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My Younger Self Series – Emmanuell

Do what you can with all you have, wherever you are.

Growing up in Bungoma, I was always that curious boy who loved to see things take shape — houses, bridges, and roads fascinated me. I would often stand by construction sites, watching how workers mixed concrete, aligned bricks, and turned empty ground into something meaningful. Even then, I knew I wanted to be part of that transformation someday.

After completing my studies at Kakamwe R.C. Primary School and Tongaren C.E.B. Secondary School, I joined Kisiwa Technical Training Institute to study Civil Engineering. College life was exciting but also demanding — balancing theory with practical work, late nights of studying, and financial challenges that often tested my focus. Still, I kept pushing, reminding myself that education was the key to changing my life and honoring my family’s sacrifices.

But just as I was stepping into adulthood, life hit me harder than I could ever imagine. After graduation, my father passed away — the man I looked up to for guidance and strength. I was broken, but I tried to stay strong for my family. Then, not long after, my mother also passed on. Losing both parents within such a short time shattered me completely. I felt empty, depressed, and directionless.

There were days I woke up with no plan, no money, and no one to lean on. The silence in my home became heavier than any burden I had ever known. But deep inside, something kept whispering — “don’t give up.” I realized that if I wanted to honor their memory, I had to keep moving forward.

I started taking any work I could find — sometimes mixing concrete, other times operating machines, painting walls, or helping on construction sites. Those early days were tough. The pay was little, the work exhausting, but I refused to let my circumstances define me. Every shovel I lifted, every wall I built, reminded me that rebuilding my life was possible — one brick at a time.

Slowly, I began to grow. From being just a helper, I learned to lead teams, operate machines, and supervise projects. I gained respect through hard work, humility, and consistency. The same pain that once broke me became my motivation to build a better future.

Today, when I look back, I see a journey of strength and transformation. I’ve learned that life can take everything from you — but it cannot take your will to rise again. My parents may be gone, but their spirit lives in every goal I achieve, every challenge I overcome, and every structure I help bring to life.

My story is one of loss, resilience, and hope — proof that even when life tears down your foundation, you can rebuild yourself stronger than before.

With love and gratitude,
Your future self,
Emmanuell Makonge Masakha

My Younger Self Series – Kenneth

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there” 

When I look back at my younger self, I see a boy full of questions and quiet dreams. Growing up in Uganda, life wasn’t always easy, but it was real — filled with lessons that shaped my character long before I ever realized it. I remember the early mornings walking to school with my books tucked under my arm, the smell of rain on the red soil, and the sound of laughter from friends who shared the same hopes — to one day make something of ourselves.

I didn’t have much, but I had determination. I believed that being kind, respectful, and honest could take me further than anything else. My younger self didn’t know where the road would lead, but he believed in effort — in showing up every day, even when things got hard. That belief has carried me through every challenge since.

When I finished school, I stepped into the world with little more than faith and ambition. Working in hospitality taught me what it truly means to serve — not just food or drinks, but people. It taught me patience, empathy, and how to communicate with hearts, not just words. From Kampala to Doha, each experience reminded me that the boy from Lugazi was right — kindness and perseverance can open doors beyond imagination.

Sometimes I wish I could speak to that younger version of myself. I would tell him, “Keep believing, Kenneth. Every small effort counts. Every humble beginning matters. You will one day stand in places you used to only dream about.”

I carry him with me still — his courage, his curiosity, his simplicity. He reminds me to stay grounded, to serve with joy, and to keep chasing growth. My younger self was not perfect, but he was brave — and for that, I am forever grateful.

With love and gratitude,
Your future self,
Kenneth Joshua Ssejuuko

My Younger Self Series – Leila

Dear Past Self,

My name is Leila Abdiaziz Mohamed, a young woman born, raised, educated, and now working in my beloved home country — Somalia.

Of course, if I were to speak about my childhood experiences, I couldn’t possibly sum it all up here. My story is vast and layered. But one thing has always remained true: I have a strong spirit — a heart that never turns away from challenges, and a mind that stays focused on its purpose, no matter what comes my way.

I vividly remember those mornings when I’d leave the house for school, and the people sitting outside would call out to me:

“Don’t you ever finish school?”

And yet, I kept going. Because to achieve success, I knew I had to be prepared to endure whatever life threw at me. And I did. Some of the dreams I had back then, I’ve already achieved. And the rest? I still hold hope that they’ll come to life in the days and years ahead.

Alhamdulillah, Allah blessed me with the most wonderful parents and siblings anyone could ask for — always by my side, cheering me on. I owe special gratitude to my dear mother, Shamsa Mohamed Ali, and my father, Abdiaziz Mohamed Abdi. I love you both deeply. I can never forget our eldest, Dr. Zahra Abdiaziz Hamash — your encouragement has always been my fuel, both in the past and for the journey still ahead.

Today, I am a university lecturer. The opportunity to teach has shaped me, strengthened me, and helped me build the kind of patience and character I need to pursue the life I want. I’ve faced my share of challenges, including hearing comments like:

“You’re just a girl — what are you learning all this for?”

But those words never broke me. They never changed my goals.

As a young girl, I had a deep love for education. I wanted to go far. I wanted to become the kind of woman that other girls could look up to. And by the mercy of Allah, I’ve become that woman. My dreams didn’t stay dreams — they became my reality.

I’ve always loved swimming, reading, watching movies, and spending time with people I can learn from — people whose experience adds value to my own. If there’s one piece of advice I’d offer anyone chasing their goals, it’s this: be patient. Let no challenge distract you from your purpose. Keep going, no matter how hard the road may seem.

And lastly, I want to give special thanks to my cousin, my big sister, and my closest friend — Maryan Ibrahim Garcade. You’ve been my strength, my support, and my safe place. I love you, dear sister. Thank you for being by my side — in every way, always.

With love and gratitude,

Leila Abdiaziz Mohamed

25 Things About Life I Wish I Had Known 10 Years Ago

Make It Count – Time Is Too Short
  1. Struggle Is Good.
    Never say “I can’t take it anymore.” Say “ Bring it on!”
  2. Don’t Complain.
    Complaining is the biggest waste of time there is. Either do something about it, and if you can’t, shut up about it.
  3. Spend Time with People You Love.
    That’s your family and best friends. If you don’t have a family, create one. Most people in life are only visitors. Family is for life.
  4. Don’t Start A Relationship If You’re Not In Love.
    I’ve done this more than once. You kind of like someone and think: “We might as well give it a shot.” Not a good idea. You’re either in love, or you are not. Don’t fool yourself. It’s not fair to you and the other person.
  5. Exercise Daily.
    I didn’t get this until recently. A healthy body is where you have to start everything in life. If you can’t build a healthy and strong body, what CAN you build in life?
  6. Keep a Journal.
    No, keeping a journal is not for children. It helps you to become a better thinker and writer. “I don’t want to be a writer” you might think. Well, how many emails and texts do you send a day? Everybody is a writer.
  7. Be Grateful
    Say ‘thank you’ to everyone and everything. “Thank you for this beautiful day.” “Thank you for your email.” “Thank you for being there.”
  8. Don’t Care About What People Think.
    We all die in the end; do you really think it matters what people think of you?
  9. Take More Risks.
    Don’t be such a wimp.
  10. Pick an Industry, Not A Job.
    Focus on a field you’re passionate about rather than a specific role. This approach offers flexibility, long-term growth and diverse opportunities withing the industry as your skills and interests evolve. For example, choosing the tech industry let’s you explore roles like digital marketing, project management, or software development, ensuring a broader career path.
  11. Lead The Way.
    When you find yourself in a situation where everyone looks at each other, it’s time for you to lead. You’re a leader when you decide to become one. There’s no initiation or a title. Just a decision.
  12. Money Isn’t Important.
    It really isn’t. But you have to train yourself not to care about money. Don’t become too dependent on the stuff you own – otherwise, the stuff will own you.
  13. Be Nice.
    I don’t mean you should be a pushover. You can be someone that doesn’t take **** and be nice about it. Just don’t insult people, think you’re better than them, or act like an idiot.
  14. Learn Every Day.
    You’ve got to train your brain to stay alert. You don’t have to read a book a day to learn every day. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the people around you – be open to what they can teach you.
  15. Rest Before You Are Tired.
    Even if you love your job, and every day seems like a holiday, you need to take time to rest. You’re a human and not an android, never forget that.
  16. Don’t Judge.
    Just because people make different choices than you, they are not stupid. Also, you don’t know everything about people, so don’t judge them – help them.
  17. Think About Others.
    Just be mindful, that’s all. We all have families, bills to pay, and our own issues. Don’t always make everything about yourself.
  18. Give Without Expecting Something In Return.
    Don’t keep score. You will become a bitter person if you do that. Give solely for the joy of giving. If you get something in return, great, if you don’t, great.
  19. There’s No End Game.
    We, as species, just are. Don’t try to figure it all out. Enjoy your journey.
  20. Enjoy The Small Things.
    Find joy and contentment in the simple, everyday aspects of life rather than waiting for big, extraordinary events to bring happiness. It’s a reminder to appreciate the beauty and blessing in ordinary moments, like a kind smile, a warm cup of tea, a walk in nature, or a heartfelt conversation.
  21. Don’t Take Yourself So Seriously.
    Yeah, yeah, you’re an individual, and people have to take you seriously, I get it. But at the end of the day, we’re all a bunch of ants trying to chase the same things. Lighten up.
  22. Don’t Blame People.
    What’s the point? Do you want to punish them? You don’t do that to people. Also don’t blame yourself – you’re only human.
  23. Create Something.
    Not to leave a legacy, you won’t be here to see it anyway, but to be of use. Make music, write a book, build a table, anything. You’ll feel good about yourself, plus you give something back to people to use or enjoy.
  24. Never Look Back Too Long.
    Reflecting on the past is only good for one thing: Learning.
  25. Take Action.
    Don’t just sit there, do something. Without action, there is no outcome. Develop yourself, learn a new skill or trade and add value to your life. Above all, always remain foolish in the sense that you have to yearn to seek more Knowledge/Wisdom from anyone and everything – then apply the same in your life.