was difficult, but my parents tried their best with the little they had. However, in 2007, when I was still very young, my life changed completely. My mother became seriously ill and was eventually paralysed. From that moment, my childhood took a different direction.

As a young boy, watching my mother lose her strength and ability to work was deeply painful. Our home was filled with worry and uncertainty. Medical needs increased, yet our family income remained very low. I watched my father struggle every day in the farm, trying to care for my paralysed wife and provide for his children. Even though I was young and did not fully understand everything, I felt the fear, pain, and heaviness in our home.

My Education Journey

I began my primary education in 2007 at Chwele Boys Primary School, where I studied until 2019. My younger self faced many educational challenges. There were frequent times when school fees could not be paid, uniforms were missing, and basic learning materials were unavailable. I was often sent home because of fees, and those moments were painful and embarrassing, especially when I saw other children continuing with their studies without interruption.

Despite all this, my younger self refused to give up. I knew, even then, that education was my only hope of changing my life and helping my family in the future. I studied whenever I got the chance and learned patience during times of hardship.

In 2020, I joined Kaptanai High School, where I studied until 2023. Secondary school life was even more challenging. Fees were higher, my mother was still paralysed, and my father’s farming income was not enough to meet our needs. Many times, I felt overwhelmed and close to giving up, but I reminded myself of how far I had already come and why I started.

Through resilience, discipline, and determination, I managed to complete my secondary education and passed my Form Four. For my younger self, completing Form Four was not just an academic achievement—it was a victory over hardship and despair.

Faith and Values

From a young age, my faith in God became my strongest foundation. I grew up as a God-fearing person, and prayer became my refuge whenever life felt too heavy. My younger self learned to depend on God for strength, hope, and direction.

Because of the struggles I faced while growing up, I developed strong values early in life. I learned the importance of honesty, humility, hard work, patience, perseverance, respect, and responsibility. These values continue to guide me today.

Life After Form Four

After completing Form Four in 2023, I hoped to continue with college education. Unfortunately, financial challenges made this impossible at the time. This was very painful, especially because education had always been my dream. However, my younger self had already learned not to give up easily.

Instead of losing hope, I chose to remain patient and determined. I believe that education and success are journeys, not one-time events. I continue to trust in God, work hard, and seek opportunities that will help me grow and support my family.

Conclusion

From 2007, when my mother became paralysed, to the day I completed Form Four, my younger self walked a path filled with pain, struggle, faith, and perseverance. Life was not easy, but I remained resilient and focused.

My story reminds me that where I come from does not define where I am going. Through faith, determination, and strong values, I believe I will succeed.

With love and gratitude,
Your future self,
Job Simiyu

My Younger Self Series – Herbert

“One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again.”

I was born in Chewangoi, Mt. Elgon, but life did not allow me to grow up where I was born. I found myself in Chepkube, at my grandmother’s home, where my childhood truly began.

My school journey started at Kamosong Primary School, and it was never easy. My grandmother was old and a widow, struggling to provide even the basics, including school fees. Life was hard. We were five grandchildren, and we went through a lot of suffering. We were beaten brutally by our uncles, chased out of the house at night, and forced to do hard labor while still very young.

What hurt me most was not knowing where my parents were. I was abused, yet no one ever told me where my mother or father was. Deep inside, I knew I had a home somewhere, but I didn’t know where it was. Because of that, I endured all kinds of pain and torture. Eventually, my cousins could not take it anymore—some girls got married as early as 15 years old, while the boys ran away to look for work. I stayed behind because of one thing: school.

From nursery to Class Eight, the journey was extremely tough, but God gave me strength. When KCPE results were released, I performed well. My marks opened doors to many big secondary schools—something I had always dreamed of. Sadly, that dream did not come true.

After the results, my grandmother took me to the place she said was my real home. I was very happy, believing I would finally meet my parents for the first time. But my happiness did not last long. When I arrived, I was told that no one knew where my father was.

Still, God did not abandon me. My father’s brother and his family accepted me and treated me like their own child. For the first time, I felt peace and happiness. I will always be grateful. May God bless them.

My secondary education began at Kabkara Secondary School, where I completed four years. Life there had ups and downs, but I managed. After that, I joined Matili College, but due to lack of fees, I was forced to stop my studies.

I then decided to look for a job, and that decision brought me to Nairobi, where I live to this day.

Dear my younger self, I want you to know this: life will test you in ways you never imagined, but do not give up. When you are alive, accept to go through thick and thin. One day, God will lift you from grass to grace. Keep believing. Your story is still being written.

With love and gratitude,
Your future self,
Herbert Chemiat

My Younger Self Series – Shelton

It always seems impossible until it’s done

Dear Younger Shelton,

I know life seems like a long road right now, filled with questions and uncertainty. But trust me, every step you take, every lesson you learn, is preparing you for something greater. One day, the boy walking the corridors of Sango Primary School and later Sikalame Secondary School will become a man who drives not just vehicles, but also his own destiny.

You will work hard to gain skills, starting with obtaining your driving license at Prince Driving School. At times, the journey may feel slow, and the responsibilities heavy, but every mile you cover, every challenge you face, will build your discipline, patience, and reliability.

From being a security guard to supervising a team at Lavington Security Company, you will learn leadership, vigilance, and how to protect and care for others. You will deliver documents, transport goods safely, and mentor staff as a driver at reputable companies. Through it all, your commitment to punctuality, integrity, and excellence will shine.

You will realize that success is not only about titles or salary, but about being dependable, responsible, and trusted by those around you. You will see that your work matters, that your dedication brings safety, comfort, and peace to others.

So, young Shelton, remember: embrace discipline, respect the rules, care for people, and never stop learning. One day, you will look back and be proud of the man you’ve become — skilled, respected, and steadfast.

Keep driving forward. Your journey has only just begun.

With love and gratitude,
Your future self,
Shelton Makhapila

My Younger Self Series – Emmanuell

Do what you can with all you have, wherever you are.

Growing up in Bungoma, I was always that curious boy who loved to see things take shape — houses, bridges, and roads fascinated me. I would often stand by construction sites, watching how workers mixed concrete, aligned bricks, and turned empty ground into something meaningful. Even then, I knew I wanted to be part of that transformation someday.

After completing my studies at Kakamwe R.C. Primary School and Tongaren C.E.B. Secondary School, I joined Kisiwa Technical Training Institute to study Civil Engineering. College life was exciting but also demanding — balancing theory with practical work, late nights of studying, and financial challenges that often tested my focus. Still, I kept pushing, reminding myself that education was the key to changing my life and honoring my family’s sacrifices.

But just as I was stepping into adulthood, life hit me harder than I could ever imagine. After graduation, my father passed away — the man I looked up to for guidance and strength. I was broken, but I tried to stay strong for my family. Then, not long after, my mother also passed on. Losing both parents within such a short time shattered me completely. I felt empty, depressed, and directionless.

There were days I woke up with no plan, no money, and no one to lean on. The silence in my home became heavier than any burden I had ever known. But deep inside, something kept whispering — “don’t give up.” I realized that if I wanted to honor their memory, I had to keep moving forward.

I started taking any work I could find — sometimes mixing concrete, other times operating machines, painting walls, or helping on construction sites. Those early days were tough. The pay was little, the work exhausting, but I refused to let my circumstances define me. Every shovel I lifted, every wall I built, reminded me that rebuilding my life was possible — one brick at a time.

Slowly, I began to grow. From being just a helper, I learned to lead teams, operate machines, and supervise projects. I gained respect through hard work, humility, and consistency. The same pain that once broke me became my motivation to build a better future.

Today, when I look back, I see a journey of strength and transformation. I’ve learned that life can take everything from you — but it cannot take your will to rise again. My parents may be gone, but their spirit lives in every goal I achieve, every challenge I overcome, and every structure I help bring to life.

My story is one of loss, resilience, and hope — proof that even when life tears down your foundation, you can rebuild yourself stronger than before.

With love and gratitude,
Your future self,
Emmanuell Makonge Masakha

My Younger Self Series – Kenneth

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there” 

When I look back at my younger self, I see a boy full of questions and quiet dreams. Growing up in Uganda, life wasn’t always easy, but it was real — filled with lessons that shaped my character long before I ever realized it. I remember the early mornings walking to school with my books tucked under my arm, the smell of rain on the red soil, and the sound of laughter from friends who shared the same hopes — to one day make something of ourselves.

I didn’t have much, but I had determination. I believed that being kind, respectful, and honest could take me further than anything else. My younger self didn’t know where the road would lead, but he believed in effort — in showing up every day, even when things got hard. That belief has carried me through every challenge since.

When I finished school, I stepped into the world with little more than faith and ambition. Working in hospitality taught me what it truly means to serve — not just food or drinks, but people. It taught me patience, empathy, and how to communicate with hearts, not just words. From Kampala to Doha, each experience reminded me that the boy from Lugazi was right — kindness and perseverance can open doors beyond imagination.

Sometimes I wish I could speak to that younger version of myself. I would tell him, “Keep believing, Kenneth. Every small effort counts. Every humble beginning matters. You will one day stand in places you used to only dream about.”

I carry him with me still — his courage, his curiosity, his simplicity. He reminds me to stay grounded, to serve with joy, and to keep chasing growth. My younger self was not perfect, but he was brave — and for that, I am forever grateful.

With love and gratitude,
Your future self,
Kenneth Joshua Ssejuuko

My Younger Self Series –  Samuel

Looking back at where I started, I can only say that life has been a long and winding journey — one filled with challenges, lessons, and small victories that have shaped the person I am becoming.

My name is Samuel Junior Mandu, and I was born in Kabendo Village, Lwandanyi Ward, Sirisia Constituency, and Bungoma County, Kenya. Growing up in a humble and close-knit family, I learned the true meaning of love, unity, and resilience. My parents worked tirelessly to provide for us. They never gave up, even when life seemed tough and uncertain. Their sacrifices and determination remain my biggest source of inspiration. For that, I say thank you, Dad and Mum — your love and strength keep me moving every day.

When I look back at my childhood, I see a time filled with hope and curiosity. Like many children, I had dreams — big dreams — about my future. I wanted to study hard, succeed, and make my family proud. I completed my Form Four in 2017, full of expectations and plans to join campus. But life had other plans. Due to unavoidable circumstances, I couldn’t proceed to university immediately. It was a difficult period, one that tested my patience and faith.

However, I refused to let that setback define me. Instead of giving up, I joined driving school, where I trained and became a skilled, careful, and disciplined driver. That experience taught me that sometimes, the road to success isn’t always straight — but every detour carries an important lesson. It built in me the values of hard work, patience, and adaptability.

I have always considered myself a hardworking and self-motivated individual, eager to learn something new and improve myself every day. I take pride in my ability to communicate well and connect with others — a strength that has helped me navigate through life’s ups and downs.

Then came the year 2022, one of the most challenging seasons of my life. I fell seriously ill, and for a moment, it seemed as though my journey might end there. The pain, the uncertainty, and the fear were overwhelming. But through it all, I held on to faith. God’s mercy sustained me, and I was given another chance at life. That experience changed how I view everything — it reminded me that life itself is a gift, and every day is an opportunity to grow, give, and be thankful.

Today, I look at the future with renewed hope. My short-term goal is to work in a well-reputed company, where I can gain practical experience, contribute to its growth, and continue learning and improving myself. I believe that success is not just about reaching the destination, but also about learning from every step along the way.

When I reflect on my journey — from the small boy in Kabendo Village to the determined young man I am now — I feel proud. The path has not been easy, but every struggle has prepared me for what lies ahead. I carry with me the lessons of perseverance, gratitude, and faith.

To my younger self, I say: Never lose hope. Every challenge you face will become a stepping stone. Keep believing, keep working, and keep trusting in God’s timing.

With love and gratitude,
Your future self,
Samuel Junior Mandu

My Younger Self Series –  Edwin

My name is Edwin Kirui Tekei, the second-born in a family of nine siblings. I grew up in a humble home where love and hard work were the roots of everything we did. My father worked as a plumber, often moving from one place to another looking for jobs, while my mother is a mama mboga who sells vegetables at our home village market. They have always done their best to provide for us, even when times were tough.

From a young age, I dreamed of becoming a land surveyor. I was fascinated by how land is measured and mapped, and I wanted to help in developing better communities. Unfortunately, due to financial constraints, I couldn’t pursue that dream. It was painful at first, but I learned to accept that sometimes life leads us in different directions.

With time, I developed a new passion — teaching. I came to realize that being a teacher is not just a job; it’s a calling. Teaching gives me a chance to guide, inspire, and shape young minds. It’s a noble profession, and I believe through it, I can make a real difference in society.

Life hasn’t been easy. One of the biggest challenges I’ve faced is lack of connections and opportunities. Sometimes, even when you work hard, progress seems slow because of who you know or don’t know. But I’ve learned an important lesson — to stay optimistic, patient, and focused. I’ve also discovered that farming can be a strong foundation for the future. It keeps me grounded and gives me hope that success can grow from the soil, just like a seed.

I believe that every struggle is a lesson, and every setback is preparing me for something better. My dream now is to keep learning, keep growing, and keep moving forward — no matter how hard life gets.

Love,

Your Future Self – Tr. Edwin Kirui Tekei

My Younger Self Series –  Theophilas

“If there is no struggle, there is no progress” 

Growing up is rarely a straight path; it’s full of twists and turns. Suddenly, you find yourself an adult, expected to fend for yourself, provide for others, and make a positive impact on society. This journey demands being grounded—at least, that’s what I’ve learned as I grow. It’s important to recognize that as a child or adolescent, you might not always see eye to eye with your parents, if you’re lucky enough to have them and for them to be present in your daily life. While you naturally want to carve out your own identity, it’s wise to shape your character on the foundations your parents have set—assuming they have your best interests at heart.

As you enter adulthood, focusing on the present becomes crucial because it’s the only moment where you have real control. How you spend each 24-hour cycle profoundly influences who you become. So, always strive to be honest with yourself—don’t hide from where you are or what you’re going through. Remember, good peer pressure is positive reinforcement. In the end, make every day count, and your future self will thank the choices your past self made.

Love,

Your Future Self – Theophilas Matundura – Managing Partner TMM & Partners Advocates

My Younger Self Series –  Nelson

My name is Nelson Katami, born in Kabendo Village, Lwandanyi Ward, Sirisia Constituency, Bungoma County, Kenya. I come from a humble background, being the last-born in a family of ten children, born to older but loving parents.

Life was not easy growing up. At the young age of four, I had to start providing for myself by taking care of my clothing and personal needs, while my parents could only manage to provide shelter and food.

Getting an education was a real struggle due to limited resources at home. Despite my challenges, I had a big dream — I wanted to become a doctor and make a difference in people’s lives. Unfortunately, financial constraints made it impossible to achieve that goal. Instead, I pursued my studies in ICT and trained as a technician.

My parents worked hard to support us. My father practiced animal herbal treatment, while my mother was a mama mboga, reselling vegetables in the rural market of Cheptais. Despite their efforts, life remained difficult, and we often had to survive on very little.

Over the years, I have struggled to improve my life, but lack of connections and opportunities has made it challenging to secure stable employment. However, I’ve learned an important lesson: business and farming are the keys to a better future. I now believe in creating opportunities rather than waiting for them.

Life is full of challenges, and no journey is ever smooth. To overcome obstacles, we must think critically, act wisely, and stay determined.

This is my story, my journey, and my belief that with hard work, resilience, and focus, we can rise above any circumstances.

Love,

Your Future Self

My Younger Self Series –  Abdikadir

My name is Abdikadir Sharif Mohamed. I grew up during a time when my country was torn apart by civil war, which forced many families to constantly move in search of safety. For years I was separated from my parents, yet I never abandoned my education. Wherever I went, I continued my studies until I completed the Qur’an. Later, my family and I returned to the capital, where I resumed my studies; this time I entered high school.

My dream was to study abroad. I left Somalia for Uganda, where I encountered people from diverse backgrounds, both in terms of language and culture. Soon after, the COVID-19 started, and then government closed educational places and my progress toward start university stops there. I then moved to Kenya, planning a journey that would eventually take me to the United States, but unluckily, it couldn’t get approved. After two and a half years, I returned to Somalia, feeling that I had lost so much time.

However, I was never become alone—my mother constantly encouraged me to never give up. With her support, I decided to restart my education inside Somalia and enrolled at Jamhuriya University. At first, it was very difficult, especially when I saw my old classmates already in their final year of university. For two weeks I stayed home, overwhelmed by discouragement. But one morning I decided to return to the university, and that decision changed my life.

I slowly adapted to university life, I took on various roles within the IT student union, and in my third year I became president of student union. I also served as an assistant lecturer, teaching several subjects and working alongside different lecturers.

Since childhood, I have always loved playing and watching football, and I have also been deeply passionate about playing video games.

If I could give one piece of advice to the next generation, it would be Don’t compare yourself to others. also Change the plan but never change the goal.

Love,

Your Future Self

My Younger Self Series – Hani

You’re going to fall down, sometimes it will hurt, but get back up.

Dear Younger Self

When I was a child, around the age of 10 years. I attended a Quran school. After completing my Quran studies, I enrolled in a literacy centre where I learned mathematics and how to write in the Somali language. Once I had gained those basic skills, I joined a primary school named Khadija Model where I started grade 3.

I continued my studies there until middle school. Later I transferred to another school where I completed my secondary education.

At home, I enjoyed helping my mother with household chores and also used to work in a small family owned shop. I was always passionate about my education and worked hard to achieve good academic results.

The biggest mistake I made during my childhood was being late to school sometimes, so late that I would be denied entry. This let to me missing important lessons and educational opportunities. This could have helped shape my future. I also wasted a lot of time on games and meaningless conversations instead of focusing on my dreams and education.

What I have learned is that education is the key to life. If you want to achieve great things, you must be persistent, responsible and patient in the face of small challenges. Today, I realize how much valuable time I wasted and this is one of the biggest mistakes I made.

To little Hani, I say whatever happens, be patient, keep learning and remind yourself every day that you are building your future. If you make a mistake, know that it can be corrected. Just don’t repeat again. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and never see education as a burden. See it instead as a golden opportunity.

As I grow older, I dreamt of studying business administration at university so that I could become a successful businesswoman. I also planned to pursue a master’s degree and eventually open my own shoes company where I would brand the shoes with my name – something like – Hani Company.

My Younger Self Series –  Fathi

As I reflect on the time when I was young, with an open heart and boundless dreams – I write to you this letter to remind you of the value of time, the importance of patience and the wisdom found in mistakes.

These will be moments when I feel lost, fearful of the future and unsure of myself. But know this, all of it is part of my growth. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. I might fail, but each failure is a lesson. What I feel today does not define who I will become tomorrow.

Always remember to stay true to yourself. Don’t bend over backward to please others at the cost of forgetting who you are. Be kind to yourself and never compare your journey to someone else’s. Everyone has their own timing, their own tests and their own unique path.

Please keep dreaming, reading, learning and surrounding yourself with good people. Don’t be discouraged by obstacles – they are temporary and you are stronger than you think. Time will pass and you will grow beautifully into someone who finally understands herself.

Whatever lies ahead, you will overcome it with honesty, faith and consistent effort. You are worthy of love, success and every beautiful thing coming your way.

Keep moving forward with courage in your heart.

Love,

Your Future Self.

My Younger Self Series – Liban

My name is liiban. I am boy who grew up in a comfortable life compared to the children of my own age. Our family consisted of a mother, father and six children. I am the midle in our family.

If I look back on the sweet life of my childhood, it was a life with a special meaning. As liiban, I grew up the way boys of my own age were raised with the loving care of both my parents.

If I reflect on my educational background, in Somalia we have a tradition of sending children to Quranic school when they are old enough to understand and speak. When I finished the Quran school, I was sent to the primary school. I still remember that special day, starting school in the second grade.

My academic journey has brought me countless memories. I have met friends who have always been my friends and we have learned together. Also, in my life journey, I have make friends who have shared life with me. We have made friends at every stage. In the environment where I grew up, I had boys who I can never forget their games, stories, happiness and wise advice.

Similarly, in the Quranic school stage, I made friends with various boys and girls who have shaped my academic life in different ways. I was fortunate to have met students who will never leave my heart and have become true friends.

A special memory from when I was little being the time when my little sister – iqra, joined the family. A sad memory I was attacked at night by a thief who wanted to rob me but he missed me.

I remember so many things from my childhood that I can’t summarize in one place.

Love,

Your Future Self.