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10 Tips For A Successful Year!

Tip number 1.

Manage your time by well by splitting your day into blocks.

It takes approximately 15minutes to get back to your tasks when you are stopped to check emails or text messages. On average 28% of employees days are spent managing interruptions and refocusing on what they are doing. In a 40 hour work week that is 11 hours of time wasted.

That is why it’s advisable to separate your day into three blocks.

Block Number 1. Strategic Block

This is the time block when you work on strategic tasks minimum 3 hours, no emails, no talking to colleagues, no daydreaming about what you are going to eat for lunch.

Block Number 2.  Buffer Block

The purpose of this block is to handle those small tasks such as email or calling your dad e.t.c

Block Number 3. Break Out Block

Success is not about working hard all the time, you must allow your mind to rest and recharge so that you can always work at your full capacity and focus.

Tip number 2.

Work life balance is a lie.

You struggle to find a balance between work, family, friends, health and personal time so you decide to give equal time and energy to each of them.

The problem is that when you do that you over extend and become frustrated. Success can’t be achieved by balancing your time in each area of your life.

Success happens when you intentionally create an imbalance and direct the time and energy towards one or two areas of your life.

Different moments in life will require different amounts of energy and there is nothing wrong with that. The purpose of intentional imbalance is to put your energy where you want it to go.

Tip number 3.

Avoid having too many goals.

Having too many goals means having too many strategies and obstacles. They will quickly drain your energy and will make you give up.

Tip number 4.

Create a routine.

Your execution will suffer a lot if you do not form a routine.

You need a routine for everything, from your sleep, to the time you work or study.

Tip number 5.

Create your model week.

Your model week is kind of like your perfect scenario where you get everything done.

Once you start designing your model week you will quickly be able to say if your plan is realistic or not. If your plan isn’t realistic, you will not be able to find some space on your weekly calendar to put some of the tasks.

Make sure to do this before you start your week one.

Tip number 6.

Avoid focusing on tasks that involve your weaknesses.

Most tasks that you are working on should be based on your strengths, not your weaknesses.

Tip number 7.

You are allowed to say NO, when someone invites you somewhere or someone asks you to commit to something. Say No as often as you can.

Tip number 8.

Don’t multitask. When you spread your attention too thin, over multiple directions. You are not fully applying yourself to any tasks, you are overworked and tired.

Burnout is a likely result and in the end you haven’t mastered anything, you have just become mediocre at several things.

Tip number 9.

Some tasks will not get done and it is okay. Many people believe they can do it all and work day and night to catch up with everything on their plate.

They focus on what they can do quickly to get it out of the way, which puts their strategic tasks in danger. Some tasks will eventually fall through the cracks and it is okay. However those tasks should never be the strategic ones.

Tip number 10.

Celebrate. Even if you did not reach your goals, you still have three more chances and you probably made tons of progress. So celebrate and start and start again.

Sometimes Your Value Isn’t Seen Until Your Absence Is Felt!

Always In My Mind And Heart! Cucu and Daddy!

If you simply can’t understand why someone is grieving so much, for so long, then consider yourself fortunate that you do not understand.

My Hero!

10 Things My Dad Never Told Me But Didn’t Have To…

  • He always ensured that there is enough money for me
  • I am far more important that his work
  • He wants to be superman in my eyes
  • He tried his hardest to fulfil every promise he made to me
  • He is tired and fatigued from trying, but still is relentless
  • It broke his heart when he couldn’t afford that toy i wanted
  • He wants me to work hard and chase my dreams
  • He wants me to be better than him in every way
  • He would do it all over again if he had to
  • He loves me no matter what

If years after you are grown, you think back on your dad and your childhood, and you smile, you were raised by a Great Man!I am still healing until now, still part of me cannot accept that you are no longer there. Still very emotional every time i think of you and what you mean to me.

Love Jambu.

From Daddy…

Thank You Daddy!

Dear Son,

Remember you have warrior’s blood in your veins

The code that made me as your father is the same code that will make you a man that your children will admire and respect

Put your pain in a box, lock it down, we are men made up of boxes, chambers of loss and triumph, of hurt and hope and love

No one is stronger and more dangerous than a man who can harness his emotions, his past

Use it as fuel, as ammunition, as ink to write the most important letter of your life.

Love Daddy!

The Kipling Poem – What A Man Should Be!

For Tafadzwa!

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream- -and not make dreams your master;
If you can think- -and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on! ‘

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings- -nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And- -which is more- -you’ll be a Man, my son!

By Rudyard Kipling

Four Stages of Elimination in Life

At 60, the workplace eliminates you. No matter how successful or powerful you were during your career, you’ll return to being an ordinary person. So, don’t cling to the mindset and sense of superiority from your past job, let go of your ego, or you might lose your sense of ease!

At 70, society gradually eliminates you. The friends and colleagues you used to meet and socialize with become fewer, and hardly anyone recognizes you at your former workplace. Don’t say, “I used to be…” or “I was once…” because the younger generation won’t know you, and you mustn’t feel uncomfortable about it!

At 80, family slowly eliminates you. Even if you have many children and grandchildren, most of the time you’ll be living with your spouse or by yourself. When your children visit occasionally, it’s an expression of affection, so don’t blame them for coming less often, as they’re busy with their own lives!

At 90, the Earth wants to eliminate you. Some of the people you knew have already departed forever. At this point, don’t be sad or mournful, because this is the way of life, and everyone will eventually follow this path!

Therefore, while our bodies are still capable, live life to the fullest! Eat what you want, play and do the things you love.

Remember, the only thing that won’t eliminate you is your peer group 😉

So, communicate more in the group, say a hello, maintain your presence, be happy, and have no regrets !!!

Most of all: as the days go- keep close to God- maintain peace of mind- less anger, less bitterness, less envy & jealousy, less drinking, less toxic friends- make God the CEO of your life…

October Golden Nuggets

Find someone who is real

Find someone who wants to authentically learn who you are as a person

Find someone who lets you know from the very beginning if they have genuine intentions

Find someone who isn’t just a friend but a partner, a mentor, someone who you can come to when life is so hard and you feel like giving up and they are there to pick you back up on your feet

Find someone who respects you and your children

Find someone who shows you the definition of effort

Find someone who takes a day off work when you’re sick to make sure you’re taken care of

Find someone who motivates you to do better in life because relationships are more than just falling in love. It’s about inspiring each other to become better versions of yourselves day in and day out.

Find someone who is patient with you and are guided by morals and reasoning

Find someone not only to love, but someone to grow with, learn from and to share new experience with.

Find someone who’s willing to understand you

Find someone who admits when they are wrong

Find someone who understands it’s not about giving you the world; it’s about making you feel like you’re the only one in it

Take my advice and wait for someone who touches your heart in ways you never thought were imaginable

I’m Slowly Learning…

That even if I react, it won’t change anything,
It won’t make people suddenly love and respect me,
It won’t magically change their minds.

Sometimes it’s better to let things be, let people go, don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers and don’t expect people to understand where you’re coming from. I’m slowly learning that life is better lived when you don’t Center it on what’s happening around you and center it on what’s happening inside you instead. Work on yourself and keep your peace.

12 Life Lessons To Carry You Through Life

1. Dr. Ben Carson said, “I struggled academically throughout elementary school yet became the best neurosurgeon in the world in 1987.”

 LESSON: Struggling is a sign that you are on a verge of success. Don’t quit yet.

2. Bill Gates said, “I didn’t even complete my university education but became the world’s richest man.”

 LESSON: School does not make you rich. School is only supposed to polish what will make you rich, not make you rich.

3. Christiano Ronaldo said, “I told my father that we would be very rich but he couldn’t believe me. I made it a reality.”

 LESSON: Your words rule your life. If you mean what you have said, each word will come to pass. You get what you say.

4. Hear Lionel Messi! “I used to serve tea at a shop to support my football training and still became one of the world’s best footballers.”

 LESSON: Believe in your dream. Don’t let your pain tell you how your future will look like.

5. Steve Jobs penned, “I used to sleep on the floor in my friends’ rooms, returning coke bottles for food, money, and getting weekly free meals at a local temple, I later on founded Apple Company.”

 LESSON: That you are small today doesn’t mean you will be small tomorrow. Keep trusting God.

6. Former British PM, Tony Blair said & I quote, “My teachers used to call me a failure, but I became a Prime Minister.”

 LESSON: Don’t let someone else’s opinions of you become your reality.

7. Nelson Mandela said, “I was in prison for 27 years & still became president.”

 LESSON: You can be anything you want to be no matter where you have been or what you have been through.

 8.REECE “I drove a taxi to finance my university education but today I’m a billionaire.”

 LESSON: Don’t let your past decide the kind of future you need to have.

9. Harland Sanders, Founder of KFC said, “I was on the verge of suicide when an idea of opening a restaurant hit me after I retired as a cook in the Navy.”

LESSON: Nothing is ever too late. “Too late” is a language of failures. Your future can begin at any age. Don’t ever let AGE limit you.

10. Aliko Dangote said, “I worked for my uncle since I was a small boy, people looked down on me. I later on took a loan from my uncle to open a tiny shop. I worked hard to make ends meet. Now I am the richest Man in Africa.

 LESSON: Failures or limitations of the past have no control over the greatness in you. To him that believes, all things are possible.

11. Barack Hussein Obama said, I am a son of a black immigrant from Kenya, I graduated from Harvard and later on became a Senator in Chicago. I was also the President of the most powerful nation on Earth.

 LESSON: Never design your life like a garden where anyone can walk in and out. Design it like the sky where everyone aspires to reach!

12. Arnold Swarzzenegger said, I traveled to America in search of financial independence when I was 15yrs old. I became the world’s strongest man 7 times and Mr. Universe. I then got my Economics degree, then I became one of Hollywood’s best actors before I was voted twice as governor of California.”

LESSON: Don’t wait for everybody to believe in your ability and dreams.

Harsh Truths I Know At 40, I Wish I Knew at 20

  1. Most of your friends aren’t really your friends. They are just along for the ride when it’s fun or convenient. Your real friends are there for you when you have nothing to offer.
  2. You’ll only see your loved ones a few more times. Remember: It’s later that you think.
  3. Most people don’t really care about you. The spotlight Effect says that we overestimate the degree to which other people are observing our actions. This should be liberating.
  4. You don’t need to have an opinion on everything. It’s perfectly reasonable to have no opinion on something that you haven’t researched or don’t understand.
  5. You probably won’t be remembered or have a legacy. In a few thousand years, chances are we will all be forgotten.
  6. You can tell everything you need to know about a person by observing (1)how they treat service workers and (2)whether they put their shopping cart back.
  7. You can get pretty damn far in life by just saying what you’re going to do and then doing it. No fancy hack needed.
  8. Most of us need fewer friends and more intellectual sparring partners. Friends are easy to come by, but intellectual sparring partners question our assumptions and force us to level up.
  9. Being kind to people is the only real life hack. Kindness remains severely underrated.
  10. We should all stop talking about how many books we read last year. It’s much more impressive to ready one book and have it deeply impact you than to read 100 books and not feel a thing.
  11. You should never bet against a person who just keeps showing up.
  12. Most of the people you look up to and admire are remarkably unremarkable. Their success is not due to some intrinsic difference, but some stellar combination of effort and luck.
  13. If it seems too good to be true, it probably is (and you should run away)
  14. You’re probably being held back by your unwillingness to ask. Remember: Closed mouths don’t get fed.
  15. Failure doesn’t always lead to growth. Sometimes failure just leads to pain. Sometimes the growth doesn’t come from the failure, but from simply outlasting the darkness.
  16. Waking up is the easiest way to improve your odds of success. You don’t have to wake up early to be successful, but you rarely find an early riser that isn’t winning.
  17. Hard work is not overrated. That’s ridiculous. 99% of successful people worked very hard.
  18. Showing up early costs very little and pays off handsomely in the long run.
  19. The world is not fair. Bad people win and good people lose – most of the time. The world may never be truly fair, but it will always belong to those who make the most of what they have before them.

In Order…

In order to grow…we have to understand that some things that happened in our lives were beyond our control.

When You look back on the past you may wonder that maybe if you had made different choices in your life things would have turned out differently or maybe if you were at a specific place at a certain time things would not have happened the way they did.

They say everything happens for a reason and that things unfold the way it was meant to but often we find that hard to accept.

Not many will understand how hard you really tried to make peace with it all and how some things will never leave you. It’s as if someone just flipped a switch and your light turned into darkness.

I know…life was not fair to you. You did not deserve to go through what you did and I know that sometimes you can’t help but wonder why you were the chosen one.

But I can tell you…the answers that you have always been searching for will be told someday.

1440 Minutes!

Do you know what you have in common with Elon Musk, Steph Curry, Jeff Bezos, Oprah Winfrey, and J. K. Rowling?

You all have the same number of minutes to use however you choose, every single day.

24 hours in a day multiplied by 60 minutes gives all of us 1,440 minutes – take away a reasonable amount of time to sleep, eat, shower, and hug your kids, and you’re left with 1,000 minutes.

You can use your minutes to conquer the world and earn buckets of money, write books, train for a marathon, hang out with your family, have drinks with friends, buy groceries, meditate, or watch Netflix.

Every day you wake up with a fresh 1,000 minutes in your bank of time.

You are the CEO of that bank, and it is totally up to you to determine how you want to put those minutes to use.

You’re as rich in time every Monday as the actual richest man in the world.

You can no longer think of your time as free.

Big you – successful you – knows that time is expensive, and when we think about our time like we do our money, we can shift our mindset to not throwing it away.

You wouldn’t throw away $100, would you?

Well, that’s what you’re doing with an hour and a half when you’re not being productive – you’re basically throwing your income out the window.

Bye-bye, money!

The clock starts ticking the second you wake up, and if you aren’t aware of how those precious minutes are being used, it will suddenly be 9:00 PM and you’ll be wondering (once again) how you didn’t find the time to call back all of your clients, follow up with that new contract you made last week, or finally have that “date night” with your partner.

“The day got away from me.”

“I’ll do it tomorrow!”

Sound familiar?

That’s because you’re…

1) trying to do too many things at once.

Multitasking is NOT productive. Quit it. It’s much better to make a mile of progress in one direction than it is to make a few inches of progress in ten different directions.

2) failing to make time for the important stuff.

You need to set priorities. Pick three things you want to do today, and then don’t do ANYTHING until those three things are complete.

Want to grow your business? Make an hour of cold emails the first thing you do when you get to the office.

Want to make your business run more efficiently? Start your day by auditing your systems and processes, and then figure out where they need to be optimized.

3) wasting time on things that don’t matter.

Do you really need to spend the first hour of your day reading the news? How about “resting” by watching two hours of Netflix in the evening?

It’s not my place to make those decisions for you – YOU have to determine what’s best for YOU – but I have a feeling that you’d feel even better if you spent that time sending emails, figuring out what your day looks like tomorrow, or spending time with your loved ones.

Time is the only resource you can never get back.

So, where are you spending you 1,000 minutes today?

Intelligence

“According to Psychologists, there are four types of Intelligence:

1) Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
2) Emotional Quotient (EQ)
3) Social Quotient (SQ)
4) Adversity Quotient (AQ)

  1. Intelligence Quotient (IQ): this is the measure of your level of comprehension. You need IQ to solve maths, memorize things, and recall lessons.
  2. Emotional Quotient (EQ): this is the measure of your ability to maintain peace with others, keep to time, be responsible, be honest, respect boundaries, be humble, genuine and considerate.
  3. Social Quotient (SQ): this is the measure of your ability to build a network of friends and maintain it over a long period of time.

People that have higher EQ and SQ tend to go further in life than those with a high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Most schools capitalize on improving IQ levels while EQ and SQ are played down.

A man of high IQ can end up being employed by a man of high EQ and SQ even though he has an average IQ.

Your EQ represents your Character, while your SQ represents your Charisma. Give in to habits that will improve these three Qs, especially your EQ and SQ.

Now there is a 4th one, a new paradigm:

  1. The Adversity Quotient (AQ): The measure of your ability to go through a rough patch in life, and come out of it without losing your mind.

When faced with troubles, AQ determines who will give up, who will abandon their family, and who will consider suicide.

Parents please expose your children to other areas of life than just Academics. They should adore manual labor (never use work as a form of punishment), Sports and Arts.

Develop their IQ, as well as their EQ, SQ and AQ. They should become multifaceted human beings able to do things independently of their parents.

Finally, do not prepare the road for your children. Prepare your children for the road.”

Must Read Quotes From Bruce Lee!

  • “It doesn’t matter if you were born as a legend, what matters is the legendary end. Think about it”
  • “Patience is not passive, on the contrary it is concentrated strength.”
  • “Sensitivity is not possible if you are afraid.”
  • “A wise man can always be found alone. A weak man can always be found in a crowd.”
  • “Don’t speak negatively about yourself, even as a joke. Your body doesn’t know the difference. Words are energy and they cast spells, that’s why it’s called spelling. Change the way you speak about yourself, and you can change your life.”
  • “What is true stillness? Stillness in movement.”
  • “The less confident we are in ourselves, the less we are in touch with ourselves and the world, the more we want to control.”
  • “Only the self-sufficient stand alone – most people follow the crowd and imitate.”
  • “A fight is not won by one punch or kick. Either learn to endure or hire a bodyguard.”
  • “Those who are unaware they are walking in darkness will never seek the light.”
  • “Don’t fear failure. Not failure but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail.”
  • “In order to taste my cup of water you must first empty your cup.”
  • “If you think a thing is impossible, you’ll only make it impossible.”
  • “Use only that which works, and take it from any place you can find it.”
  • “It’s not what you give, it’s the way you give it.”
  • “Optimism is a faith that leads to success.”
  • “If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”
  • “Obey the principles without being bound by them.”
  • “A quick temper will make a fool of you soon enough.”
  • “The possession of anything begins in the mind.”
  • “If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.”
  • “If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of.”
  • “The key to immortality is first living a life worth remembering.”
  • “A goal is not always meant to be reached, it often serves simply as something to aim at.”
  • “I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.”
  • “Forget about winning and losing; forget about pride and pain.”
  • “Be self aware, rather than a repetitious robot.”
  • “A teacher is never a giver or truth; he is a guide, a pointer to the truth that each student must find for himself.”
  • “Simplicity is the shortest distance between two points.”
  • “Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless, like water.”
  • “I am learning to understand rather that immediately judge or to be judged.”
  • “To know, but to be as though not knowing, is the height of wisdom.”
  • “Never trouble trouble till trouble troubles you. I’ll not willingly offend, nor be easily offended.”
  • “Loneliness is only an opportunity to cut adrift and find yourself. In solitude you are least alone. Make good use of it.”
  • “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
  • “Love and respect. Without respect, love cannot go long.”
  • “Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”
  • “Never try to copy a successful personality.”
  • “If you don’t want to slip up tomorrow, speak the truth today.”
  • “Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.”
  • “The medicine for my suffering I had within me from the very beginning but I did not take it. My ailment came from within myself, but I did not observe it, until this moment.”
  • “Life is never stagnation. It is constant movement, un-rhythmic movement, as we as constant change. Things live by moving and gain strength as they go.”
  • “We all have time to either spend or waste and it is our decision what to do with it. But once passed, it is gone forever.”
  • “The moment is freedom. I couldn’t live by a rigid schedule. I try to live freely from moment to moment, letting things happen and adjusting to them.”
  • “I treasure the memory of the past misfortunes. It has added more to my bank of fortitude.”
  • “I am happy, because I am growing daily and I am honestly not knowing where the limit lies.”
  • “You just wait. I’m going to be the biggest Chinese Star in the world.”
  • “All fixed set patterns are incapable of adaptability or pliability. The truth is outside of all fixed patterns.”
  • “If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life.”
  • “A wise man can learn more from a fooling question than a fool can learn from a wise answer.”
  • “Practice makes perfect. After a long time of practicing, our work will become natural, skillfull, swift and steady.”
  • “If you want to swim jump into the water. On dry land no frame of mind is ever going to help you.”
  • “My style? You can call it the art of fighting without fighting.”
  • “The most dangerous person is the one who listens, thinks and observes.”
  • “Education: to discover but not merely to imitate. Learning techniques without inward experiencing can only lead to superficiality.”
  • “Discipline must conform to the nature of things in their suchness.”
  • “Develop the tools, refine the tools, then dissolve the tools.”
  • “Do not correct a fool or he will hate you, correct a wise man and he will appreciate you.”
  • “The unfolding of the bare human soul…that is what interests me.”
  • “Obviously, if your kick does not commence, his punch will land first and your defense is useless.”
  • “Yielding will overcome anything superior to itself; it’s strength is boundless.”
  • “Be happy, but never satisfied.”
  • “Remember no man is defeated unless he is discouraged.”
  • “Do not allow negative thoughts to enter your mind for they are the weeds that strangle confidence.”
  • “Endurance is lost rapidly if one ceases to work at its maximum.”
  • “Preparation for tomorrow is hard work today.”
  • “It’s like a finger pointing away to the moon. Don’t concentrate on the finger or you will miss all the heavenly glory.”
  • “You can never invite the wind but you must leave the window open.”
  • “I am not teaching you anything. I just help you to explore yourself.”
  • “Life is wide, limitless. There is no border, no frontier.”
  • “Fortunately for me, my self-knowledge has transcended that and I’ve come to understand that life is best to be lived – not to be conceptualized. If you have to think, you still do not understand.”
  • “Simplicity is the key to brilliance.”
  • “When one has no form, one can be all forms; when one has no style, he can fit in with any style.”
  • “When one has reached maturity in the art, one will have a formless form. It is like ice dissolving in water.”
  • “Life’s battles don’t always go the the stronger or faster man. But sooner or later the man who wins, is the man who thinks he can.”
  • “The doubters said, ‘ Man cannot fly; the doers said, ‘Maybe, but we’ll try, and finally soared in the morning glow, while non-believers watched from below.”
  • “Relationship is the mirror in which you discover yourself – to be is to be related.”
  • “Self-knowledge involves relationship. To know oneself is to study one self in action with another person.”
  • “For it is easy to criticize and break down the spirit of others, but to know yourself takes a lifetime.”
  • “Defeat is not defeat unless accepted as a reality in your own mind.”
  • “Absorb what is useful, discard what is not, add what is uniquely your own.”
  • “Make at least one definite move daily toward your goal.”
  • “I cannot blindly follow the crowd and accept their approach.”
  • “Take things as they are. Punch when you have to punch. Kick when you have to kick.”
  • “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.”
  • “Knowledge will give you power, but character respect.”
  • “The man who is really serious with the urge to find out what truth is, has no style at all. He lives only in what is.”
  • Life is something for which there is no answer; it must be understood from moment to moment.”
  • “A good fight should be like a small play, but played seriously.”

50 Life Lessons From An 80 Year Old Man

  1. Have a firm handshake.
  2. Look people in the eye.
  3. Sing in the shower.
  4. Own a great stereo system.
  5. If you are in a fight, hit hard and hit first.
  6. Keep secrets.
  7. Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday.
  8. Always accept an outstretched hand.
  9. Be brave. Even if you are not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
  10. Whislte.
  11. Avoid sarcastic remarks.
  12. Choose your life mate carefully.
  13. Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.
  14. Lend only those books you never care about.
  15. Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all they have.
  16. When playing games with children, let them win.
  17. Give people a second chance, but not a third.
  18. Be romantic.
  19. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
  20. Loosen up, Relax. Except for rare life and death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.
  21. Don’t allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It’s there for out convenience, not the caller’s.
  22. Be a good loser.
  23. Be a good winner.
  24. Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.
  25. When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.
  26. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.
  27. Keep it simple.
  28. Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.
  29. Don’t burn bridges. You’ll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
  30. Live your life so that your obituary could read, No regrets.
  31. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.
  32. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
  33. Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.
  34. Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.
  35. Visit friends and relatives when they are in the hospital; even if it is just for a few minutes.
  36. Begin each day with some of your favorite music.
  37. Once in a while, take the scenic route.
  38. Send a lot of valentine cards. Sign them, “Someone who thins you’re terrific.”
  39. Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
  40. Keep a notepad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m
  41. Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.
  42. Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.
  43. Make someone’s day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you.
  44. Become someone’s hero.
  45. Marry only for love.
  46. Count your blessings.
  47. Compliment the meal when you’re a guest in someone’s home.
  48. Wave at the children on a school bus.
  49. Remember that 80% of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.
  50. Don’t expect life to be fair.

Best Motivational Short Stories About Personal Growth, Mindset, and Productivity

“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” — Nelson Mandela

Motivational short stories have the power to inspire us, shift our perspectives, and help us overcome challenges to become the best version of ourselves.

These stories can stay with us for a lifetime, providing valuable insights and lessons.

Elephant and the Rope Motivational Short Story

The elephant and the rope story is a metaphorical tale about how limiting beliefs and conditioning can hold us back from reaching our full potential.

In the story, a man comes across an elephant that is tied to a small rope.

Despite the fact that the elephant could easily break free from the rope, it does not even try to do so.

The man is curious and asks the trainer nearby why the elephant doesn’t attempt to break free.

The trainer explains that when the elephant was young, it was tied to the same rope and was not strong enough to break free.

As a result, the elephant became conditioned to believe that it was not capable of breaking the rope, even though it could do so easily as an adult.

The story is often used as a metaphor for how our own beliefs and conditioning can hold us back from achieving our full potential. Just like the elephant, we can become so conditioned to our own limitations that we may not even try to break free from them.

The lesson of the elephant and the rope is to recognize the limiting beliefs and conditioning that hold us back and to challenge them in order to achieve our full potential.

Empty Your Cup Motivational Short Story

The Zen Story of the Empty Cup is a parable that emphasizes the importance of having an open mind and being receptive to new ideas and experiences.

In the story, a scholar seeks out a Zen master to learn from him. The scholar proudly shows the Zen master all that he knows, but the master pours tea into the scholar’s cup until it overflows, demonstrating that the scholar’s mind is already full and cannot accept anything more.

The Zen master then tells the scholar that if he wants to learn, he must first empty his cup – that is, let go of his preconceptions and be open to new ideas and experiences.

The story is often used as a metaphor for personal growth and the importance of having an open mind. It emphasizes that we must let go of our preconceptions and be receptive to new ideas if we want to learn and grow.

The lesson of the story is to approach life with an open mind and a willingness to learn, rather than assuming that we already know everything.

Flea in the Jar Motivational Short Story

The story of the flea in the jar is a metaphorical tale about the limitations that we place on ourselves and how these limitations can become ingrained in our thinking over time.

In the story, a group of fleas are placed in a jar with a lid on it. The fleas initially try to jump out of the jar, but they keep hitting their heads on the lid.

Eventually, the fleas stop jumping as high and learn to live within the confines of the jar.

One day, the lid is removed from the jar, and the fleas are free to jump as high as they want.

However, even though they are no longer confined by the lid, the fleas continue to jump only as high as the lid used to be, as this has become the limit that they have imposed on themselves.

The story is often used as a metaphor for how our own beliefs and limiting thoughts can hold us back from achieving our full potential. Just like the fleas, we can become so used to living within certain limitations that we may not even realize we are capable of breaking free from them.

The lesson of the flea in the jar is to recognize the limitations we place on ourselves and to challenge them in order to reach our full potential.

Happiness is Within You Motivational Short Story

The “Happiness is Within You” story is a fable about a man who travels to a far-off land in search of happiness. He meets a wise old man who tells him that happiness is not found in distant places, but rather within oneself.

The wise man tells the traveler to seek out a certain tree in a nearby forest, which is said to hold the secret to true happiness.

The traveler searches for the tree, but when he finds it, he is disappointed to see that it looks like any other tree.

The wise man appears again and tells the traveler to cut the tree down and open it up. Inside, the traveler finds nothing but plain, unremarkable wood. Confused and frustrated, he asks the wise man what this means.

The wise man tells him that the true secret to happiness is not in external objects or circumstances, but rather in our own perception and attitude.

Happiness is not found in material things or in achieving external goals, but rather in cultivating an inner sense of peace, contentment, and gratitude.

The story is often used as a metaphor for the idea that true happiness comes from within, and that external factors can only provide temporary pleasure or satisfaction.

The lesson of the story is to focus on cultivating inner peace and contentment, rather than seeking happiness in external objects or circumstances.

Life is a Race Motivational Short Story

In this version, the story revolves around a young athletic boy who was hungry for success and measured his success only by winning.

He participated in a running competition and won two races, feeling proud and important.

He then pleaded for another race and was presented with two new challengers, an elderly frail old lady and a blind man.

As the race began, the boy noticed that the elderly lady and the blind man were struggling to run. Instead of rushing ahead, he slowed down and ran alongside them, encouraging them to keep going.

Together, they reached the finish line and the boy realized that the true victory was in helping others and enjoying the journey, rather than just winning.

The story is often used as a metaphor for the importance of slowing down, helping others, and savoring life’s moments.

It emphasizes that life is not just about winning races or achieving goals, but about enjoying the journey and being kind to others.

The lesson of the story is to appreciate the journey, help others along the way, and find joy in the process.

Life is Like a Cup of Coffee Motivational Short Story

The story goes like this:

A group of people were sitting in a coffee house, discussing life. As they talked, the conversation turned to the subject of life being like a cup of coffee.

One person said, “Life is like a cup of coffee. It all depends on how you make it.”

Another person said, “Yes, but you can’t control the water temperature, or the quality of the coffee beans.”

A third person added, “But you can control the amount of coffee and the strength of the brew.”

Then an older man, who had been listening quietly to the conversation, spoke up. He said, “Life is not like a cup of coffee, it’s the coffee cup that matters.

The cup is what holds the coffee and shapes its experience. And just like the cup, we need to focus on what’s around us, on what we have, and appreciate it.”

The group fell silent, pondering the old man’s words. The lesson of the story is that, like a cup of coffee, life is what we make of it.

We can choose to focus on what we have and appreciate it, or we can focus on what we lack and be discontent.

Ultimately, the cup that holds our life experiences is what matters, not the coffee inside.

Potato, Egg, or Coffee Bean Motivational Short Story

The story goes like this:

A young woman went to her mother and told her about the problems she was facing in life. She said she was tired of fighting and struggling and didn’t know how to keep going.

The mother took her to the kitchen and filled three pots with water. She placed each pot on a burner, turned on the heat, and put a potato in one pot, an egg in the second, and coffee beans in the third.

After a while, she turned off the burners and fished out the potato, egg, and coffee beans, and asked her daughter to observe them carefully.

The potato was soft and had become very weak. The egg, which had been fragile, now had a hardened shell inside. But the coffee beans had transformed the water into a rich and aromatic coffee.

The mother then explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity – boiling water. However, each of them had reacted differently.

The potato went in strong, firm, and hard, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak. The egg had been fragile and had a thin outer shell, but in boiling water, it had become hard inside.

The coffee beans, on the other hand, had changed the water and created something new.

The mother explained that we all face adversity, and how we react to it depends on us. We can either become weak, hard, or transform the situation into something positive.

The young woman realized that she had a choice – to be like a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean.

Puppies for Sales Motivational Short Story

The “Puppies for Sale” story is a fable about a man who sells puppies for a living.

One day, a young boy comes to the man’s shop and asks how much the puppies cost.

The man tells the boy the price, but adds that there is one puppy that he can have for free.

The boy is excited and asks to see the free puppy.

The man brings out the puppy, who is missing a leg and has a limp.

The boy asks why the puppy is different from the others, and the man explains that the puppy was born with a deformity and will never be able to run and play like the others.

The boy looks at the puppy for a moment and then turns to the man and says, “That’s the puppy I want.”

The man is surprised and asks the boy if he understands that the puppy will never be able to run and play like the others.

The boy responds, “I know he can’t run and play like other puppies, but I can love him and take care of him just like any other puppy.”

The story is often used as a metaphor for the value of compassion and acceptance.

It emphasizes that we should not judge others based on their physical appearance or abilities, but rather on their intrinsic worth and capacity for love.

The lesson of the story is to cultivate compassion and acceptance, and to value others for who they are, not just what they can do.

Rocks, Pebbles, Sand Motivational Short Story

The rocks, pebbles, and sand story is a metaphorical tale about the importance of prioritization and time management.

In the story, a teacher holds up a jar and fills it with rocks until they reach the top.

The teacher then asks the students if the jar is full, and they respond yes. However, the teacher then pours pebbles into the jar, which fill the spaces between the rocks.

The teacher again asks the students if the jar is full, and they respond yes. Finally, the teacher pours sand into the jar, which fills the remaining spaces between the rocks and pebbles.

The story is often used as a metaphor for how we prioritize and manage our time.

The rocks represent the most important tasks or goals in our lives, while the pebbles and sand represent the less important tasks or distractions.

If we fill our time with pebbles and sand first, there may not be enough time left for the rocks.

However, if we prioritize the rocks and then fill in the gaps with the pebbles and sand, we can accomplish our most important tasks or goals first and still have time for other tasks.

The lesson of the rocks, pebbles, and sand story is to prioritize our time and focus on the most important tasks or goals first in order to achieve success and fulfillment in our lives.

Self-Appraisal Motivational Short Story

The Self-Appraisal story is a parable that emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and self-reflection in personal and professional growth.

The story goes that a young man was seeking guidance from a wise elder on how to improve himself.

The elder gave him a task to complete, asking him to spend a week observing himself and writing down everything that he did that he felt was good, bad, or indifferent.

The young man completed the task and returned to the elder, presenting him with a long list of both positive and negative behaviors he had observed in himself.

The elder then gave him another task, asking him to spend the next week observing others and writing down everything that he saw that was good, bad, or indifferent.

When the young man returned with this second list, the elder compared the two lists and pointed out that the things that bothered him most in others were the same things he had observed in himself.

The elder used this realization as a starting point for the young man to work on himself and become more self-aware.

The story highlights the importance of taking the time for self-reflection and self-appraisal in order to identify areas for personal growth and development.

By understanding and addressing our own flaws, we can become more effective and successful individuals.

Sharpen Your Axe Motivational Short Story

The “Sharpen Your Axe” story is a fable about a man who is tasked with chopping down a tree.

The man sets to work using a dull axe, and despite his best efforts, he makes very little progress.

A wise old man comes by and asks the man why he is struggling. The man explains that he is trying to chop down the tree, but his axe is too dull.

The wise old man suggests that the man take a break and sharpen his axe.

The man is hesitant to take a break, feeling that he doesn’t have time to waste.

But the wise old man insists, explaining that sharpening the axe will actually make the task easier and more efficient.

The man finally takes a break and sharpens his axe.

When he returns to the task of chopping down the tree, he finds that it is much easier and faster with a sharp axe, and he is able to complete the task in no time.

The story is often used as a metaphor for the importance of taking breaks and investing time and effort into self-care, skill-building, and preparation.

It emphasizes that taking time to sharpen our tools and skills can actually save us time and effort in the long run, and make us more effective and efficient in our tasks.

The lesson of the story is to prioritize self-care and skill-building, and to not be afraid to take breaks or invest time and effort into preparation.

The Butterfly Motivational Short Story

“The Butterfly” is a motivational short story about the process of transformation and growth.  Sometimes this story is referred to as “You are Made to Fly.”

In the story, a man finds a cocoon with a small opening and notices a butterfly struggling to emerge.

The man decides to help the butterfly by widening the opening, but the butterfly continues to struggle and cannot fly properly.

The man soon realizes that the struggle to emerge from the cocoon is an important part of the butterfly’s development.

The effort and resistance of the struggle are necessary for the butterfly’s wings to become strong and for it to develop the ability to fly.

The story is often used as a metaphor for personal growth and the importance of facing challenges and struggles in order to achieve our full potential.

Just like the butterfly, we may encounter obstacles and difficulties in our lives, but these challenges can help us become stronger and more resilient.

If we avoid or eliminate all struggles, we may miss out on the growth and development that comes from overcoming them.

The lesson of the butterfly story is to embrace the struggles and challenges in our lives, as they are often necessary for our growth and development.

We should trust the process of transformation, even when it is difficult or uncomfortable, as it can lead to beautiful and meaningful outcomes.

The Fisherman Motivational Short Story

The story of “The Fisherman” is a metaphorical tale about the pursuit of happiness and the importance of living a simple, fulfilling life.

In the story, a successful businessman visits a small fishing village and meets a fisherman who is returning from a day of fishing.

The businessman asks the fisherman why he doesn’t fish for longer each day and use the extra time to grow his business.

The fisherman responds that he is content with his simple life, and that he fishes only enough to provide for his family and to spend time with them.

The businessman is confused by the fisherman’s contentment and explains that if he worked harder and saved more money, he could eventually retire and spend his days relaxing on a beach just like the fisherman.

The fisherman responds by asking why he would need to work so hard and wait so long to enjoy the simple pleasures of life when he can already do so now.

The story is often used as a metaphor for the pursuit of happiness and the importance of living a simple, fulfilling life.

It suggests that we often become so focused on achieving success and accumulating wealth that we forget the simple pleasures and joys of life that can be found in spending time with loved ones, pursuing hobbies, and enjoying the present moment.

The lesson of the fisherman story is to prioritize the things that truly bring us happiness and fulfillment in life, rather than pursuing a never-ending quest for more money, possessions, or success.

It reminds us to appreciate the simple pleasures of life and to focus on the things that matter most to us.

The Group of Frogs Motivational Short Story

The “Group of Frogs” story is a metaphorical tale that highlights the importance of perseverance and support.

In the story, a group of frogs decides to climb a tall tree. As they begin their climb, the other animals around them start criticizing and mocking them, telling them that they will never make it to the top.

Despite the discouragement, some of the frogs continue to climb while others give up and fall back down.

As the climb continues, the criticism and discouragement from the other animals only get louder.

But one frog, determined to reach the top, perseveres and eventually makes it to the top of the tree.

The other animals are amazed and congratulate the frog on his achievement.

When the other frogs ask the successful frog how he managed to persevere despite the criticism and discouragement, he reveals that he is actually deaf and couldn’t hear the negative comments.

He thought the other animals were cheering him on and supporting him.

The story is often used as a metaphor for the importance of perseverance, support, and positive thinking.

It emphasizes that negative comments and criticism can be a hindrance to success, but with perseverance and a positive mindset, we can overcome obstacles and achieve our goals.

The lesson of the story is to stay focused on our goals, believe in ourselves, and surround ourselves with positive influences.

The Retiring Carpenter Story Motivational Short Story

The retiring carpenter story goes like this:

A carpenter who had been working for a company for many years announced to his boss that he was ready to retire.

The boss was sorry to see such a good worker go and asked if he could build just one more house before he left.

The carpenter agreed, but it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work anymore. He resorted to using inferior materials and taking shortcuts wherever possible.

When the carpenter finished his work, the boss came to inspect the house. He then handed the front door key to the carpenter and said, “This is your house, my gift to you.”

The carpenter was shocked and embarrassed. If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all differently.

The moral of the story is that every day we build our own lives, and we should always do our best work, even when no one is watching.

The Saint and the Scorpion Motivational Short Story

Once, a saint was walking by a riverbank when he saw a scorpion drowning in the water. The saint decided to help the scorpion and reached out to grab it.

However, as soon as the saint touched the scorpion, it stung him.

Despite the pain, the saint did not let go and instead gently pulled the scorpion out of the water.

As he did so, the scorpion stung him again and again.

A passerby saw the saint struggling with the scorpion and asked why he was helping it when it was only causing him pain.

The saint replied, “It is the nature of the scorpion to sting, and it is my nature to help. Why should I give up my nature to help just because it causes me pain?”

The story teaches us that it is important to help others, even if they may not appreciate it or even harm us in return. It is our nature to be compassionate, and we should not give up on that just because it may be difficult or uncomfortable.

The Starfish Motivational Short Story

The “Starfish Story” is a fable about a man walking along a beach that is covered in starfish that have been washed ashore. As the man walks, he notices a young girl picking up starfish one by one and throwing them back into the ocean.

The man approaches the girl and asks why she is bothering to throw the starfish back into the ocean, as there are too many for her to make a difference.

The girl responds by picking up another starfish and throwing it into the ocean, saying, “I made a difference to that one.”

The story is often used as a metaphor for the power of individual action and the importance of making a difference in the world, even if we can’t solve every problem.

It emphasizes that every small act of kindness and compassion can make a difference to someone, and that we should not be discouraged by the scale of the problems we face.

The lesson of the story is to focus on the good we can do in the world, and to take action in our own lives to make a positive difference, no matter how small.

The Tale of the Pencil Motivational Short Story

The Tale of the Pencil is a metaphorical story that emphasizes the idea that everyone has unique strengths and weaknesses that can be used to create something beautiful and meaningful.

In the story, a pencil maker tells the pencil five important lessons as it goes through life.

First, the pencil maker says that everything that happens to the pencil is part of its sharpening process.

Second, the pencil maker reminds the pencil that it can always correct its mistakes.

Third, the pencil maker tells the pencil that what’s inside it – the lead – is what’s most important.

Fourth, the pencil maker says that the pencil will be useful only if it allows itself to be held and guided by the hand that holds it.

Finally, the pencil maker reminds the pencil that eventually it will be left behind, but the marks it leaves behind will make a difference.

The story is often used as a metaphor for personal growth and the idea that everyone has unique strengths and weaknesses that can be used to create something meaningful.

It emphasizes that we should accept ourselves for who we are, learn from our mistakes, focus on what’s most important, be guided by others, and make our mark on the world in a positive way.

The Two Shoe Salesman Motivational Short Story

The Two Shoe Salesman story is a well-known parable that illustrates the power of perspective and attitude.

The story goes that two shoe salesmen were sent by a shoe company to a foreign country to assess the market for their product.

The first salesman arrived and immediately sent a message back to the company saying, “There is no potential here – nobody wears shoes.”

The second salesman arrived and sent a message back saying, “This is a fantastic opportunity – nobody wears shoes!”

The story demonstrates how two people can look at the same situation and interpret it completely differently based on their mindset and attitude.

The second salesman had a positive outlook and saw the potential in the situation, while the first salesman had a negative outlook and saw only the obstacles.

This story is often used to illustrate the power of a growth mindset and the importance of maintaining a positive attitude in order to succeed in any situation.

Onward and Upward

Motivational short stories have the power to inspire, uplift, and transform us. They remind us that no matter what challenges we face in life, we have the strength and resilience to overcome them.

By reading and reflecting on these stories, we can tap into our own inner strength and find the courage to pursue our dreams, overcome obstacles, and become the best version of ourselves.

So let us continue to seek out and share these stories, and let them guide us on our journey towards greatness.

55 Ways In Which Learning The English Language Can Make You Rich

As an English language teacher, I cannot guarantee that learning English will make you rich, but it can certainly provide you with many opportunities for personal and professional growth. Here are some ways in which learning English could potentially help you become successful:

  1. Opens up opportunities for international business partnerships
  2. Increases chances of employment with multinational corporations
  3. Allows for participation in global conferences and events
  4. Facilitates communication with tourists and visitors from English-speaking countries
  5. Provides access to a wider range of information and resources online
  6. Enables better understanding of English-language movies, books, and music
  7. Enhances ability to communicate with English-speaking colleagues and clients
  8. Boosts confidence when speaking in public
  9. Improves chances of getting a promotion or salary increase
  10. Increases chances of being accepted into an English-speaking university
  11. Makes it easier to travel to English-speaking countries
  12. Enables effective communication with English-speaking medical professionals
  13. Facilitates communication with English-speaking lawyers and legal experts
  14. Improves job prospects in fields such as journalism and translation
  15. Provides access to English-language academic journals and research
  16. Improves communication skills in general, which is useful in any profession
  17. Increases chances of success in job interviews
  18. Enables better understanding of English-language technology and software
  19. Facilitates communication with English-speaking suppliers and vendors
  20. Provides access to English-language training and development resources
  21. Improves chances of being selected for international exchange programs
  22. Enables participation in English-language volunteer programs
  23. Increases chances of being hired by English-speaking charities and NGOs
  24. Facilitates communication with English-speaking government officials
  25. Improves chances of obtaining funding from English-speaking investors
  26. Enhances ability to network with English-speaking professionals
  27. Provides access to English-language mentoring and coaching
  28. Enables participation in English-language competitions and contests
  29. Enhances ability to negotiate with English-speaking partners
  30. Improves chances of obtaining scholarships for further study
  31. Facilitates communication with English-speaking customer service representatives
  32. Enables participation in English-language sports and fitness programs
  33. Increases chances of being selected for English-language cultural exchange programs
  34. Enhances ability to write effective emails and letters in English
  35. Improves chances of securing English-language sponsorships
  36. Provides access to English-language self-help and personal development resources
  37. Improves understanding of English-language news and current events
  38. Enables participation in English-language online communities and forums
  39. Increases chances of being selected for English-language internships
  40. Facilitates communication with English-speaking mentors and coaches
  41. Improves chances of being selected for English-language talent shows and competitions
  42. Enhances ability to communicate with English-speaking musicians and artists
  43. Improves chances of being published in English-language journals and magazines
  44. Provides access to English-language job boards and recruiting websites
  45. Increases chances of being selected for English-language study abroad programs
  46. Enhances ability to communicate with English-speaking fashion designers and models
  47. Improves chances of being selected for English-language writing programs and workshops
  48. Provides access to English-language digital marketing resources and tools
  49. Facilitates communication with English-speaking scientists and researchers
  50. Improves chances of being selected for English-language theater and film productions
  51. Enhances ability to communicate with English-speaking chefs and restaurateurs
  52. Increases chances of being selected for English-language beauty pageants
  53. Improves chances of securing English-language sponsorships for sports and events
  54. Provides access to English-language online courses and certifications
  55. Enhances ability to communicate with English-speaking photographers and videographers

How Changing Your Language Can Change Your Life!

“All our words from loose using have lost their edge.” — Ernest Hemingway

The words we use and the words we choose can shape our moments and our lives.

Have you ever experienced a great leader who never gets stuck?  They are always asking things like, “What’s the opportunity?” or “What the next step?” or “How can we use this?”

They use their words to create a better experience in every moment.

Your Language Reflects Your Personality

It turns out that our language reflects fundamental dimensions of personality.  In the book, 59 Seconds: Think a Little, Change a Lot, Richard Wiseman says that research shows that things like handwriting analysis and graphology don’t work.

Instead, it’s the words we use that provide the greatest insight into real character.

Changing Your Language, Changes Your Life

I’m a believer that language is empowering and you can use this.  I believe the key is from finding the words that move you and make you … and avoid the words that paralyze or break you.

Changing your language, changes your life.

We live in the age of insight.  It’s easy to browse the Web to find and explore new ways to say things or express ourselves more fully.

10 Ways to Use the Power of Language

Here are examples of ways to use words to shape your life:

  1. Find interesting words to express specific concepts.  I’ve always been a fan of expanding my vocabulary, and learning new languages.  I love it when a word perfectly expresses an idea.  For example, ikigai roughly translates to “the reason for which you wake up in the morning.”
  2. Choose metaphors that evoke your best imagery.  What does life mean to you?  Is it a tragedy or a comedy?  Maybe it’s a sitcom.  For me, it’s more like an epic adventure.  For you, maybe it’s more like a dance.  The people that dance with life, find a way to go with the flow, and bend instead of break.  It’s the willow way.
  3. Study Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). In simple terms, NLP is a way to program success.  It’s a tool for personal excellence.  It was popularized by Tony Robbins as a way to model and replicate the success of others.   According to Wikipedia, you can think of neuro-linguistic programming as “(‘neuro’), language (‘linguistic’) and behavioral patterns that have been learned through experience (‘programming’) and can be organized to achieve specific goals in life.”   If you study NLP, you can learn ways to dramatically improve your precision and accuracy of language.  You can then use it to reshape your thinking, feeling, and doing.
  4. Quotes.  I am a fan of quotes (did you notice my Great Quotes collection?).  As Sean Platt of Writer Dad says, “Life is better with the right words.” It’s so true, especially when we find just the right quote, that says it just the right way.  One of the reasons why I build out these quotes collections is to put the wisdom of the ages and modern sages right at our finger tips.  Quotes are “wisdom that sticks.”
  5. One-liner reminders.  This is similar to quotes, but in this case, the idea is to create some pithy prose that makes an idea stick.  It’s a great way to turn insight into action.  In fact, one way I remind myself to take what I learn and apply it is the one-liner reminder:  “Turn insight into action.”  Related to this, I also use the reminder, “Find three take aways.”   I use one-liner reminders to build new habits or practice new skills.  For example, the way I learned to improve my influence was “ask, don’t tell.”  It helped me to start asking better questions, and to pose better questions to help bring others along.
  6. Ask better questions.  You can use questions to build a wondering mind, and to explore new ideas.  People that get stuck or limit themselves tend to ask limiting questions, or they don’t ask questions at all.  Asking questions puts you in a more resourceful state.  Your mind is a powerful problem solver, but you need to ask it the right questions.  Here is a set of 101 Questions that Empower You to get you started.
  7. Model the leader.  Leaders tend to have a way with words.   The words they use help express conviction.  The words they use help express vision and opportunity.  Here are some of the words some of my favorite leaders use in their vocabulary:   learning moment, leadership opportunity,  challenge, win, excellence, connection, conviction, vision, etc.    Rob White of Mind Adventures is a great example of using inspiring words. mental models, and mantras for personal empowerment and self-leadership.
  8. Leverage patterns and pattern languages.  Patterns create a shared vocabulary.  If you haven’t explored patterns and pattern languages before, your world is about to rock.   Patterns are simply named problem and solution pairs.  The benefit is that you can build a simple language around the expert knowledge within a domain.  For example, Christopher Alexander developed pattern languages to share architectural solutions.  The beauty is you can use a single word to express a hundred-word concept.  In software development, one of the ways we rapidly share expertise is through patterns.  Beyond software, a great example of patterns in practice is the collection of Fearless Change: Patterns for Introducing New Ideas, which creates a vocabulary for driving change leadership.   I also have a post on The Power of Patterns.
  9. Make it a mantra.    According to Wikipedia, a mantra is “a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered capable of ‘creating transformation.’  One of my mantras is, “stand strong when tested.”  Another is, “lead by example.”
  10. Choose your words to use your words.   In nearly every scenario where you say you “HAVE TO” do something, there is really a choice.   The choice may not be attractive, but that’s exactly why you are choosing the choice that you are.  Empower yourself by swapping out more “HAVE TO”s with “CHOOSE TO”s.   You will gradually break the ties that bind you, including your own.

Shape your words, shape your life.

Always remember that YOU are your most important meaning maker in your life.

Choose your words and use your words with skill.

50 Ways To Fuel A Conversation

  1. Be the first to say hello.
  2. Introduce yourself to others.
  3. Take risks and anticipate success.
  4. Remember your sense of humor.
  5. Practice different ways of starting a conversation.
  6. Make an extra effort to remember people’s names.
  7. Ask a person’s name if you’ve forgotten it.
  8. Show curiosity and sincere interest in finding out about others.
  9. Tell others about the important events in your life. Don’t wait for them to draw it out.
  10. Demonstrate that you are listening by restating their comments in another way.
  11. Communicate enthusiasm and excitement about your subjects and life in general.
  12. Go out of your way to try to meet new people wherever you are.
  13. Accept a person’s right to be an individual with different ideas and beliefs.
  14. Let the natural person in you come out when talking with others.
  15. Be able to succinctly tell others – in a few short sentences – what you do.
  16. Reintroduce yourself to someone who is likely to have forgotten your name.
  17. Be ready to tell others something interesting or challenging about what you do.
  18. Be aware of open and closed body language.
  19. Smile, make eye contact, offer a handshake, and go find the approachable person.
  20. Greet people that you see regularly.
  21. Seek common interests, goals, and experiences with the people you meet.
  22. Make an effort to help people if you can.
  23. Let others play the expert.
  24. Be open to answering common ritualistic questions.
  25. Be enthusiastic about other people’s interests.
  26. See that the time is balanced between giving and receiving information.
  27. Be able to speak about a variety of topics and subjects.
  28. Keep up to date on current events and issues that affect our lives.
  29. Be willing to express your feelings, opinions, and emotions to others.
  30. Use “I” when you speak about your own feelings and personal things, rather than ‘you’.
  31. Visually show others that you are enjoying your conversation with them.
  32. Be ready to issue invitations to others to join you for other events/activities to further the relationship.
  33. Find ways to keep in touch with friends and acquaintances you meet.
  34. Seek out others’ opinions.
  35. Look for the positive in those you meet.
  36. Start and end your conversations with the person’s name and handshake or warm greeting.
  37. Take the time to be friendly with your neighbors and coworkers.
  38. Let others know that you would like to get to know them better.
  39. Ask others about things that they have told you in previous conversations.
  40. Listen carefully for free informations.
  41. Be ready to ask open-minded questions to learn more.
  42. Change the topic of conversation when if has run its course.
  43. Always search for the things that really get another excited.
  44. Compliment others about what they are wearing, doing, or saying.
  45. Encourage others to talk to you by sending out positive signals.
  46. Make an effort to see and talk to people you enjoy.
  47. When you tell a story, present the main point first and then add the supporting details.
  48. Include everyone in the group in conversation whenever possible.
  49. Look for signs of boredom or lack of interest from you listener.
  50. Prepare ahead of time for each social or business function.

Children Learn What They Live

If a child lives with criticism,

He learns to condemn.

If a child lives with ridicule,

He learns to be shy.

If a child lives with shame,

He learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance,

He learns to be patient.

If a child lives with encouragement,

He learns confidence.

If a child lives with praise,

He learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with fairness,

He learns justice.

If a child lives with security,

He learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval,

He learns to like himself.

If a child lives with acceptance & friendship,

He learns to find love in the world.